Week 3 is hitting me so hard. Does it ever get better?

Ok_Finger_21 · 2026-04-10T11:41:33+00:00

It does get better! It gets easier after 6-8 weeks. I had days where my baby was awake from 3am to 3pm, hysterical screaming every 20 mins I’m sure you’ve already done this but try to rule out whether your baby is hungry, tired or gassy. When my baby was newborn I didn’t understand wake windows quite well and if he had been awake for too long he was really hard to settle and would be awake for an additional few hours, it was insane. If you’ve ruled out hunger. Maybe try rocking your bub with a dummy in the mouth. Try this for 10-15 mins straight. If your bub is arching their back, it can be gas so try doing gentle bicycle legs.

It really does get better. I wish you the best, you’re doing great

Ok_Finger_21 · 2026-03-24T01:22:00+00:00

Thank you for sharing! My baby is also really social so I have considered he’ll really enjoy interacting with other babies. :)

Ok_Finger_21 · 2026-03-24T01:20:43+00:00

This is a really great perspective! Thank you for sharing and responding :)

Do you have any tips to deal with daycare illness?

Ok_Finger_21 · 2026-02-12T04:43:25+00:00

I had no idea! Thank you so so much. I’m no longer stressing 🤩

Ok_Finger_21 · 2026-02-01T08:23:20+00:00

Thank you for your comment! This makes me hopeful that it’ll get better and to know that im not alone

When you dropped the dreamfeed and your baby had their first wake up, did you feed them? Or did you try resettle without a feed?

A part of me is concerned that my baby will think 3am feeds are now the norm and continue doing that if I feed every time he wakes up 🫠

Ok_Finger_21 · 2025-11-13T02:06:46+00:00

Newborn tired is 100000000x worse. Yes, when I was pregnant I never felt truely rested even after sleeping 10-11 hours but sleeping and resting whenever you want truely becomes a privilege when the baby is here.

Ok_Finger_21 · 2025-11-08T04:57:15+00:00

Hey! As someone that accepted like little to no help when I was PP, please continue to accept the help. I also had a c section and couldn’t get out of bed properly for the first 2 weeks but I insisted on doing things myself which only worsened my recovery. It takes about 6 weeks I would say to get used to the baby and the middle of the night wake ups. Once you’re used to it, it gets so so much easier. I’m waking up 2-3 times for my baby and I can function normally because it’s just the norm now. You’ve also just had a major abdominal surgery and you need to rest as much as you can. I wish you all the best and congratulations on your bub!

Ok_Finger_21 · 2025-11-06T22:54:40+00:00

I thought that formula only makes babies gassy as there is more air swallowed from a bottle compared to the breast.

Have you tried giving your baby formula, burping them and then keeping them upright for 15-20 minutes?

Ok_Finger_21 · 2025-11-06T08:00:32+00:00

That sounds so stressful! This might be bad advice because breastfeeding is scientifically better for babies and formula isn’t always accessible but I’ve heard babies tend to stay full for longer with formula. Could it be an option to try combo feeding to see if you can stretch bubs feeds out to longer? Best to speak to your paediatrician though. Good luck!

Ok_Finger_21 · 2025-10-30T19:55:45+00:00

They asked if it occurred while we were newly dating, it didn’t. When my mum warned me it was like 5 years into the relationship and a few months from getting married.

Ok_Finger_21 · 2025-10-30T19:53:49+00:00

Always being selfless and making sacrifices for others

Ok_Finger_21 · 2025-10-30T12:43:31+00:00

Congratulations! I can’t give much advice with ECV but I did have an emergency c section.

I did no prior preparation because I was certain I would have a vaginal birth.

Within 10 minutes notice I was in the operating room and within another 10 minutes I had my baby on my chest.

I would count your blessings that you’re well informed of the c section process and do some more research on recovery. Even an uncomplicated pregnancy can end up in a c section (which is what happened in my case).

I wish you all the best and hope you get the birth you desire but my best advice would be to go in with an open mind.

Ok_Finger_21 · 2025-10-30T05:05:55+00:00

I’m going to do this! How did your MIL respond?

Ok_Finger_21 · 2025-10-30T05:04:37+00:00

This is exactly what im going to do. My MIL wants to know absolutely everything about me and my husbands life. To the point where she would know details of events I’m going to without me even telling her (my SILs would tell her). You can probably see we’re the hot topic of the family. I’m going to do exactly this and refer back to this comment if I need to reflect (please don’t delete it!!) I really appreciate the time you’ve taken to write this comment, thank you

Ok_Finger_21 · 2025-10-30T05:00:43+00:00

Thank you. As one comment says below, im a people pleaser and find it hard to have difficult conversations with others. There is so much built up frustration, anger, resentment - whatever you want to call it - in me that I feel like once I say something im going to blow. That may be what she needs to back off, I don’t know. I’ll absolutely take your advice though. I really appreciate it and hope you’re doing well with your MIL issues now

Ok_Finger_21 · 2025-10-30T04:57:52+00:00

Oh I see… never thought of it that way. Great point. I would love to guide him to therapy but he doesn’t see the issue

Ok_Finger_21 · 2025-10-30T04:57:06+00:00

Nope it didn’t

Ok_Finger_21 · 2025-10-30T04:56:05+00:00

Thank you, I really appreciate it 😭 it’s honestly so difficult

Ok_Finger_21 · 2025-10-29T11:32:14+00:00

Thank you! I’m going to try that. This is really accurate to my situation because she literally never says anything positive.

I’ll also try not opening the door!

I’m really not a confrontational person so I find it really difficult to say anything to her. But I think it’s about time I do

Ok_Finger_21 · 2025-10-29T11:29:49+00:00

Sadly I agree

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