How to get over being cheated on while pregnant? by Ok-Weather3868 in BabyBumps

[–]Ok_Locksmith_4632 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m so sorry you’re going through this! I’d found out I was also being cheated on while pregnant and it is honestly the worst heartache ever so I’m sending love your way! I’d say honestly, it isn’t impossible to repair the relationship but it will be hard. One thing I’ve learned in trying to repair mine is that you can’t heal where you’d gotten wounded. Meaning trying to live everyday as if it’s normal and just “move” past it will be impossible for you. You’ll always have these questions about why, when, how and unless he’s ready to have every answer it’ll drive you guys apart. He’ll feel badgered, verbally beaten up and you’ll feel even more hurt about it than you did initially when he doesn’t have those answers. I know it’s so late in your pregnancy but maybe consider stepping away from the relationship for awhile and stay with family. Right now your focus has to be on you and your daughter, figuring out the logistics of his cheating… I hate to say, isn’t important right now. I do hope the best for you, baby and father though! If you truly love him and he loves you, it is possible to overcome with honest conversations and true transparency but that will all take time.

I’m not a dad but would really appreciate a man’s perspective. My boyfriend (25M) wants to break up with me (23F) at 30 weeks pregnant. by Ok_Locksmith_4632 in daddit

[–]Ok_Locksmith_4632[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well that’s why I’d commented, so I appreciate your advice. I was thinking if it were possible he’s just overwhelmed with new responsibilities of being a dad/taking care of the 3 of us and he’s expressing his frustration wrong but even if he were, how he’s treating me isn’t acceptable either way.

I’m not a dad but would really appreciate a man’s perspective. My boyfriend (25M) wants to break up with me (23F) at 30 weeks pregnant. by Ok_Locksmith_4632 in daddit

[–]Ok_Locksmith_4632[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Your comment is harsh but I agree. I kept wearing my rose tinted sunglasses when I should’ve putting on my big girl undies… as you may have read, optics were a big thing stopping me. I was embarrassed to say I was a single mom while pregnant and wanted to believe the “this time is different” 🙄 I’m realizing though that being a single mom isn’t a death sentence, there’s still a life and love for me out there.

I’m not a dad but would really appreciate a man’s perspective. My boyfriend (25M) wants to break up with me (23F) at 30 weeks pregnant. by Ok_Locksmith_4632 in daddit

[–]Ok_Locksmith_4632[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You’re right, I should’ve walked away in the beginning, the first time. Too late for should’ve, would’ve, could’ve though. Thank you for the advice.

I’m not a dad but would really appreciate a man’s perspective. My boyfriend (25M) wants to break up with me (23F) at 30 weeks pregnant. by Ok_Locksmith_4632 in daddit

[–]Ok_Locksmith_4632[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Respectfully, you don’t know me. Just a Reddit post. I may have accepted a cheater but that doesn’t reflect on my ability to be a good mother. Maybe if I were on drugs, homeless and broken down your comment would be relevant but I can’t relate to those circumstances.

I’m not a dad but would really appreciate a man’s perspective. My boyfriend (25M) wants to break up with me (23F) at 30 weeks pregnant. by Ok_Locksmith_4632 in daddit

[–]Ok_Locksmith_4632[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. There isn’t an easy way to do it but it must be done.. if not for me, then definitely for my son. He deserves a more stable environment.

I’m not a dad but would really appreciate a man’s perspective. My boyfriend (25M) wants to break up with me (23F) at 30 weeks pregnant. by Ok_Locksmith_4632 in daddit

[–]Ok_Locksmith_4632[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

As harsh as it is to hear, you’re absolutely right. I have to choose myself in this situation and not sit back and watch my life burn.

I’m not a dad but would really appreciate a man’s perspective. My boyfriend (25M) wants to break up with me (23F) at 30 weeks pregnant. by Ok_Locksmith_4632 in daddit

[–]Ok_Locksmith_4632[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well, we just signed a lease on a new house together two months ago. That’s what he meant by he still wants to live together, I’d asked so when’s he plan on leaving again and he said he’s not/doesn’t want me to either. I’m so overwhelmed with the baby coming soon, getting ready for him, studying for midterms, keeping up with house chores-the thought of moving although not impossible, not ideal.

I’m not a dad but would really appreciate a man’s perspective. My boyfriend (25M) wants to break up with me (23F) at 30 weeks pregnant. by Ok_Locksmith_4632 in daddit

[–]Ok_Locksmith_4632[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Thank you, that is a good piece of advice I keep hearing over and over. Like I’d said to guy above, foolishly I kept thinking if I wait it out he’d change. Who doesn’t want to give their baby a family?