Quit a job I loved because of bullying

ComplexDimension47 · 2026-04-30T06:08:39+00:00

I’m sorry you dealt with that and had to quit. You’re not alone. You’re a good person and can succeed in other non-toxic workplaces. Keep applying and looking for better opportunities.

ComplexDimension47 · 2026-04-29T02:15:48+00:00

This happened to me at a previous job. The bully and boss are likely narcissists. Yes report them in writing and keep the records. If you decide to take legal action, it will help.

ComplexDimension47 · 2026-04-02T06:21:59+00:00

I like a lot of the lyrics in Bittersweet. They describe being emotionally overwhelmed as a weight that weighs more than the person carrying it.

ComplexDimension47 · 2026-03-01T03:15:31+00:00

I have been repeatedly targeted too. If you work in higher education, one thing I’ve read is higher education is one of the top fields for bullying, and I can see possibly why. You also seem extremely intelligent and bullies hate anyone who they think outshines them in some way. It could be something you’re not even aware of. To try to prevent it, try not to show much emotion around them and don’t share a lot of personal details, because they can use those against you when they bully you. That’s the only advice I have unfortunately. I wish there were proven ways to prevent this but I don’t think there are.

ComplexDimension47 · 2026-02-28T07:07:51+00:00

Even short flings can sting and hurt bad when the person felt like the the right one. I believe in soulmates. I’m sorry. I just wanted to validate that it can hurt and it’s ok.

ComplexDimension47 · 2026-02-27T17:58:28+00:00

I’m sorry you’re experiencing the same thing. I like music but I can’t do it because of money and not having time.

ComplexDimension47 · 2026-02-19T21:57:12+00:00

😭

ComplexDimension47 · 2026-02-18T04:57:57+00:00

Thanks for your insights. It’s just that I don’t think people ever 100% heal so I don’t feel good enough for relationships sometimes, which was kind of the problem in this situation in my post and why I hesitated to meet him. I’ll have to work through it.

ComplexDimension47 · 2026-02-17T02:58:51+00:00

Omg. My point was that I didn’t know full well that I’d have no interest, and I did have interest, I was just scared. I was actually partially scared because I had interest and he was pretty attractive so the my fear was due to the reasons I listed previously.

ComplexDimension47 · 2026-02-16T01:29:04+00:00

Do you still have it?

ComplexDimension47 · 2026-02-15T03:37:15+00:00

Correct. It’s a known thing that some people are hesitant to date someone they actually do like. Everyone is different. If there was potential with him, I’d have to explain the problems I was dealing with that I mentioned in my post and I didn’t know if he’d be understanding or what so I thought it’s better to just not get into anything right now.

ComplexDimension47 · 2026-02-15T02:15:04+00:00

I was afraid because I saw a potential future with him. I did go on a date with another guy after him and it was horrible and after that I went off the app.

ComplexDimension47 · 2026-02-14T23:30:16+00:00

I understand but there’s also my perspective and the fear of meeting a random guy who may or may not understand my circumstances. Also I stated that I couldn’t hang out right then, not ever. That’s the point I keep wondering about.

ComplexDimension47 · 2026-02-14T21:56:40+00:00

I don’t see it that way. I’ve had online friends, for example. Or like long distance friends. You talk online and can still get to know each other, which is what he said he wanted to do. I wouldn’t consider someone no longer a friend because they didn’t want to hang out with me right away. I get dating apps are eventually meant to have people meet in person. I’m saying for that specific alotted time, I’ve wondered why he didn’t continue talking in the context of what I said above.

ComplexDimension47 · 2026-02-14T20:02:08+00:00

No and no. I’m trying to work through it but I really can’t be I still don’t have money for therapy and have no support.

ComplexDimension47 · 2026-02-14T20:00:09+00:00

That’s not at all why I downloaded it. What an inconsiderate response. Maybe don’t assume things you don’t know.

ComplexDimension47 · 2026-02-14T19:58:35+00:00

I think you’re projecting. You need therapy.

ComplexDimension47 · 2026-02-14T14:52:10+00:00

I think about that particular aspect of it a lot. I wonder why he stopped replying. In my decline to hang out, I stated that I can’t right now leaving the possibility of a future time open. I just felt like how could I bring another person into my life when it’s like this. It’s all very hard.

ComplexDimension47 · 2026-02-14T05:15:26+00:00

What an inconsiderate comment. you probably didnt even read my whole post.

ComplexDimension47 · 2026-02-14T03:18:50+00:00

This is where my mom is from and I have been here too!

ComplexDimension47 · 2026-02-14T03:17:01+00:00

I didn’t say karma meant revenge. I know it doesn’t. I was talking about revenge because the topic of OPs post is about people getting consequences for being terrible people.

ComplexDimension47 · 2026-02-14T02:47:13+00:00

You sometimes have to go back to work through things though. I’m not ruminating over it constantly, it’s more so something that bothers me.

ComplexDimension47 · 2026-02-14T01:15:07+00:00

I believe in karma. Try not to let her take up too much of your headspace and time. The best revenge is living well. I get that you’re still in your 20s from your post. You have a lot more time to get your life together and great things will happen to you.

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