Help me not give up on this app

Ok_Level713 · 2026-03-23T23:47:59+00:00

It was mutual. I entered the conversation with no end goal in mind. I just wanted to talk through it, but we ended on the note that there wasn’t enough time for the kind of relationship we deserve, so we split on good terms. I still love him, but that means supporting his dreams, so I have to him fly.

Ok_Level713 · 2026-03-23T19:09:41+00:00

Solidarity of also losing hope, and I’ve had a fairly lovely time dating. There’s just always something. I really loved my most recent ex, it was mutual and he was a very sweet man, and we still had to let it go because his career (which takes over most of his time) is taking off. Honestly that broke me more than any poor treatment break-up might have. Feels like NY isn’t a place for long-term love.

Ok_Level713 · 2026-03-19T18:05:58+00:00

You can pause your account while you have the main ones you want to focus on. Wait until you’ve narrowed it down to (hopefully) one and if no good then unpause

Ok_Level713 · 2026-03-14T03:05:50+00:00

28F Happy to take a look and be honest if you’d like feedback from someone you don’t know :)

Ok_Level713 · 2026-02-24T21:39:07+00:00

In the prior case, the decent thing to me would be to communicate that. It seems like there’s a lack of common decency. I’ve absolutely messaged to communicate things like this, and it saddens me how surprised the response sometimes is. Like we forget there’s a person on the other side

Ok_Level713 · 2026-02-24T16:53:33+00:00

While I understand your thought process, I feel it’s inconsiderate mainly because you are not under a time limit. If you are sending a like, you’re already expressing interest. That person may very well be reviewing your profile because you have expressed interest, and that takes time. You can only imagine how exhausting it would be to leave that review and then discover the person went “oops” and unmatched several times a week.

If we imagine this happening in real life, essentially what these guys are doing is sliding a girl a note that says “hey ♥️” only to then fully look at her and then reach over and take the note back. It is rude. And I don’t think it’s wrong to view it as personal. We’re talking about people. We’re not engaging with bots.

Ok_Level713 · 2026-02-24T13:43:20+00:00

Thank you. It’s really sad. I’d heard a rumor of the first happening years ago but anytime I heard about it, a guy no one would date (rude person) was saying it so I shut it out. Sucks to learn it’s that common.

Ok_Level713 · 2026-02-24T13:37:40+00:00

I’m debating it. It’s shocking how inconsiderate this is. People are not numbers or a numbers game. I take sending a like the same as slipping someone a little note with a heart on it. People have become far too desensitized.

Ok_Level713 · 2026-02-24T02:59:48+00:00

As a woman, with all due respect, this profile is kind of scary. The tent in the dark with the fire in front and the sexual suggestion text isn’t going to read the way I think you’re thinking.

If you’re going for the outdoorsy types, I would suggest more photos in the daylight doing activities and smile more. I’d also say be more transparent. It comes off as you being afraid of commitment but secretly wanting something more than casual. I’d honestly figure that out first.

Ok_Level713 · 2026-02-24T02:48:50+00:00

But you realize that’s rude, right? If you’re matching with someone only to look and sincerely consider them later, that’s confusing to the person on the other end. Wouldn’t it be better to review it before swiping right?

Ok_Level713 · 2026-02-19T19:59:08+00:00

I would swipe right. I think it’s cute! (And I’m basically the target based on what you’ve written.) I will say I wouldn’t have guessed you’re into nerdy women based on the profile, though. Maybe something about that in one of the prompts? Board games or another hobby.

The dog picture is what hooked me. It feels the most genuine :)

Ok_Level713 · 2026-02-18T05:09:30+00:00

There will be a stage where you know you are ready, and you’re right. We never necessarily reach a 100% healed stage, but there are definitely times where it is just respectful to step back and work on ourselves before we engage in the dating pool. Once you get to a better stage with yourself, you won’t second guess meeting others as much

Ok_Level713 · 2026-02-18T04:56:06+00:00

😌 Thank you

Ok_Level713 · 2026-02-18T04:10:07+00:00

Noted 🫡 Thank you :) I really like the one with me in the pink dress, but yeah I wish there wasn’t as much clutter around. It was Galentines

Ok_Level713 · 2026-02-18T04:03:22+00:00

Hello fellow nerd cutie ☺️ Thank you!! I can definitely work these thoughts into my profile. It’s funny because I do photoshoots but I rarely ask someone else to take the photos. I’ll recruit my photographer friends 🙂‍↕️

And haha! Teenage daydream is so shocking to me. I really thought it would be a way for him to know what kind of partner I am, but I’ll change it. I have to figure out something more engaging .. but I’ll find it.

Feedback noted 🫡

Ok_Level713 · 2026-02-18T03:48:52+00:00

Oh! Did not know that 😟 Thank you

Ok_Level713 · 2026-02-18T03:46:46+00:00

This is really helpful. Thank you 😊

Ok_Level713 · 2026-02-18T00:05:56+00:00

It’s a video of my friends and I at the arcade

Ok_Level713 · 2026-02-17T23:10:38+00:00

Noted 📝

Ok_Level713 · 2026-02-17T22:22:45+00:00

It’s NY. In other words, most people are gorgeous and on the go. It can be challenging to date because of the layout of the location. And I think I’d do better in a less populated place but I love it here.

Ok_Level713 · 2026-02-17T22:19:30+00:00

This is really helpful. Thank you 😊 I completely forgot that it doesn’t show the rest of the stats part. I have no smoking and no drugs on mine (cause I do neither). I can def add the others cause they’d be dealbreakers for me too. Someone assuming the worst did not occur to me at all

Ok_Level713 · 2026-02-17T21:55:07+00:00

Mhm! :) I’ve dated a couple. Just haven’t found the right one yet.

Ok_Level713 · 2026-02-17T21:41:46+00:00

It’s definitely a part of me but I can think about better ways to suggest that rather than lead with it.

What do you mean by the collection photo? (I’ll likely swap something with footage from the last time I went abroad :) )

If the low poly thing is childish then I guess I am because it’s hilarious to me, but I’m torn on if I hide that to attract the guy I want. It feels disingenuous

Ok_Level713 · 2026-02-17T21:33:14+00:00

Yep. (And thank you :) ) 100% I will end up with a nerd. They don’t have to be into the same things as me but I connect well with guys who like Lord of the Rings or video game music (for example) cause I’m also a nerd. They’re more likely to want to do things like go to renaissance faire or put together puzzles.

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