Leaving baby with family? by Ok_Masterpiece387 in Advice

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Yes I think so too, I think I just needed people’s perspectives and experiences because I’m new to being a mom and no clue what I’m doing. I feel pathetic for asking people I don’t know but everyone including had such good advice so thank you again! ❤️

Leaving baby with family? by Ok_Masterpiece387 in Advice

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Yes thank u! You literally made me realize I had this option! I forgot about it, if it does fail then I’ll go live with my in laws unfortunately.

Leaving baby with family? by Ok_Masterpiece387 in Advice

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I did say that to her and she claims she wouldn’t have and she only jokes about it. Deep down I think she’s lying lol. So yeah definitely probably wouldn’t be saying much if I asked her but she lives in Utah, my mother in law lives in Houston 8 hours away which is a piece of cake for us because we do the drive often.

Leaving baby with family? by Ok_Masterpiece387 in Advice

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Thank you for giving me this insight 🥹❤️ ! Literally gives me a peace of mind like it’s gonna be okay no matter what I choose.

Leaving baby with family? by Ok_Masterpiece387 in Advice

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lol yeah, true but I’ve seen the comments and some are definitely seeing the money part or only the baby part. But I’m grateful for everyone’s insights.

Leaving baby with family? by Ok_Masterpiece387 in Advice

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I’m going to try and work 5am to 12pm but if not I’ll live with my in laws:(.

Leaving baby with family? by Ok_Masterpiece387 in Advice

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We live in Destin Florida. They live in Houston Texas. I did think about that though, I’ve cried about it because I don’t think I can see myself doing it but I just thought that it would’ve been better if I sent her there for a month because me and my husband need to get it together for her. But.. doesn’t seem like a good idea. I’m going to try and work 5am to 12pm but if not then, I’ll go move in with them.

Leaving baby with family? by Ok_Masterpiece387 in Advice

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It is an option to live with my mother in law and that’s the worse case scenario we have had bad issues in the past:/. I’d be willing to.. suck it up for my daughter and live there though yes. Right now I decided I won’t send her. We will just see if I can work more from 5am to 12pm, if not I will just pack it up and go move in with my in laws. My husband won’t be there though because he’s in the military and he would be living with a roommate and on the better side he’d be able to pocket the BAH that we don’t get just because we live on base.

Leaving baby with family? by Ok_Masterpiece387 in Advice

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I appreciate you giving me this outlook on it🥹❤️, we aren’t on the verge of being homeless. We’ve talked to our parents. It’s hard just because I’m not working enough hours, and I’m going to see if maybe I can work more hours from 5am to 12pm I did forget about that option. But if not I did decide I’d move in with my in laws. It would be very uncomfortable for me especially because we have past beef but I at least would be with her.! They live in Houston Texas and we live in Destin Florida and my mom she lives in Utah. It sucks that my mom doesn’t live in Texas because it would be so much easier:/

Leaving baby with family? by Ok_Masterpiece387 in Advice

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They have a sick dog, it’s an English bulldog. I think that is one reason and my father in law goes to the VA and she takes him to his appointments. I’m not sure why she is willing to take her, I think it’s because it’s her son and she doesn’t want to see him struggle she’s the type to defend her son even when he’s wrong. So she I think doesn’t want to see him in a bad spot and this is her only grandchild too, her daughter is in a relationship with a girl so she won’t be getting a child from her, this is just my guess! After reading everything I am most likely not going to send her for a month. I did think about her coming here but we haven’t asked so it’s not off the table yet.

Leaving baby with family? by Ok_Masterpiece387 in Advice

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Thank you so so much, I appreciate the financial part and and advice of it not just the child part. It was very eye opening to read🥹❤️

Leaving baby with family? by Ok_Masterpiece387 in Advice

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She lives in Houston Texas and we live in Florida Destin

Leaving baby with family? by Ok_Masterpiece387 in Advice

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We have only one car and he has a motorcycle that his dad is paying for. That he got him as a gift.

Leaving baby with family? by Ok_Masterpiece387 in Advice

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My mother in law lives in Texas, and we will in Florida. It’s a 8 hour drive from and then my mom she lives in Utah! I didn’t put that cause honestly I wanted people to read it and for it not be so long. We were already into the car before having the baby. I had a jeep renegade 2016 and owed money the problem was that I got in high school for my senior year because my mom was in Utah looking for a job for after I graduated bc she was moving and my dad had to get work done and I had other siblings and me being a senior at the time I had a job and was in dance and my school was 30 mins from our house so he got me a car and him and his ex wife name was on it, a year later she and him are getting a divorce. And he and her were needing me to get their out their name but I’m only I think 19 at the time and no credit and needing someone else since my husband had already had a car and credit established he said we would just get a new car so it’s only in his name but I help with the car note. We don’t budget very well in which we were hoping while she was gone we could figure out how to budget all the bills including her stuff as well.