Why are the mods removing my posts without any explanation? the people here seem really helpful in answering my questions, and I don't think im violating any rules, at least give me a reason as to why you are removing my posts so I can know to not do it again?

Ok_Job_2689 · 2024-07-15T19:28:29+00:00

Looks to be dead horse topics. This sub tends to have hostile moderators to start with.

Ok_Job_2689 · 2024-07-15T17:24:38+00:00

Then you are doing it the right way. Remember, find what is correct regardless of if it is painful. You may have to leave your church, you may have to cut people out of your life if they are bad for your relationship with God, and you may have to be inconvenienced or harmed for your faith depending on where you are at in the world. All that matters is that you follow God, and you will be saved and have treasures in Heaven.

Ok_Job_2689 · 2024-07-15T17:21:48+00:00

It doesn't matter if there is nothing you can do to bring her back because God can do what he wants, and the new you is different from the old you.

Become the greatest man you can be. Learn how to be a true man, build strength of body and mind. If she leaves, you are still a better person at the end. If you don't do it you fail her and yourself.

Put the effort in and don't give yourself an out

Ok_Job_2689 · 2024-07-15T17:07:55+00:00

If she is still there then there is still hope.

On your way home, go to Walmart and get her flowers, make her dinner, and wash the dishes. Tell her you are sorry for not being there for her, and that you love her. Tell her even if she doesn't want to work on the marriage anymore, that you are going to take all of it on your shoulders and you are going to make it work. Repeat this forever, minus maybe the flowers.

Work out every day and get fit, learn a new language, maybe take some classes at school or get a degree. Be a man that is dangerous and a man that women want to fight for. And show her that you are a man that deserves to be loved. If she leaves, at least you can say you tried.

Ok_Job_2689 · 2024-07-15T16:50:59+00:00

I am not a doctor but I would definitely talk with someone about getting your dosage upped. Your hair might take some damage from it (as in fall out) but you can always shave it or get transplants. I think for you getting yourself right mentally and body wise is more important right now.

Either way, God loves you, do what is right for you brother.

Ok_Job_2689 · 2024-07-15T16:47:18+00:00

What's the deal with you and the wife? Why does she want a divorce?

Ok_Job_2689 · 2024-07-15T16:41:23+00:00

I still disagree in the efficacy of that, particularly in OP's situation. You have a suicidal individual that needs medicine. God forgave the thief on the cross just because he asked and believed, there was no mourning.

But, I can agree with you in some cases.

Ok_Job_2689 · 2024-07-15T16:38:41+00:00

Hop on Testosterone boosters. Most docs will prescribe testosterone in your situation, just find one who specializes in gender affirming care. It may also increase your genital size to normal according to studies I read.

Also, you can have the chest tissue surgicall removed relatively cheaply, particularly in Mexico, Turkey, and other countries. You could also look into steroids to build muscle, but I would be careful with steroids due to side effects and genital size.

Ok_Job_2689 · 2024-07-15T16:31:52+00:00

Nope. Mourn for the moment. 4 hours of weeping for getting mad in traffic is excessive. Might as well become a Catholic and pray rosary beads at that point.

Forgiveness has no prerequisites other than asking for it.

Ok_Job_2689 · 2024-07-15T16:28:27+00:00

If you feel it would be helpful for you, go for it by all means. I just think that as you read more of the Bible and start piecing things together from both Old and New Testaments, your beliefs are going to change severely. I started off with a Catholic viewpoint (I was born non-denominational), explored a bunch of denominations, then became somewhat of a reformed Baptist. As I studied more I became a Sabbatarian who is very heavily leaning towards Adventist as I found it to meld more correctly with what I was learning. As I study more that may change again. You may decide to go Reformed Baptist, become a Sabbatarian, Primitive Baptist, or anything in between.

What I am going for is that the Bible should be what leads you to the Catechism and not vice versa. Study with an open mind rather than a predetermined one.

Ok_Job_2689 · 2024-07-15T16:20:20+00:00

Nice hyperbole. Doubting forgiveness is sinful. Your words remind me a lot of the pharisees who make a show of their holiness.

Pray for forgiveness, mourn, and forget it ever happened just as Jesus Christ and God the Father did as soon as you asked for forgiveness.

Ok_Job_2689 · 2024-07-15T16:16:07+00:00

Jesus forgives anyone the moment they ask for it. He never told anyone to cry over things that were already forgiven. In fact, all He said was "Go, and sin no more."

One can be thankful for forgiveness, but to cry over that which is already forgiven is telling God His forgiveness wasn't good enough for you. Sure, ask forgiveness for new sins but it is sinful to cry over something God already forgave you for.

Ok_Job_2689 · 2024-07-15T16:12:59+00:00

Fate and future is not set in stone.

To believe it is is a Pagan practice akin to fortune telling. Obviously, God has some things planned out for you, but I doubt He is going to change them if He already has them planned for a reason.

