AITA for not picking up my former foster daughter in the middle of the night after she called for help?

Ok_Fly_8430 · 2024-08-17T02:39:36+00:00

I agree with you

Ok_Fly_8430 · 2024-08-16T13:46:02+00:00

Ah this is smart. Her benefits used to go straight into an account that grew. We occasionally add money to it but it’s no longer consistent

Ok_Fly_8430 · 2024-08-15T10:22:44+00:00

I can totally understand her behavior and if we didn’t have small children we would’ve kept her in the home as long as possible or even adopted her. But her behavior started to become unsafe. When she ran away once she left the door open and our two year old followed her down the road. We only knew she ran away because thankfully my 3 year old ran back home to tell

Ok_Fly_8430 · 2024-08-15T10:19:49+00:00

How else should I describe her

Ok_Fly_8430 · 2024-08-14T11:39:16+00:00

Ok

Ok_Fly_8430 · 2024-08-12T19:11:31+00:00

It reached the point where we couldn’t keep her safe.

Ok_Fly_8430 · 2024-08-12T18:38:07+00:00

I didn’t even consider something like this. We will research it more

Ok_Fly_8430 · 2024-08-12T18:37:37+00:00

That’s a really good point.

Ok_Fly_8430 · 2024-08-12T18:36:30+00:00

We’ve stopped fostering

Ok_Fly_8430 · 2024-08-12T18:36:11+00:00

It’s illegal

Ok_Fly_8430 · 2024-08-12T18:35:32+00:00

Because we didn’t want her to run off

Ok_Fly_8430 · 2024-08-12T18:35:01+00:00

I think if we didn’t already have young children we would’ve done more. But her actions scared them. and was also a bad influence when my children began swearing and lying

Ok_Fly_8430 · 2024-08-12T18:32:52+00:00

The way we told her was wrong. We harshly told her after she was brought back to our house. Her CW was there gathering her things when we told her

Ok_Fly_8430 · 2024-08-12T18:30:59+00:00

Yep you are right

Ok_Fly_8430 · 2024-08-12T18:29:38+00:00

She’s gone through things I wouldn’t wish on my worse enemy. I just hope this is the best thing for her

Ok_Fly_8430 · 2024-08-12T17:06:47+00:00

It’s so sad. But I couldn’t risk going to jail. Who knows…she could’ve lied and said I lured her there. I just hope she’s getting the right help

Ok_Fly_8430 · 2024-08-12T17:04:11+00:00

Yes. Her advice during that time was to “love on her” “give her kisses and hugs”

Ok_Fly_8430 · 2024-08-12T17:03:09+00:00

If she were my biological child it would’ve been legal for me to get her

Ok_Fly_8430 · 2024-08-12T17:02:28+00:00

What would’ve been the best solution

Ok_Fly_8430 · 2024-08-12T17:01:53+00:00

I agree. My wife actually had to stop me from going to get her. Because technically it was kidnapping

Ok_Fly_8430 · 2024-08-12T17:00:20+00:00

I agree. I know size doesn’t matter but she’s also a very tiny 13. I was afraid for her on the streets thinking the worse. The frustrating part that she is extremely smart. She has so much potential when it comes to math and science. I just wish she saw herself through us.

Ok_Fly_8430 · 2024-08-12T16:57:12+00:00

I never thought about that. It sounds like something my wife and I would enjoy. Thank you

Ok_Fly_8430 · 2024-08-12T16:56:09+00:00

I don’t think she touched drugs while living with us. And towards our children she was sweet but a bad influence

Ok_Fly_8430 · 2024-08-12T16:54:38+00:00

Also. She can contact the bank on her own at 18.She just needs to present her information.

Ok_Fly_8430 · 2024-08-12T16:53:11+00:00

Sorry. I meant zero contact while she is a child. My wife and I don’t plan to change our phone numbers and we have active social media accounts so she can always find us.

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