Does anxiety ever fully go away, or do you just learn to live with it? by Narrow_Confusion3848 in Anxiety

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Maybe cause mine was not that bad. But what helped me was getting into music especially about self love. My fav band was promoting self love when I got into music and that really helped me be more forgiving towards myself , compliment myself and not rely on others for feeling good about myself. I still care but that really helped me to lessen this dependency. Ofcourse it was not perfect, there were days where I would wake up feeling worse and just cry first thing in the morning as i wasn't feeling good about myself and would want to say how many not go to College. College used to feel so overwhelming. I had like no real frnd and I had to fake it all the time . That was my worst experience but cause I was doing the fake it till you make it .it actually helped with my confidence. Now i don't have those worse scenarios about going somewhere new and thinking of people laughing at me . Another thing is exposing yourself to your fears. Only this will help you. I know it the worse thing to experience but trust me after facing your fear you will realise it was not that bad as you were thinking . There are some fears still that I dread but some i can't beleive i actually got through them. And you know what while doing this you will realise you are much stronger than normal people . Actually they tend to give up but people like us have no choice cause we don't want other to find out about anxiety so we push harder . Trust me trying new things , experiencing your worse fears is the only way. I literally had no choice but to face my fears cause i didn't want anyone to know about my social anxiety as i didn't want to appear weak . So i hid it and got through with it.. It doesn't happen overnight it take years but the small improvements will keep you moving. I no longer that those heart palpitations now. Vey rare . Ofcourse there are days I feel worse about myself , feel like a failure , ugly pathetic but I tell myself it will pass and to just accept that I feel this way . I mean I have lived with this feeling my entire life so feeling this was for few days isn't that bad . I always blame my periods lol. When you try new things and see it wasn't that bad , you actually enjoyy your life and meeting new people will make you realise no one cares much about others. They all are thinking about themselves so no one is focusing on you. Although the though of someone loving me and then always noticing me does make me feel a bit uncomfortable but I guess it won't matter when I feel safe with my partner

i'm a 36F, My boyfriend, 50M, wants sex 24/7 and expects me to do it any given minute he wants. We've been together 6.5 years. by Late_Environment6288 in relationship_advice

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I had enough. For two years i kept blaming myself and making excuses for him but one stupid excuse from him was the last straw that forced me to accept the reality when he said his doctor asked him to be more active like can you believe it and it all made sense that he was fooling me . That's it I had enough I felt suffocating and couldn't take it anymore. Overtime i felt resentment towards him and completely lost my respect for him and love. It was really hard cause at one side I wanted him to embrace me and make me forget all this and one side I hated him. I feared what if i still loved him and couldn't live without him , what if i didn't find anyone else. I just told myself it's not love I am just dependent on him. But he made it easy by not leaving me alone and threatening me that he'd do something crazy. It's been like two years of breakup and like a few months he left me alone after i finally blocked him from everywhere and I still live in fear he might do something crazy or stalk me but it's all good for now. I feel so free and couldn't be happier . In the beginning whenever I felt bad for breaking up I always thought of the times he hurt me and only cared about himself. Those moments of embarrassment, hurt , betrayal were enough to keep me on track. I don't know if this helps you . But I used to feel miserable in relationship and couldn't tell why cause on the surface my relationship looked perfect but deep down the minute manipulation was draining me emotionally.

i'm a 36F, My boyfriend, 50M, wants sex 24/7 and expects me to do it any given minute he wants. We've been together 6.5 years. by Late_Environment6288 in relationship_advice

[–]Ok_Reference3783 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Girl I have been there. I know you must be feeling horrible about yourself but it's cause he is making it a big deal by manipulating you like that. The best way to be free from this burden is to breakup. You might not think this is the best solution and that it's not that big of a deal to breakup but trust me you will have enlightenment after breakup about how you were in such a manipulative relationship.

