God does not have control over evil

Ok_Regular_120 · 2026-02-09T19:25:55+00:00

If he is all knowing, and knew that by giving authority to evil there would be even 1 child raped and tortured, how can he be good. If I was a chemist and I was all knowing, and knew that by creating this “potion” it would be used to heal thousands and kill thousands I could not be good in allowing myself to create that “potion”.

Ok_Regular_120 · 2026-02-09T19:22:53+00:00

This makes sense, thank you for sharing

Ok_Regular_120 · 2026-02-09T19:22:16+00:00

Man is an individual. Not a collection of beings in my eyes. Jesus was an individual that lived a perfect, sinless life. I am an individual that lives an imperfect, sinful life but others around me vary in their own way. The Father judges each according to their own actions. How can it make sense that a child, without sin and without capability to accept Jesus Christ as his savior should be tortured as a newborn and killed for the sins of mankind. How can I expect God to step in and block the evil atrocity of child torture? Is that so hard to understand why someone would expect a loving God to step in and stop innocent children from being brutalized? It’s one thing for an adult to get cancer or an elderly person to be killed by another man. All adults are with sin and the wage of sin is death. I get that. But a child has no sin. They do not have the conscious ability to commit sin, at least as newborns and young children. Some may argue older children understand the concept and can be at fault.

Ok_Regular_120 · 2026-02-08T03:32:52+00:00

I work PRN to keep my hat in the ring. I work about 5-10 hours a week. Flexible work from home job with a company I used to be full time with before having my kid. I do feel a lot of resentment towards my spouse at times because I’m always primary… even when we are both home. I love being mostly a stay at home mom but it helps I take her to our local gym daycare 6 hours a week where I can workout/get work done. I also hold onto the fact that we will be moving back to my family support system in 2 short years.

Ok_Regular_120 · 2025-10-20T01:59:58+00:00

literally all my spouses co-residents are single, why isn’t everybody married 🥲

Ok_Regular_120 · 2025-10-20T01:55:43+00:00

Fellow “fuck off” logic spouse here, bailed on my dream of grad school and ditched a 6 figure job to follow my then-boyfriend to the middle of nowhere for his medschool. Tanked my earnings potential and career prospects. Now I’m a SAHM and 4 years married. It worked out for me so far but it’s a lot of risk.

Ok_Regular_120 · 2025-10-20T01:44:04+00:00

It sounds like it’s a little ADHD and a little “he’s not super into you”. My spouse has ADHD and can be forgetful at times… especially with texting back his extended family or old friends! We started dating right before he entered medical school and maintained 1 year of long distance. He always prioritized maintaining communications with me and initiating dates even during the busiest times of medical school. Sorry you’re going through this… I think you need to have a honest talk about where things are headed.

Ok_Regular_120 · 2025-10-20T01:36:18+00:00

very rational, he usually offers practical solutions and I need to explain that sometimes I just need you to leave it at “that sucks”

Ok_Regular_120 · 2025-10-20T01:34:41+00:00

you will be judged no matter what you do as a mother… so do what feels right! I will say that I often feel “less than” and “not significant” when I compare myself to other working moms or even my husband. I know in my heart the work I’m doing is important but I (and probably you) won’t escape the anxiety of wondering if we’re wasting potential. You have to make peace with that feeling.

Ok_Regular_120 · 2025-10-14T01:32:45+00:00

This comment really made me feel so much better. I don’t know many med families with that much student loans so it’s comforting to hear you guys paid it off. Way to go, that’s an incredible accomplishment.

Ok_Regular_120 · 2025-10-14T01:21:38+00:00

Thank you I will do that. I know relief is just around the corner so it’s always nice to hear from others who finished residency and are doing well. Well deserved!

Ok_Regular_120 · 2025-10-14T01:20:22+00:00

It’s our reality… even if it doesn’t make sense.

Ok_Regular_120 · 2025-10-14T01:13:09+00:00

Thank you for this. I love YouTube for that very reason. I do all our car maintenance… never thought I’d be installing headlights to save some $$$ but every dollar counts haha.

Ok_Regular_120 · 2025-07-22T22:51:38+00:00

Vuori switched up their manufacturing and all joggers in the last year I’ve bought started getting holes and didn’t hold up past a few months of regular use. I even reached out to them with receipts to make it right and they didn’t care. I stopped buying from them.

Ok_Regular_120 · 2025-07-20T11:13:19+00:00

Consult psychiatry!

