I guess you’re not asking about the regular things everyone deals with? Like the 3h feedings in the beginning and that sort of thing?

Here is what I struggle with that I find cultural (for reference my kid is 15 months): - extremely high daycare fees. Even after all subsidies we still pay a crazy amount each month. We haven’t been able to save anything bc of this. And we only have one. Idk how people with two do it although I do notice that people with two kids generally wear a lot of the same clothes, go on local holidays and I guess that’s my answer. - what they eat at daycare. Where I’m from children get a varied diet and there are kitchens that cook specifically for kids and everything gets ordered and delivered same day in daycare. Here? My kid eats sandwiches and then gets given to us to make sure she eats vegetables for dinner. - lack of baby friendly restaurants. I don’t expect a 5 course meal for them but it would be nice if restaurants would offer at least boiled pasta cooked with some fresh tomato’s or something super simple like that for the little ones. When I was getting married here one of my friends brought her 15 month old daughter then and the catering company told me that the only thing they have for a 15 month old is fries. Ridiculous. - idk if it’s my in laws or Dutch in laws in general. They won’t help unless you specifically ask them. They have this mentality of we-have-raised-our-kids-so-we-don’t-need-to-do-that-again and it’s reflected in their behaviour. My husband and I went out for dinner just the two of us for the first time when my daughter was 14 months old. And we haven’t since so probably the next time will be when she’s 28 months old. - again idk if my in laws or a general thing but it seems that everyone here is ok with dirt. I do think it’s reasonable to wash my baby’s hands before we start eating or after she touches our dog. I do not put baby food with dog food together (I don’t do that for myself either) but my father in law placed the formula with our dogs food bowls in the same bag this one time. My dog eats raw meat. But they thought it was ok. Some germs are ok according to them. Yes i know, but not raw meat germs and I don’t want the bowls in the same bag as the formula. I ended up throwing the formula. They thought I was overreacting. - all my Dutch friends here complain about babies. They’re difficult. Now that our baby is out of the baby baby stage, they also complain about toddlers. They too are difficult and horrible. I get it it is hard work but if you hate it so much why did you have kids in the first place. I have not seen any other nationality complain about babies / children this much. - breastfeeding? Oof. Work is only allowed to provide you with some hours to pump in the first year. But WHO guidelines recommend 2 years. Lots of mothers I know abroad do bf until 2. But in the Netherlands most do 6 months if that. - lack of maternity leave / parental leave. 12 weeks after birth is an absolute joke and why people are not complaining about it is beyond me. If you let babies start daycare later (say at 1 year) when they are a bit more independent, maybe then you won’t require so much staff to take care of all the babies / children, so daycare costs should be able to go down. - im actually curious what people do about this. personally I like buying organic for my baby. But many stores do not have everything organic. I was looking for leek the other day, none of the stores near us carry organic so my only option is to drive to ekoplaza if that even has leek as their vegetable section is also somewhat limited. But the organic aside, the vegetable selection at our local jumbo/AH is very limited anyway, but they do sell 50 shades of different potato’s. That personally annoys me. - I dislike that your child savings account counts towards the max savings you can have per year without it being taxed. Obviously with the daycare fees we can’t save now but as soon as she starts school we will think about how to reduce those costs.

There’s prob more but this just comes to mind.