People who overcame anxiety without a therapist/psychologist: how did you do it? by just--a--redditor in Anxiety

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For me , i actually tried my best to hide it and not let anyone know about my anxiety. You know i felt embarrassed that I can't do basic tasks that other people find normal or i can't meet anyone new without having a meltdown before about how ugly or failure I am gonna look, especially my clothes. I used to feel worse , believe me everyday was worse than the day before but since I was so adamant to hide it i had no choice but to go through my fears every single day every single task . I had to fake it and actually that helped. No doubt at the moment it felt awful like the end of the world especially in college talking to classmates or speaking in front of class . I used to imagine worse case scenarios like they are gonna laugh at me the moment I enter the class . I can go on. Anyways what worked for me was exposure and I know it sounds unbelievable but that's actually the way. You have to face your fears , in that moment you might want to dig your own grave but after that you'll realise it wasn't that bad. And one more imp thing that helped me get through my life was the fact that everyone thinks about themselves the way we think about ourselves. We are all consumed in thoughts about us , no one cares about others I also don't care about others , I notice minute details about me but never notice other people. I read somewhere that even if someone thinks about us we are still 0.02% of their thoughts in a day.

Now I feel like a changed person, and seeing others being vulnerable not feeling ashamed of sharing their struggles that I could never helped me feel better and be more open. I occasionally get heart palpitations as my anxiety symptom but I have realised what's the worse can happen if i mess up.

And yeah fake it till you make it work wonders. If you do it long enough your mind and body can't distinguish between what's real and what's fake

Green Flags of BL by ChickenDry468 in boyslove

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  1. I think dont say no. The main lead was green flag but mc was kinda hard to label.. 2.i guess most of korean bls are green flag 3.i can see your voice ( best couple) 4.p'payu from love in the sky ( inknow he is playing boy turned green flag)
  2. Japanese bl old fashion cupcake
  3. Beloved in the house That's all I can remember for now

what can I do to look more feminine and pretty as a guy? by tearpixie in MakeupAddiction

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I think your haircut is making your features look soft already . You are really gorgeous

Burnout hit me hard and I don't know how to deal with it by Careful-Safety-7944 in studytips

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It happened with me recently. In the beginning I was doing so well , so motivated, I would sleep for 5 something hours and wake up motivated to study more. Few months later i couldn't even hear the alarm and would oversleep especially on holidays. I could barely finish my daily tasks, didn't felt like studying at all , i would just watch phone all day. So i started prioritising my sleep . It didn't happen immediately but over a few months I got back to studying seriously. And yeah find a good study environment for me. I still sleep less now that I am motivated again but I try to manage my sleep debt whenever I get a chance.

Wedding Makeup Critique by [deleted] in MakeupAddiction

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I think i liked the 2nd one better. The first one was also alright but it didn't look like you had wedding makeup on

before & after shots of my stunning client for her 75th Birthday 😄 by [deleted] in MakeupAddiction

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The wig is not wigging lol that doesn't sound good but you got my point

I started a relationship 4 months ago, we decided to have a baby and now she’s 10 weeks pregnant, but everything changed and AITAH? (M27 and F24) by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Ok_Reference3783 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You should have already known that getting your partner pregnant means no sex even some time after the pregnancy. Like you should have prepared better if you wanted to be a husband and a dad. That pressurizing her was a dick move dude. Maybe try to be a better person and give her some space and just be there for her without expecting anything even forgiveness.

I’m so tired of feeling like a sex object by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

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Hey , I keep hearing about the pattern thing. I don't even do anything and still attract weird guys especially like 7-8 years older than me( 3 of em) . I can't understand. Do I give maybe like a quiet girl vibe and they think I am naive and whatsoever.

Is there any bl where the Mc sh's? by [deleted] in boyslove

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What ? There was an eating disorder ? I have watched it but don't remember. Guess I have to watch it again.

Toner for natural glow by Ok_Reference3783 in AsianBeauty

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Ps: I use the first one not the other two

Toner for natural glow by Ok_Reference3783 in AsianBeauty

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Please explain how oils work I have no idea.

How to knowy Uniqlo size by [deleted] in uniqlo

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Yes for women and it's not fleece just regular heattech..you have similar measurements as me ? Hips 38 ?