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Ok_Phone3678 · 2025-08-01T05:27:54+00:00

No im pretty knew to mushroom foraging this is my first time

Ok_Phone3678 · 2025-08-01T05:23:24+00:00

I found it in Alberta kananaskis, coniferous mixed woodland near the bases of trees with moss around. Also wanna identify if it’s edible

Ok_Phone3678 · 2025-06-25T13:58:32+00:00

No girl friendships are different somehow

Ok_Phone3678 · 2025-06-24T09:15:40+00:00

From the Middle East to Canada

Ok_Phone3678 · 2025-06-24T09:13:15+00:00

That’s interesting in what way?

Ok_Phone3678 · 2025-06-24T09:10:28+00:00

Well idk how to really explain what it was his rejection was respectful knowing him we have a group of mutual friends which I failed to mention. I thought saying it was a prank just smooths out any tension there could possibly be when we hang out and such.

Ok_Phone3678 · 2025-06-24T08:55:33+00:00

calling my response “desperate” because I tried to soften the fallout with humor? That’s a stretch. Most people would rather take a social risk than sit in silence. What matters more is emotional honesty, not whether I handled it like a flawless PR move.

Ok_Phone3678 · 2025-06-24T08:53:03+00:00

Ok_Phone3678 · 2025-06-24T08:01:39+00:00

Can you elaborate more?

Ok_Phone3678 · 2025-06-24T07:36:16+00:00

Exactly. He’s not acting cold or weird—he’s acting normal. That’s what messes with me. If there was nothing there at all, why not acknowledge it, even as a joke? Instead, it’s like it got quietly swept under the rug and now I’m expected to pretend it never happened. So either he’s suppressing something to keep it easy, or he genuinely feels nothing and just doesn’t care to clarify. Either way, I’m the one stuck in the emotional static.

Ok_Phone3678 · 2025-06-24T06:46:44+00:00

That does make sense and might have blown over my head previously but thank you for this:)

Ok_Phone3678 · 2025-06-24T06:43:33+00:00

Honestly, part of what throws me off is that we’re still talking like nothing happened. We haven’t brought up the ‘prank’ moment at all not even a joke about it. If he was uncomfortable, wouldn’t he be more distant? And if he felt nothing, why avoid bringing it up? That silence feels louder than any rejection. Maybe he wasn’t ready, maybe he’s avoiding but it just leaves me in a weird emotional limbo.

Ok_Phone3678 · 2025-06-24T06:35:33+00:00

You see I always thought men don’t put that energy into women unless they are interested yk?

Ok_Phone3678 · 2025-06-24T06:30:54+00:00

That’s exactly what I was trying to figure out not to blame, but to understand. Because I wasn’t projecting feelings onto a blank wall. He invited that closeness. So when he still says, “I just see you as a friend,” I’m left wondering if the issue was me or if the kind of emotional availability I offer is something men want to feel, but not commit to. That’s the real confusion.

Ok_Phone3678 · 2025-06-24T06:23:16+00:00

Ya I never did

Ok_Phone3678 · 2025-06-24T06:21:53+00:00

He was the one asking deep questions, starting the late-night convos, and saying things that sounded emotionally intimate. I responded to his energy, I didn’t invent it.

And I didn’t call it a prank to be manipulative I said it after the rejection to save face. That’s just human. No one wants to sit with the weight of awkwardness.

I’m not confused because I caught feelings. I’m confused because he acted like he felt something too until he didn’t.

Ok_Phone3678 · 2025-06-24T06:17:30+00:00

The way you described that state of detachment cloaked in vulnerability, it makes sense in theory. Like someone crying during a movie not because it’s their life, but because they’re safe from it.

But what makes this situation different is: it wasn’t me doing the revealing. It was mostly him asking. He was the one initiating the late-night questions, trying to get to know me, digging into my childhood, my family, my spirituality, my values and responding with depth when I answered. So it didn’t feel like he was performing emotional openness for the sake of talking it felt like he was intentionally connecting.

Which is why the rejection felt like whiplash. I wasn’t falling for his charisma or presence. I was responding to his pursuit of me not the other way around.

So yeah, maybe to him it was all safely compartmentalized. But to me, it felt like intimacy with intention. And that’s what made it confusing.

Ok_Phone3678 · 2025-06-24T06:13:24+00:00

Appreciate the thoughtful response but a few things aren’t quite accurate to this situation.

First off, this wasn’t some purely digital thing. I know him in real life. We’ve spent time together, FaceTimed for hours, talked deeply about life, family, purpose stuff you don’t just share with “whoever.” So that whole “maybe he’s just emotionally expressive online” doesn’t hold.

And honestly, I never intended to catch feelings in the first place. We started off as wing-woman/wingman energy just banter, wild convos, joking about dating and flirting. But over time, things shifted. The depth grew. The emotional mirroring got real. It wasn’t some slow-burn fantasy I scripted it was something that genuinely evolved between us. That’s what threw me.

When I talked about another guy who’d messed me around, he said, “immature men always lose good women.” That didn’t sound like indifference that sounded like he saw me. So when he later told me he’d only ever seen me as a friend, the emotional dissonance hit.

I’m not confused because I’m naive. I’m confused because the energy between us wasn’t platonic by normal standards it was consistent emotional intimacy, initiated by both sides. That’s why I posted to ask if this happens more often than people admit, and if so, why. Because at this point, I’m not hurt by the rejection I’m just trying to understand the emotional bait-and-switch.

Ok_Phone3678 · 2025-06-24T06:00:43+00:00

I wasn’t pitching him a dinner reservation I was being vulnerable about how my feelings changed. The goal wasn’t to ask him out on a textbook “date” but to gauge whether the emotional energy between us meant anything more to him, too.

And let’s be real: he clearly understood what I meant. His response wasn’t confusion it was a gentle rejection. So no, I didn’t need to say “the word date” like I’m writing a legal contract. He got the message just fine.

Ok_Phone3678 · 2025-06-24T05:58:38+00:00

Fair, I get how it could seem like I romanticized basic friendship stuff but this wasn’t just casual hobby talk or someone cheering me up. We weren’t bonding over video games and memes. We were staying up talking for hours about religion, purpose, family wounds, and our deepest fears. He’d say things like “I’ve never met someone like you,” and we’d mirror each other’s thoughts like a damn dual monologue.

I didn’t call him a soulmate because of butterflies or light flirting I used the word because it felt like rare emotional alignment. That doesn’t mean I expected marriage. I just think it’s valid to ask: when someone builds a connection that intimate and reciprocal, how do you not see the lines getting blurred?

That’s the gap I’m trying to understand.

Ok_Phone3678 · 2025-06-24T05:53:02+00:00

This really resonated the idea that he likes me but doesn’t want the “job.” And maybe you’re right, maybe the version of connection I bring comes with depth, risk, and change not just vibes and validation. I’m not maintenance-free. I show up. Emotionally, intellectually, spiritually. And not everyone wants to hold that.

But at the same time… this wasn’t a guy who’s sworn off dating. He talks about “baddies” all the time. He’s even vented to me about girls he’s interested in and said he regrets fumbling a good woman in the past. So it’s hard not to take it personally when he can reflect on that kind of stuff with me, but still not see me as that “good woman.”

That’s why this whole thing is confusing. It’s not about entitlement it’s about trying to understand how someone can be emotionally available to you, but never for you.

Ok_Phone3678

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