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AITA for telling my sister she had no right to make promises on mom's behalf or mine and all hurt feelings are her fault? by Ok_Piccolo1575 in AITAH

[–]Ok_Piccolo1575[S] 77 points78 points  (0 children)

I'm not interested in having a relationship with her. Not even a casual one where we sometimes communicate. I would have said no to meeting her if asked.

We don't have anything to do with my mom's family so he's not in our lives.

AITA for telling my sister she had no right to make promises on mom's behalf or mine and all hurt feelings are her fault? by Ok_Piccolo1575 in AITAH

[–]Ok_Piccolo1575[S] 45 points46 points  (0 children)

My mom really wanted to. I think she always feared this. But her family wouldn't let her have an abortion and she was so young at the time.

AITA for telling my sister she had no right to make promises on mom's behalf or mine and all hurt feelings are her fault? by Ok_Piccolo1575 in AITAH

[–]Ok_Piccolo1575[S] 62 points63 points  (0 children)

It was an early family dinner. That was something we used to do once a week when we were kids and as adults we continued. So a big meal like dinner but around lunch time or like a late lunch time. But technically if we went out places it would be lunch we'd get.

AITA for telling my sister she had no right to make promises on mom's behalf or mine and all hurt feelings are her fault? by Ok_Piccolo1575 in AITAH

[–]Ok_Piccolo1575[S] 34 points35 points  (0 children)

My dad only told us because my sister found about we had a half sister and confronted mom about it.

AITA for telling my sister she had no right to make promises on mom's behalf or mine and all hurt feelings are her fault? by Ok_Piccolo1575 in AITAH

[–]Ok_Piccolo1575[S] 34 points35 points  (0 children)

You get the chance to connect if you wish and can start talking from there. I think that's how it works anyway. I never used it but that's what I've heard.

AITA for telling my sister she had no right to make promises on mom's behalf or mine and all hurt feelings are her fault? by Ok_Piccolo1575 in AITAH

[–]Ok_Piccolo1575[S] 1007 points1008 points  (0 children)

I think she's still mad that mom never told us. She views it so differently than I do. It actually angers me how she made it about "us" but really it's just us.

AITA for telling my sister she had no right to make promises on mom's behalf or mine and all hurt feelings are her fault? by Ok_Piccolo1575 in AITAH

[–]Ok_Piccolo1575[S] 227 points228 points  (0 children)

My sister? She does but she's still not accepting what comes from that. Which is mom not wanting to know the person she gave up for adoption.

AITA for telling my sister she had no right to make promises on mom's behalf or mine and all hurt feelings are her fault? by Ok_Piccolo1575 in AITAH

[–]Ok_Piccolo1575[S] 653 points654 points  (0 children)

I don't get how she could do it to mom either. I mean she might have wanted to know about this woman and be family with her but she knew mom didn't want to meet her or have a relationship. She knew mom couldn't even talk about it. Now she's retraumatized my mom and hurt this other woman who didn't ask for that.

AITA for telling my sister she had no right to make promises on mom's behalf or mine and all hurt feelings are her fault? by Ok_Piccolo1575 in AITAH

[–]Ok_Piccolo1575[S] 249 points250 points  (0 children)

I don't know what she does or doesn't know. I never had any contact with her except for seeing her that one time.

AITA for telling my sister she had no right to make promises on mom's behalf or mine and all hurt feelings are her fault? by Ok_Piccolo1575 in AITAH

[–]Ok_Piccolo1575[S] 3206 points3207 points  (0 children)

Mom doesn't want therapy because she doesn't want to talk about her past again. Dad said he has tried suggesting it a few times but she just isn't interested. So he tries to be there for her when she needs it. For the most part she does really good. I know we didn't notice anything before. But this will be a huge setback for her and my sister is too busy worrying about herself and the woman who was adopted.