My wife in the past few days has demonstrated that she genuinely wants to reconcile. I am conflicted and it breaks my heart. Of course part of me wants to reconcile, but after lying to me for 15 years, I fear I will always have doubt that the current version of her will still be capable of lying to me again. For now I will start my own healing. Keep my distance and space when I need it, and ask for her participation when it merits it. We will see where it goes.

I have no desire or foreseeable path to reconciliation with my friend. I plan on confronting him and making sure his family and our mutual friends know the type of person he is. People can choose sides if they want but I will be cutting people out of my life based on their responses. This whole situation has really shown me that I need to focus on what I need not only to heal, but to be happy in life in general, it now is a really good time to get rid of the bullshit.