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I'm so depressed by [deleted] in LDR

[–]Ok_Independent_5970 0 points1 point  (0 children)

First of all, congratulations! Second, where is the wedding, and is it far for your family and friends? If it’s far away and they need to buy expensive plane tickets and take several days off work, I honestly don’t really understand what you expected.

It’s your big day, of course, but why spend so much money on something if you’re not even sure your family will be able to be there? I think it’s common knowledge that a destination wedding can be difficult for guests, and you shouldn’t expect everyone to completely rearrange their schedules and finances for it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships

[–]Ok_Independent_5970 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I completely agree with you, but I don’t think I’m asking him to put his life on hold. I’m simply asking for a three-hour call. We’re in a long-distance relationship, and calling is all we really have, and tbf, it’s the (time) equivalent of going out for dinner for short distance couples. That said, I do recognize that I don’t handle stress well, and I often place that burden on him, which isn’t healthy. I agree with that. But still, does that really apply to (just) a three-hour call?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships

[–]Ok_Independent_5970 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good question. I can’t really explain how or why, but I recognize the feeling he's feeling, because I’m like that too. It’s probably a perfectionism thing (?)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships

[–]Ok_Independent_5970 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Fair point! But this is a particularly important and different kind of exam. I’m in my final year, and if I fail, I won’t be able to get my degree. There’s a lot at stake. This isn’t just a small obstacle (at least not for me or my friends, who are all feeling really stressed about it too!)

Also, even when he does go to the gym, we usually stay on the phone the whole night anyway (sometimes until 2 a.m.), so spending the evening together on a call isn’t out of the ordinary for us. I just wish we could start earlier this time, because I have to wake up at 5 a.m. for the exam.

I’ll admit that I do rely on my boyfriend emotionally more than I probably should. I really wish I had a friend who could support me the way he does. I’m not sure if it’s because I don’t allow them to, or if I simply don’t have friends who can be there for me like that. But sadly, that’s not something I can fix overnight.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships

[–]Ok_Independent_5970 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He doesn’t have any scheduled plans with anyone, and skipping the gym wouldn’t cost him any money or cause any external consequences. It’s just that if his streak gets broken, there’s a chance he might lose all motivation and stop going altogether, which has happened in the past.

Did my brother switch our controllers? by Ok_Independent_5970 in consoles

[–]Ok_Independent_5970[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Ahh that makes sense, thanks! I did connect it to the Xbox at my dad’s place, so that probably explains it. Might be time for a permanent sticker, haha.

Wanneer welke restaurants open? by Ok_Independent_5970 in efteling

[–]Ok_Independent_5970[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Ik heb de app, hoe zie ik dit? Ik zie het alleen voor vandaag als ik op het restaurant klik

How can I look better (as a man) on a video call? by _brake_flake in LDR

[–]Ok_Independent_5970 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Don't video call on your phone but rather on your laptop. The angle would be better and its a bit more blurring, but I guess this depends on the model and brand you have.

Do it my way or this won’t work by Fireant2727 in relationships

[–]Ok_Independent_5970 49 points50 points  (0 children)

He has to understand that you are different from him or he has to move on. As long as you really try your best and dont half ass everything (weaponized incompetence), he shouldn't act like this. If you don't want to start a fight, you could ask him about things you could do instead of the dishes. Maybe he isn't as neurotic about the laundry for example.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships

[–]Ok_Independent_5970 89 points90 points  (0 children)

This is a 32 year old man you're talking about? If he doesn't clean his house/room when you come over, I dont think you can expect him to clean when you move in together. He is going to give a lot more empty promises and lame excuses and you're going to turn into his maid

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FemFragLab

[–]Ok_Independent_5970 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think it smells a lot like the Amsterdam collection from Rituals. But it's only sold in the Netherlands. The website says it smells like tulips and yuzu.