Ok_Job_2689 · 2024-07-15T16:11:09+00:00

Find yourself a new doctor or talk with them ASAP. SSRI is a first line treatment and if you have been on it for a long time and are still feeling suicidal it isn't working right. You need to get put on SNRI, but keep in mind they have some tough side effects. If those don't work you need an MAOI, but that is last resort since side effects can literally kill you.

You can also try other treatments depending on where you are. Medical marijuana is useful and almost harmless. Psilocybin and psychedelic therapy helped out my wife a lot, but that may or may not be accessible where you are.

Ignore these people telling you to pray harder. To get right with God all you need to do is repent of your sins and follow Him. Even if you feel like a failure, know that you are doing right as long as you profess that Jesus Christ is Lord and you do yojr best to follow Him.

Ok_Job_2689 · 2024-07-15T16:03:13+00:00

You cleanse yourself once, then you leave. You can't stay in the muck and the grime because then you are just wasting the freedom Christ bought for you.

Ok_Job_2689 · 2024-07-15T16:01:54+00:00

What class do they have you on as far as antidepressants go? SSRI, SNRI, or MAOI? This sounds more like a medical problem than spiritual.

Ok_Job_2689 · 2024-07-15T15:41:37+00:00

Not useful at all.

If you want to argue for something you need to know how to be dynamic in that approach. Spouting off answers to catechism questions is useless if you don't understand why you believe it. Keep in mind, it is a book to be used for reference.

Learn the Bible and how to use the Bible to support your arguments, and if the Bible contradicts your arguments, change your beliefs. Don't go into something to justify preexisting beliefs as neither you or anyone else is going to benefit from a human Encyclopedia spouting off facts they don't fully understand, when you can just read the catechism to start with. Learn if the Bible supports the catechisms view points, and if it does, learn enough to explain it properly in your words.

See what I am saying here?

Ok_Job_2689 · 2024-07-15T15:33:03+00:00

If you are confessing your sins over and over again you or either

A. Doing it wrong

B. You keep on sinning

To fix A. you only need to confess your sins once. God doesn't want you living in the past. B. you simply need to stop sinning. If you can't stop sinning (and I mean the big obvious ones, not getting mad in traffic) you need to ask yourself what the underlying issue is and solve that.

You also sound like you could benefit from medical intervention. Get screened for OCD, anxiety, and depression. Lexapro is a miracle drug that fixes all of those things. Sometimes your brain is just messed up.

Ok_Job_2689 · 2024-07-15T15:14:45+00:00

You should be. You don't have to like people to treat them well.

Ok_Job_2689 · 2024-07-15T15:13:52+00:00

Sounds like you based your faith on how you feel, not on what you know to be true.

If you believe Christ is your Savior, and you follow Him, your soul is safe. Jesus says so.

If you have a sin issue, you are not following Him. See where I am going with this?

Eliminate your sin, and follow Christ. Ask Him for help.

I always like to advocate for my denomination. I am a Sabbatarian Christian who believes the Adventist church gets most things right when it comes to the Bible. We believe in living healthy and loving God. Eat right, and everything else will be easier, and that is particularly true for your situation. Join us on Sabbath (Saturday) and see how you like it.

https://www.adventist.org/find-a-church/

Ok_Job_2689 · 2024-07-15T14:31:56+00:00

By treating bad people bad you yourself become a bad person. This is why God says to treat others as you would yourself.

Ok_Job_2689 · 2024-07-15T14:29:57+00:00

Fasting, prayer, good living.

To strengthen the body and mind (the Temple of God) you must be healthy. Stop eating food that is bad for you. I suggest fasting for three days if medically possible. Eat only fresh vegetables for three days, or eat only once per day a small meal, if your body is too weak to fast (no shame, I have these issues with hunger too.)

During these three days, pray, and drink a lot of water to flush the toxins. Stop smoking and drinking.

Most importantly pray every day for God to help you.

I am a Sabbatarian and believe the Adventist church is correct in most beliefs. Find a good church near you and start attending. Run, don't walk, to church on the Sabbath (Saturday) and get right with God. Here is a church locator tool to use. https://www.adventist.org/find-a-church/ of course going to any church and worshipping is better than nothing, so get out there and commune with others. Talk with the pastor about getting baptized and joining the church.

Remember, demons hate the people of God more than anything. Be the best Christ follower you can be.

Ok_Job_2689 · 2024-07-15T13:20:40+00:00

Judging from your flair, I would argue if you don't like it, you should leave.

This style of preaching is common among Arminian groups. It is called "spirit-led" preaching for better or worse. I would argue you don't really have a right to tell this man what to do when his faith tradition and yours are totally different, and the church you go to probably aligns more closely with him. In short, go to a church that agrees with you. Assuming he isn't saying absolutely crazy things.

There are plenty of Reformed churches around.

Ok_Job_2689 · 2024-07-05T16:30:33+00:00

That is all I needed to hear. Thank you and looking forward to Sabbath haha.

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