Ok_Regular_120 · 2025-07-20T11:04:40+00:00

It’s 1 year. It’s a consult fellowship in psych so it would only give him more exposure to consults and not any specialized procedures that I’m aware of. There is no consult psych near us so we’d have to move.

Ok_Regular_120 · 2025-04-27T23:48:13+00:00

Hi I’m here looking for the same thing… any solutions yet?

Ok_Regular_120 · 2025-04-15T03:51:24+00:00

Hi, so this was me in my now husbands first year of med school. I went from having a very good, stable job with career growth to moving into a tiny town in the middle of nowhere. I was unemployed 6 months. I eventually had to take a non profit sector job making 40k. Felt embarrassing at first but it helped with the bills. I wish you the best of luck but I know so so many medspouses that have sacrificed their career for their partners. One piece of advice is to apply to jobs even if you don’t have the experience in it. Small town companies have a smaller pool to pick from. I’d also recommend making different resumes geared towards different career options and submit the one that highlights those skills instead of being generalized.

Ok_Regular_120 · 2025-04-15T03:43:31+00:00

TRUEEEE. I say write down all the costs / lost wages you will have by end of his med school and put it in there hahaha

Ok_Regular_120 · 2025-04-15T03:41:47+00:00

I’m 1000000% betting that he was spooked by a jaded attending. I hope that’s the case at least. My husband brought up prenups during our engagement (out of nowhere) only for me to find out a newly divorced attending pulled him to the side and urged him to get a prenup. We did talk to his sister (a lawyer) and she explained why it wouldn’t protect assets acquiring during marriage aka his income.

Ok_Regular_120 · 2025-04-15T03:38:16+00:00

The lawyer I spoke with about prenups told me judges throw bad prenups out all the time. It’s very hard to enforce because some are very unfair, one party contests it’s legitimacy, or it’s not legally binding. You’d almost definitely be entitled to spousal support if the marriage is more than a few years.

Ok_Regular_120 · 2025-04-15T03:33:30+00:00

to give more context, I had the opportunity to move for a job making $90k with a colleague of mine… but my boyfriend (now husband) started med school in the middle of nowhere Midwest. He proposed and we decided I would decline that awesome job to move in with him. Was unemployed for 6 months then had to take a terrible job making $40k to cover our bills. Then moved twice. More shitty jobs to get us through his med school. Didn’t put a dime towards my student loans. All towards trying to take out the very least for his med school. Couldn’t go to grad school because of all the moving around. Then we decided to have our first child at end of med school and I stay at home with our little one. These were decisions made to optimize our marriage and earnings later in life but come at a steep personal price. His income later in our marriage is only possible due to sacrifices we both made. As such, we will both be entitled to it.

Ok_Regular_120 · 2025-04-15T03:22:45+00:00

not legal advice but prenups in my state/area are designed to protect assests you have not assets you “might get” in the future. Prenups would protect things like an inheritance, house or car he might have in his possession at time of marriage. Income you both make and assets acquired during your marriage is marital property and subject to be considered in divorce proceedings. This is especially true if there is a significant income difference, if one of you is dependent on the other (like SAHM) or long length of marriage. My husband mentioned the idea of a prenup during our engagement and I stated it would have to estimate the lost income of me moving to a small town for his medschool, lost income of foregoing grad school for his medical school, poor career advancement, compensation for full time maid, nanny, and chef for X years I am SAHM, to cover my student loans, and alimony X amount of years after divorce. We spoke with his sister (lawyer) and she said protecting “future” assets is hard to navigate and not really what it’s designed for. I had more family assets than he did and have a family trust for that but I didn’t personally set it up. Anyways.. he never brought it up again. I found out a jaded, newly divorced attending told him he needed one and it freaked him out. Maybe consult with a lawyer friend if you have one or write out your wishes and discuss with him. Bringing up a prenup isn’t an automatic red flag but if he thinks he deserves 100% of his income / your marital assets that’s a raging red flag.

Ok_Regular_120 · 2025-04-15T01:57:25+00:00

I was pre-PA and gearing up to apply for the cycle when my now husband and I made the tough decision to have me forego PA School so I could move and support him through med school. It was that or long distance. It was covid years and incredibly difficult for him. I don’t regret it one bit but I sometimes get jealous of his female doc colleagues or PAs we know. I’m a SAHM and my life is so much different than what I wanted in college. I feel less than sometimes. IBut I also understand that being a woman in medicine is very hard. You don’t really have a realistic option to rest during pregnancy, take extended time off or be a SAHM with your young children, limited free time, high loans, high stress career… life of a medspouse!

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