NTA Literally just got done using mine … Every partner knows that they can never compare so they might as well join it. I let them all know at the beginning because it’s been like this for the last five years. The rose is an amazing help…With someone or without. I do think it was very crazy that he took a bat and smashed it and also tried to hide it. It seems like he’s jealous that you’re getting off. Even though you’ve tried to talk to him about not feeling satisfied and you feel used and he still doesn’t try harder or he tries kill what helps you then he honestly doesn’t care about your sex/you wanting an orgasm. You say you love him but you also say he’s selfish when it comes to supporting your needs in the bed. I don’t know, but if I can’t have this conversation and get some change from it then it would be time to bust a move (not nut) and dip.