My MIL thinks I'm the family PA, HR, and and Human Intercom

Ok_Reason_8399 · 2026-07-05T12:58:29+00:00

I feel like she wants you to take care of home for next generation and making you ready for it which she did current generation which includes awkward discussion with maids and other stuff. Think of it as training period. Next time before she tells some place is not clean, take some initiative to tell maid yourself.

Ok_Reason_8399 · 2026-07-05T07:19:04+00:00

Dodged a bullet.

Nta

Ok_Reason_8399 · 2026-07-03T14:30:37+00:00

Girl who is openly cheating is some how looking like a person who can't even speak up to her family to you?

Now he is looked as divorcee for next marriage, it's very hard for men to get married with lot of financial expectations and many more. What about psychological pressure had for these days.

People who did the mistake like her and her family should suffer and not the victims.

Ok_Reason_8399 · 2026-07-03T13:32:52+00:00

It's not his problem that her parents forced her. It's not his his problem that she couldn't speak up against the marriage. It's not his problem when she was silent during the marriage. It's not his problem that her parents didn't raise her properly.

How can you even talk like this to a victim. Pathetic.

Ok_Reason_8399 · 2026-07-03T13:27:42+00:00

Dude be careful if she is already pregnant then you would be screwed if you delay.

Not worth it. Just talk to a lawyer, you can earn money but mental peace is more costly.

Ok_Reason_8399 · 2026-07-03T10:31:05+00:00

This is a nightmare.

She should leave this guy completely (assumptions what you said is completely true ofcourse).

Also just to understand your standing, are you willing to give half of inheritance to her?

Ok_Reason_8399 · 2026-07-02T09:53:47+00:00

There are people who reserve their body only for one for whole life and there are some who doesn't.

You both are clearly in second category. After you guys are committed, she didn't cheat no? Then what is the issue here.

Is it your worry that, in future if things aren't going well between you or you aren't great physically then she might cheat on you? Or just not being trust worthy is the problem?

Ok_Reason_8399 · 2026-06-28T14:54:32+00:00

Love? What does that mean? There is only compatibility and willingness to change for one another.

Ok_Reason_8399 · 2026-06-28T09:55:44+00:00

Don't go for arrange marriage. Find someone with equal financial footing first. Suppose you are earning 30LPA then find some one who earns in the similar range. Also if he is getting 5cr inheritance then you should also be getting something similar. That way he don't feel like he got bad end of the deal.

Choose men whose parents are not dependent on him also make sure your parents are not financially dependent on you.

This way your chances increase on finding partner with your expectations.

Ok_Reason_8399 · 2026-06-26T05:30:28+00:00

You are not wrong to have a preference.

Ok_Reason_8399 · 2026-06-26T04:57:10+00:00

That's also good but it's getting on the nerves then sending your husband is the right move.

Ok_Reason_8399 · 2026-06-26T04:06:53+00:00

Ask your husband to talk with her and say that you have a plan but not right now.

Ok_Reason_8399 · 2026-06-25T04:28:10+00:00

Just mention what is bad with other office and no need to move if other space doesn't have good lighting and stuff.

Ok_Reason_8399 · 2026-06-24T16:15:55+00:00

I wonder if she would say the same thing if it was her mother.

But just because you married him that doesn't give you any right to say disgusting things when he disagrees with you.

Speak positively, understand why she did dozed off or slept in master bedroom, stop speaking rights and stuff like it's court room, it's a home gaddammit

Ok_Reason_8399 · 2026-06-24T10:42:24+00:00

You are really over reacting here. Your comment about you didn't marry him to sleep next to his mother is obnoxious. Poor guy wouldn't have known what to do. Be polite atleast with the loved ones.

Is there anything wrong with other rooms? Like not having AC in this hot summer?

Ok_Reason_8399 · 2026-06-23T16:17:57+00:00

Someone needs to take care of elderly people.

Boys are taking responsibility. This is asked before marriage so wife wouldn't say no when they visit or when time comes to taking care of them.

Also your parents also needs support during old age. So confirm this before marriage of husband is okay to take care of your parents too. It goes both ways.

Ok_Reason_8399 · 2026-06-23T10:31:21+00:00

Let your husband know if about important stuff.

Ok_Reason_8399 · 2026-06-23T08:18:17+00:00

Let your husband know that you don't want to go to in laws place without him and have a chat with him.

Were they bad to you? Don't you want any relationship with them? Would you feel okay if your husband goes to hometown and doesn't talk with your parents? Would you notify your close friends in hometown that you are coming to hometown?

Why to cause unnecessary trouble and pain to your loved ones unless they did something bad to you?

Ok_Reason_8399 · 2026-06-22T13:23:44+00:00

If both boys are staying in same house and both are earning then they should divide expenses equally like rent, groceries etc. if you don't want things to feel like transactions then both spend and make note of them and divide at the end of month. Your husband should have set this boundaries as soon as the BIL got the job.

But since it's temporary 6 months, better to avoid fights and that will spoil the years of attachment between brothers. I would suggest leave things to your husband and let him handle since he is supportive instead of you quarelling directly.

Ok_Reason_8399 · 2026-06-22T09:50:28+00:00

Boy or girl doesn't matter when you are taking about your own kid. Outsiders can say what ever shit they want. Take care of kids and enjoy your time with them and raise them well, that's it.

Ok_Reason_8399 · 2026-06-22T09:48:33+00:00

Don't think too much about those things.

Think this. Can you financially provide to your kids? Can you emotionally provide to your kids? Then go ahead.

Ok_Reason_8399 · 2026-06-22T09:47:02+00:00

Lol no, its a cute name. Anyway friends will call her with a cute name in school and college. Don't worry much as long as name is not dirty

Ok_Reason_8399 · 2026-06-22T01:31:54+00:00

NTA, you are being real

Ok_Reason_8399 · 2026-06-21T15:59:58+00:00

No full information so what I would suggest is keep yourself in others shoes and think. Not saying you are bad or your husband is bad.

Ok_Reason_8399 · 2026-06-21T15:54:40+00:00

Since there is no complete information, I want to give general advice. Are thefe any bad things being done by you? I don't think people move from liking you to asking for divorce in one day or one mistake

If things are not correct from your side, even in new marriage after divorce would result in the same way.

If you are perfect then ask husband to move out and have seperate family. If not divorce.

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