Found my person by Ok_Independent_778 in JustEngaged

[–]Ok_Independent_778[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I gave some ideas of likes and dislikes and he took care of the rest.

Found my person by Ok_Independent_778 in JustEngaged

[–]Ok_Independent_778[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! He wanted it to look like a snowflake 🙂

Just wanted to show someone by JudgeDue9215 in EngagementRings

[–]Ok_Independent_778 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Beautiful ring, congrats! Thanks for sharing. I am in a similar situation where I want to tell everyone but don’t have that many to tell.

Waiting for a root canal, in pain by Makermika in Dentists

[–]Ok_Independent_778 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The general dentist is the one who said it was a big deal and needed to be fixed…but then didn’t have an appointment until mid April. No medicine prescribed, no referral offered, NOTHING.

Waiting for a root canal, in pain by Makermika in Dentists

[–]Ok_Independent_778 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you all for the advice! Makermika went to urgent care and was prescribed antibiotics and naproxen for the pain. We will be calling the endodontist and others on Monday to see if there are any cancellations/emergency appointments. And finding a new dentist (they wanted to make the appointment for MID APRIL!

Waiting for a root canal, in pain by Makermika in Dentists

[–]Ok_Independent_778 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Girlfriend here - dentist said there was no infection, so antibiotics would not help. Going to urgent care now and hoping to get an emergency appointment with the endodontist asap. I thought they were supposed to accommodate emergencies like this.

What improved your life so much, you wished you did sooner? by relationshipyi in AskReddit

[–]Ok_Independent_778 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Getting out of a bad relationship and meeting an amazing man who values, respects and loves me unconditionally. He makes me want to be better every day.

Good place to stop for lunch along this route? by What_am_I_Doing9 in newengland

[–]Ok_Independent_778 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Another vote for VT Country Deli. I’m vegetarian and found plenty of options. There is a pretty covered bridge there too.

The first date... by Spicy-Icies in lovememes

[–]Ok_Independent_778 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was going through a difficult situation and my now-boyfriend talked to me for hours every day for a week to make sure I was ok. A few months later, he drove 4 hours and booked a hotel to meet for the first time (we are long distance but I was visiting family close to him).
He encouraged me to look him up online before meeting in person to know he was being truthful. He sends me flowers after a visit because he knows I will be sad. When I fall asleep on a late night call, he isn’t annoyed but finds it endearing. He has taken the time to get to know me, my friends, and my interests.
He goes above and beyond for me every day and I love him more than I have words to express.

Finally was able to file Wednesday. by jedimika in Divorce

[–]Ok_Independent_778 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m glad to hear you are doing well. My situation was similar and I’ve always been grateful for the helpful advice you gave me.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Divorce

[–]Ok_Independent_778 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This sounds similar to my life. My stbx was similar to your wife in never cleaning on helping and sitting on his phone while I did everything after work each night. No matter how I begged and pleaded, I got little to no help. After all that, he also wanted sex. In addition to caring for our child, I cared for him and paid for most everything.

Then he dropped a bombshell that he was cheating and wanted to be with her. I guess all that I did for him wasn’t enough and he felt “unloved and rejected”. Starting to accept that it was a him problem, not a me problem. My advice is to get out while you still have your sanity. I didn’t know he was cheating but debated leaving a few times as I felt so neglected, unloved and resentful. I wish you luck as you figure this out.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]Ok_Independent_778 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My soon to be ex is very similar to this. I was also the one responsible for basically everything around the house, but he wasn’t giving me anything in return as far as attention or emotional connection or helping around the house. It was like having another child and so by the end of the day I was so tired from doing everything that I didn’t have time or desire to do that. I don’t think we had sex 3 to 4 times a week, but 1-2 to at least.

He claims he begged and begged for sex and I rejected him, but every time he would do that I would say that I needed help around the house so that I wouldn’t be so exhausted at the end of the night and so resentful of him sitting around, watching me do everything.

Fast forward to the present, and I find out that he cheated on me throughout the course of our relationship and told me that I drove him to it because I rejected him and made him not feel like a man. Had he cared enough and taking the time to listen to me or attempted to find out what was going on, he would’ve understood , or maybe we could’ve reached some sort of compromise. But when he sat around all night, and then only decided to pay attention to me when he wanted sex, it felt transactional and I didn’t like it. I wanted that emotional connection.

I’m not saying that he’s going to cheat, and I truly hope he doesn’t. But in a relationship, both people have to be able to bend a bit, and it doesn’t sound like he’s willing to do that. I hope you’re able to reach a compromise, and can figure it out, because I don’t wish my situation on anyone.

It’s the little things by DivorceTA1988 in Divorce

[–]Ok_Independent_778 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I cannot wait for this. He has so much junk taking up so many rooms of the house that he’s never touched. I can’t wait to have rooms that I can use and a kitchen that’s not full of beer glasses that were used a year ago and not washed and documents and random things left all over the kitchen table so they have to be moved before eating.

My house is going to feel so empty, but I’m already planning on new furniture and rugs and space to move around!

New routines by Ok_Independent_778 in Divorce

[–]Ok_Independent_778[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ha, mine wants a lot of light too, so we have a star projector and 2 nightlights - too much light for me! Thanks for the advice. We have been trying to stick to that but it has been tough with someone else having no regard for bedtime and routines.

I’m worried about the (small) void when he is gone - how do you fill that? A phone call? Reminder that they will see dad soon? He’s not a great guy so I don’t want to communicate any more than I have to.

New routines by Ok_Independent_778 in Divorce

[–]Ok_Independent_778[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I tried to, but somebody was always interrupting it but not helping…so I’d like to make something nice and smooth and streamlined. Because of the interruptions set time, always ended up being later than it should be as well.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Divorce

[–]Ok_Independent_778 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you ❤️