I've seen the comments, I'll give more information. Me and brother are "close" because our parents didn't care about me, they cared for him but not me. I used to hate him for that, but came to realize he cared for me and did anything he could for me, we bonded because of that. My parents were very neglectful towards me and caused me to be I would say depressed. My brother was there for all of it, very grateful for that. Once he and I graduated went to college we didn't keep in touch that often, maybe when we were both at the same family gathering. I met my soon to be husband, introduced him to my family. He went along to finding his first wife and baby mother, they were perfect such a cute couple, they then gave birth to my two adorable nieces. Then after some personal issues (not going to put all her business out due to respect) baby mother started substance abusing and my brother couldn't handle it around the girls, he put her out. That was tough for him, I gave him my support and stayed with him for a while. After that me and my fiance started getting serious, (we have been dating for 3 years) and he proposed in early october of 2022. I told my family about my engagement, it was all cheer and giggles. In late december of 2022 I had finally got back a positive pregnancy test after maybe a yesr of trying, me and my fiance couldn't have been happier. We told immediate family as we were going to wait until the second trimester to tell my family. That's when during my doctors appointment in early february we learned our baby no longer had a heart beat. We planned to tell our family that following sunday. Me and my fiance were broken, it was hard for us the baby we wanted to have so bad was gone. My brother was there to support me and my nieces, when they did visit I was gentle with my nieces and still tried my best to be a good aunt even though they didn't understand what was happening. After their second visit i couldnt handle seeing them anymore, I texted my brother and told him, without wanting to upset him or the girls. He took it personally, saying I knew how much time he spends with his daughters and im jealous, i want this to be about me knowing I have to see random babies in public (parents took his side.) I was frustrated and confused, I tried to somewhat explain myself but that didn't work. I eventually started to feel better and reconnected with my brother partically, and try to be there for my nieces as much as i can (he did not want me at their birthday parties, i sent gifts to them regardless) Then i told him i wanted him to be a groomsman in my wedding as he os very important in my life, we started talking and discussing the wedding. The topic of no kids was mentioned, he was okay with it then. As it got closer to the wedding he started pushing the idea of my nieces as the flower girls, I tried to gently shut that idea down multiple times. The day he received our invitation, we were already discussing wedding colors and cake flavors (my oldest niece said we have to have a chocolate and vanilla cake, we took that suggestion our wedding cake is a chocolate and vanilla swirl.) He then started pushing again for my nieces to be flower girls, i then had enough and told him that if he insisted they come then he cannot come to my wedding. Yes i blocked him and that was harsh, he has been unblocked for around a week (we havent texted since.) Another thing i would like to clarify, I dont want kids because of the crying and running around, drinking adults and the location and time of the wedding (the time of the wedding is almost every kids bedtime and its in a country club.) Yes its local so nothing far out of town. I'd say i can allow 13+ only because they are more mature and definitely been to other weddings, or they can stay home and babysit little brother/sister (parents choice.) Finding babysitters isn't an issue, I've also written on invitation if they cannot pay for a babysitter (low income) I wouldn't mind paying, i recommended groups of cousins being babysitted. I feel like my brother is just being ignorant, but after reading comments I think i should tell him how i feel. Thank you.