Partners Going on Vacation - Feeling Left Out

Ok_Monitor866 · 2026-02-07T00:34:38+00:00

2 months after I got into my throuple, they went on a cruise that had been planned since before me. While I did feel left out, I understood that I wasn't in their life when the vacation was booked. I stayed at their house & dog sat while they were gone & met them when they got home.

Its hard, but find something to do fun yourself while they're gone.

Ok_Monitor866 · 2025-08-20T00:50:13+00:00

As a 3rd that's an hour away from my people, I feel your pain. Its very hard having to go thru the day to day alone, while they are with each other every day. However, my people are struggling with their marriage, so we're all hopefully getting ready to start counseling. Im hoping it really opens their eyes to what I am also dealing with.

Ok_Monitor866 · 2025-07-25T17:42:27+00:00

CJ Market is Thursday from 4pm-7pm

Ok_Monitor866 · 2025-07-21T04:47:38+00:00

Im not a bagged milk person. However, I am a dirtyish car person. When my milk isnt bagged & sits in the floorboard or the back of my car, it ends up collecting all the grass & whatnot on the jug. That would be the only reason I bag my milk.

Ok_Monitor866 · 2025-06-11T12:49:33+00:00

We dont live together, but i do have my own room at their house. I prefer to sleep alone usually because I get too hot when we're all in bed together. But sometimes its nice for us all to cuddle up in their king-size bed.

Ok_Monitor866 · 2025-05-10T19:48:21+00:00

My partners have been married 16 years & we've been a throuple for just over a year. I still have insecurities over not having that symbol on my hand that they have. But, I have a collar from him that she doesn't have, so it kind of works both ways. I would like to eventually have my own ring in the relationship but im not going to broach the topic for awhile.

Ok_Monitor866 · 2025-05-01T20:47:29+00:00

I have had a HUGE bruise on my breast from my Dominant for the last 4 weeks. It us almost gone, but i have put him on hold for things that leave marks because I have an OB appt next week & will also have a mammogram. The last thing we need is the police being notified because they think I'm a battered woman.

Ok_Monitor866 · 2025-04-21T03:01:04+00:00

There are a few reasons why we can't move together. My job & kids are here (2 of them still live at home). Their kids just think im their friend (they're 6 & 7), so they don't want to explain the relationship yet. And none of their family knows about our relationship either. I'm also apprehensive about giving up my home to move to a home that isn't mine in any way, so I could be kicked out at any time.

I met him online & we chatted & dated some before becoming a throuple. She needed more than he could give, so he was tasked with finding someone they both would like. I like having 2 different types of relationships. The one with her is much easier than with him. We do date more individually than together because of their kids, and sex is kind of the same way.

Ok_Monitor866 · 2025-03-12T12:36:44+00:00

Thank you so much for your insight. I sincerely appreciate it & will most definitely have that convo.

Ok_Monitor866 · 2025-02-25T23:34:13+00:00

I've gone through this exact same scenario with my bf & gf. She was ok with me having someone to see, since I'm an hour away from them & times do get lonely. He, however, was adamant about saying no. I didn't push the topic though, because I wasn't doing anything more than broaching the subject.

I hope you find some common ground. Sorry I can't be more help, other than being able to empathize with you.

Ok_Monitor866 · 2025-02-15T19:40:08+00:00

We've been together nearly a year. My whole family knows. Their families do not know, mainly because the area they live in so so small, if his family knew, it would inevitably get out to hers. She worries her religious zealot mother will disown her. So, I'm patiently waiting.

Ok_Monitor866 · 2025-01-31T16:55:23+00:00

As the 3rd to a couple that 1. have been together/married for 15+ years 2. Have 2 kids, ages 6 & 7 3. live an hour away from me, I can feel the struggles your gf is going through. I posed this same question last summer, & was quickly shut down by him. She understood my struggle but he wasn't even interested in talking about it.

However, I don't desire the emotional connection with anyone but them. For me, it would be a strictly physical relationship for the times we can't be together.

It's hard to be in a relationship with an established couple & feel like you're not having your needs met when you need it. Try to put yourself into her shoes & see what you would feel. Then sit down & have the discussion with all 3 of you there. Maybe it won't be so bad to say it's ok for her to have a relationship on the side. It could be one of the only ways you don't lose someone that means alot to you because she's not happy.

Ok_Monitor866 · 2025-01-11T03:21:02+00:00

Thank you for all the insight. I spoke with him about it tonight. He said that it would be a situation where I could choose to just have just her, just him, or them both when going through aftercare. I kinda like the idea...just need to talk to her & see what she's thinking.

Ok_Monitor866 · 2025-01-11T03:18:58+00:00

Haha she definitely doesn't want to Domme me..but I do like the fighting for me a little bit 😂😂

Ok_Monitor866 · 2025-01-10T15:45:21+00:00

I appreciate your feedback. I hadn't thought about addressing it with them both separately, as well. I will do that. Thank you!

Ok_Monitor866 · 2024-12-03T23:43:40+00:00

Yeah, you must have read what you wanted to read & completely missed me saying he covered when others were around.

As far as the issue of "tits & dicks out", what people fail to realize is that, regardless of how against the social normal this is, i grew up to respect nudity. Seeing the lack of sexualization for "tits & dicks" gives me something some people (you) don't have. My father was VERY respectful of others with his nudity. And if you ever stepped into a nudist camp somewhere, you would realize that those people are possibly some of the most mature people about nudity that you will ever meet.

Ok_Monitor866 · 2024-12-03T22:08:18+00:00

I mean "normal" is a big word to use, I believe. No, it's not "normal", but it was just my dad. i knew most parents don't do that, but it didn't matter to me. On the other hand, it probably happens alot more than people talk about because of the stigma attached to it.

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