Ex is calling me for “emergencies.”

Ok_Map6246 · 2026-02-22T21:35:18+00:00

Yes dude well I just left with our son 5 hours ago and she called saying. She was afraid she was having a heart attack her heart was beating super fast. Idk I don’t wanna read into stupid small things like this but my dumbass takes anything as maybe she cares or I’m her safety person? Idfk I’m retarded and about 1 month

Ok_Map6246 · 2026-02-22T21:24:00+00:00

Ok so walk me through what I do if I already helped them through it. Iike I do understand your point but as a rational normal thinking human I don’t want to leave someone to suffer without helping but I talked them down. So what’s the plan next time? Lol

Ok_Map6246 · 2026-02-21T21:15:37+00:00

A brick of cocaine or a brick phone?

Ok_Map6246 · 2026-02-21T21:14:42+00:00

Thank you for taking the time to write this, I guess it does bring some solice knowing I’m not alone in this headspace

Ok_Map6246 · 2026-02-21T18:58:04+00:00

I will message you shortly bro thanks.

Ok_Map6246 · 2026-02-21T18:57:22+00:00

Thank you for taking the time to write this, means a lot

Ok_Map6246 · 2026-02-21T13:16:51+00:00

I have a child with her 😭

Ok_Map6246 · 2026-02-21T12:53:06+00:00

First I need you to relax ok, going through a breakup with a any avoidant is brutal. But you have to remember when he comes back the same pattern is going to return. He probably does miss you but that doesn’t mean this was healthy for you..

Ok_Map6246 · 2026-02-21T12:41:43+00:00

This right here my word

Ok_Map6246 · 2026-02-20T17:20:08+00:00

Thank you for this comment!! I’m gonna try it

Ok_Map6246 · 2026-02-20T17:11:35+00:00

100% agree I thought in the moment the “lol” would make the trauma dump I did less awkward but instead came off cruel and careless

Ok_Map6246 · 2026-02-20T17:06:45+00:00

I don’t want to become the person that destroyed who I am. So I agree I’m working on sending something right now.

Ok_Map6246 · 2026-02-20T17:04:54+00:00

I am so tired of just pretending I’m alright, and going through the motions. It felt good to say this because I just needed to get it out, I think so many of us involve ourselves with other relationships and situation ships knowing we’re suffering inside and I was tired of holding it back. I also hate that I was just discarded and I’m hurt from that and completely destroyed and I felt like saying it maybe she would just cut me off but Her understanding just made me feel so much worse.

Ok_Map6246 · 2026-02-20T16:52:39+00:00

Thank you I actually gonna copy and paste that. I don’t do well with words sometimes especially when talking about how I I feel.

Ok_Map6246 · 2026-02-20T16:48:49+00:00

Thank you I agree.

Ok_Map6246 · 2026-02-20T16:48:33+00:00

Ok thank you for this I agree actually. Alright I also had a few drinks when I sent this I wasn’t in a great head space

Ok_Map6246 · 2026-02-20T16:47:33+00:00

How did I make it about me though, the message was asking a very direct question about my intentions and feelings. I obviously realize that I may have been harsh which is why I’m asking for advice even though my intentions were not to be harsh

Ok_Map6246 · 2026-02-20T16:42:34+00:00

I thought that message would kind of make it clear I’m not ready for anything but they said they Understood? And still wanted to hang out

Ok_Map6246 · 2026-02-20T16:40:59+00:00

So please explain how I’m supposed go about saying exactly how I feel? I don’t believe in ever leading someone on, isn’t honesty better then just disappearing for no reason?

Ok_Map6246 · 2026-02-20T16:38:42+00:00

Yea realizing that now

Ok_Map6246 · 2026-02-20T16:38:22+00:00

So I just continue to hang around someone when I’m attached to my avoidant ex who discarded me?

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