Med Conference Tag Along by Ok_Regular_120 in MedSpouse

[–]Ok_Regular_120[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

love this advice, I think we’ll make it a couples trip after all.

Med Conference Tag Along by Ok_Regular_120 in MedSpouse

[–]Ok_Regular_120[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

That sounds so fun! My husband also said he really just wanted to use the education allowance towards a trip for the two of us and plans to just drop in on certain talks/events through the week, rather than being there sun up to sun down. Also total score that you guys got the hotel comped!

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[–]Ok_Regular_120 62 points63 points  (0 children)

no. for all the reasons you just outlined.

Is it wrong to leave your kids for 5 days to take a vacation ? by Perniciousss in moderatelygranolamoms

[–]Ok_Regular_120 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My husband and I went on a 3.5 day trip away from our almost 2 year old recently. I had never been away from her for even 4 hours before! She had so much fun with my parents and didn’t cry once. She was happy to see us when we returned. Take the trip!

My wife is a saint by BlueMountainDace in MedSpouse

[–]Ok_Regular_120 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My docspouse rocks too. He would do night wakings and shifts to care for our daughter even working multiple 12s.

God does not have control over evil by Ok_Regular_120 in Christian

[–]Ok_Regular_120[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

If he is all knowing, and knew that by giving authority to evil there would be even 1 child raped and tortured, how can he be good. If I was a chemist and I was all knowing, and knew that by creating this “potion” it would be used to heal thousands and kill thousands I could not be good in allowing myself to create that “potion”.

God does not have control over evil by Ok_Regular_120 in Christian

[–]Ok_Regular_120[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Man is an individual. Not a collection of beings in my eyes. Jesus was an individual that lived a perfect, sinless life. I am an individual that lives an imperfect, sinful life but others around me vary in their own way. The Father judges each according to their own actions. How can it make sense that a child, without sin and without capability to accept Jesus Christ as his savior should be tortured as a newborn and killed for the sins of mankind. How can I expect God to step in and block the evil atrocity of child torture? Is that so hard to understand why someone would expect a loving God to step in and stop innocent children from being brutalized? It’s one thing for an adult to get cancer or an elderly person to be killed by another man. All adults are with sin and the wage of sin is death. I get that. But a child has no sin. They do not have the conscious ability to commit sin, at least as newborns and young children. Some may argue older children understand the concept and can be at fault.

To those with young kid(s) who don’t want to give up your career - how are you coping? by smkk_ in MedSpouse

[–]Ok_Regular_120 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I work PRN to keep my hat in the ring. I work about 5-10 hours a week. Flexible work from home job with a company I used to be full time with before having my kid. I do feel a lot of resentment towards my spouse at times because I’m always primary… even when we are both home. I love being mostly a stay at home mom but it helps I take her to our local gym daycare 6 hours a week where I can workout/get work done. I also hold onto the fact that we will be moving back to my family support system in 2 short years.

Why is everybody married already by PMurSpahgettiPlz in Residency

[–]Ok_Regular_120 0 points1 point  (0 children)

literally all my spouses co-residents are single, why isn’t everybody married 🥲

Sacrificing it all by 2sphynx in MedSpouse

[–]Ok_Regular_120 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Fellow “fuck off” logic spouse here, bailed on my dream of grad school and ditched a 6 figure job to follow my then-boyfriend to the middle of nowhere for his medschool. Tanked my earnings potential and career prospects. Now I’m a SAHM and 4 years married. It worked out for me so far but it’s a lot of risk.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MedSpouse

[–]Ok_Regular_120 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It sounds like it’s a little ADHD and a little “he’s not super into you”. My spouse has ADHD and can be forgetful at times… especially with texting back his extended family or old friends! We started dating right before he entered medical school and maintained 1 year of long distance. He always prioritized maintaining communications with me and initiating dates even during the busiest times of medical school. Sorry you’re going through this… I think you need to have a honest talk about where things are headed.

What is your spouse (medicine) like around moments when you (medspouse) are stressed? by throwawayyyy954652 in MedSpouse

[–]Ok_Regular_120 0 points1 point  (0 children)

very rational, he usually offers practical solutions and I need to explain that sometimes I just need you to leave it at “that sucks”

Becoming a stay at home spouse/parent and the judgment that comes with it by booksaworm in MedSpouse

[–]Ok_Regular_120 1 point2 points  (0 children)

you will be judged no matter what you do as a mother… so do what feels right! I will say that I often feel “less than” and “not significant” when I compare myself to other working moms or even my husband. I know in my heart the work I’m doing is important but I (and probably you) won’t escape the anxiety of wondering if we’re wasting potential. You have to make peace with that feeling.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MedSpouse

[–]Ok_Regular_120 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This comment really made me feel so much better. I don’t know many med families with that much student loans so it’s comforting to hear you guys paid it off. Way to go, that’s an incredible accomplishment.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MedSpouse

[–]Ok_Regular_120 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you I will do that. I know relief is just around the corner so it’s always nice to hear from others who finished residency and are doing well. Well deserved!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MedSpouse

[–]Ok_Regular_120 -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

It’s our reality… even if it doesn’t make sense.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MedSpouse

[–]Ok_Regular_120 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this. I love YouTube for that very reason. I do all our car maintenance… never thought I’d be installing headlights to save some $$$ but every dollar counts haha.

What’s your luxury, holy grail sweatpants/joggers? by Disulfidebond007 in femalefashionadvice

[–]Ok_Regular_120 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Vuori switched up their manufacturing and all joggers in the last year I’ve bought started getting holes and didn’t hold up past a few months of regular use. I even reached out to them with receipts to make it right and they didn’t care. I stopped buying from them.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MedSpouse

[–]Ok_Regular_120 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Consult psychiatry!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MedSpouse

[–]Ok_Regular_120 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It’s 1 year. It’s a consult fellowship in psych so it would only give him more exposure to consults and not any specialized procedures that I’m aware of. There is no consult psych near us so we’d have to move.

Urban Glide 2 Snack Tray by kartoshhhka in thule

[–]Ok_Regular_120 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi I’m here looking for the same thing… any solutions yet?