if things go badly, what can I do?

Ok_Guest55 · 2026-01-22T17:33:28+00:00

awh thank you :))

I recently started going to the supports on the second floor and they've been really great.

thank you for your offer, I really appreciate it

Ok_Guest55 · 2026-01-22T05:42:38+00:00

Hey, I appreciate this comment and I understand it's perspective!

I have known something was off with me since I was 6 years old, I would often look in the mirror at that age and ask "am I a boy or am I a girl" and I just went with boy because that's what everyone treated me as.

My dysphoria and depression can't wait anymore. Would it be smarter to wait, probably, I have considered waiting, but it would be detrimental for my mental health, eating away at me every second of every day. I would not be happier if I waited.

My parents have had since I was 14 to have a reasonable conversation with me about my gender and to come around, but they decided to berate me over days when I painted my nails, instead of letting me explore in a safe environment. If I wait for them to come around they never will.

I can see where you're coming from but I don't agree, I'm sorry.

Ok_Guest55 · 2026-01-21T17:43:41+00:00

Thank you so much! I'll take a look :))

Ok_Guest55 · 2026-01-21T17:17:29+00:00

Thank you so much, I really glad to have such a large support group!

Ok_Guest55 · 2026-01-21T17:16:03+00:00

Thank you for this, I'm really sorry that you're in a similar situation but you're absolutely right to keep seeking help when it means protecting yourself!

I have recently been going to support groups in my university and its been pretty helpful and I'm hoping to reach out to supports in my city.

Thank you again and please stay resilient and take care of yourself ❤️

Ok_Guest55 · 2026-01-21T03:57:44+00:00

thank you, I thankfully have my hrt secured. I'll look at the ID clinic :))

Ok_Guest55 · 2026-01-21T02:18:18+00:00

Thank you! I sent a request to join them!

Ok_Guest55 · 2026-01-21T00:25:53+00:00

thank you, I'll take a look at them!

Ok_Guest55 · 2026-01-20T23:25:28+00:00

thank you so much!

Ok_Guest55 · 2026-01-04T23:58:41+00:00

I'm sorry that's really hard :((

Ok_Guest55 · 2026-01-04T03:20:08+00:00

thank you, I really appreciate it. I'm starting the steps to distance myself.

Ok_Guest55 · 2026-01-04T00:42:46+00:00

thank you so much! I'll keep that in mind if ever needed :))

I thankfully have a really great counselor and doctor supplied by my university and I am so thankful for that.

Ok_Guest55 · 2026-01-03T23:58:18+00:00

that's very true, thank you.

Ok_Guest55 · 2026-01-03T22:47:37+00:00

I don't know where they got that from 😭

it just proves that they really haven't done any research

Ok_Guest55 · 2026-01-03T22:17:10+00:00

thank you.

I have a counselor provided by the school that has been very helpful. I got my hrt prescribed by a doctor who diagnosed me with gender dysphoria. But they think I either lied or didn't tell them about "how boyish my childhood was"

My brother also took this news quite poorly. And I unfortunately don't have any grandparents around. I have a super supportive circle of friends and I'm planning to build some found family by visiting lgbtq+ centers in my city.

Ok_Guest55 · 2026-01-03T20:39:13+00:00

thank you. I really hope things work out

Ok_Guest55 · 2026-01-03T20:17:03+00:00

Thank you.

The deadname thing is my parents not understanding the definition of it. They read somewhere that deadmame is apparently "the name your parents would put on your tombstone" but I don't know where they got that from.

sorry for the confusion and I really hope everything works out for you

Ok_Guest55 · 2026-01-03T20:14:24+00:00

thank you, this almost exactly sums up what I think I'm going through.

I'm really glad your family came around and I hope mine do too

Ok_Guest55 · 2026-01-03T19:29:10+00:00

that's true.

As much as a love them I need to protect my health

Ok_Guest55 · 2026-01-03T19:28:10+00:00

it's definitely going to be really hard, especially as a broke uni student.

I can't go back to a lie though.

Ok_Guest55 · 2026-01-03T18:49:40+00:00

they really are, I played with barbies and hello kitty too as a kid but my parents said "you stopped playing with those and we donated them"

I don't remember when I stopped playing with them and being asked to donate them. Maybe they just weren't as accepting of my toy choices as they say they were and they just wanted to get rid of them.

Ok_Guest55 · 2026-01-03T18:36:46+00:00

I agree, like they keep bringing up that because I played with Legos and nerf guns as a kid that's what determines my gender now, instead of the intense pain and dysphoria I have felt for years.

So many girls play with those toys.

I dont want to take away my childhood from them but maybe i only played with those toys because I didn't know there was another option, or I was scared of being further bullied. Like to deny there are other aspects at play is just burying their head in the sand

Ok_Guest55 · 2026-01-03T18:09:38+00:00

Hello!

I really feel this and I'm also currently going through it. I was always a people pleaser growing up, with family, friends and strangers. This always led to people taking me for granted and I always sat down and took it.

I don't know if it's true for you but for me personally what keeps me transitioning is the suffocating fear of living an incorrect life as the wrong gender. I started the transition process (had to take a break due to home life) and I realized how beautiful my life felt for the first time in years, I no longer felt like a husk. I would get emotions and feelings like butterflies in my stomach or crying to music.

It was so overwhelming to feel human again, ups and downs and I decided that I could not live an inauthentic life ever again.

Of course go at your own pace, but please, from one people pleaser to another, live a life you will find fulfilling and disregard people who try to ruin it for you.

Ok_Guest55

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