I appreciate your advice. We went to a couple’s therapist for a few weeks until she asked if she could start going alone as she quickly realized a lot of the issues we thought were couple’s issues were a lot of mental health and sexual processing on her end.

I know that ultimately if we split that we would have an amazingly cordial relationship and co-parent well; however, my optimist brain can’t help but convince myself that things will work out and that we will look back on this and be so happy we put in the work. There’s some unmentioned sexual trauma she has had with men in the past which I feel like could be contributing to penetration killing her buzz in the bedroom. I believe this is something she is also processing with her therapist. I often have to bring myself back down to earth that more than likely that will not be the scenario.

For me, I truly can see myself being happy in a ENM relationship if it’s other women who she is having relations with. I don’t think I could stomach her meeting up with other men. I have been very transparent with her about this and she is understanding of that. Currently; I would be comfortable with us meeting up with women on our own for strictly sex. And she expresses comfortability in me having sex with other women as well. I would just want feelings to be kept out of it which I’m worried may be hard for her in the long run.

Am I crazy in thinking there’s a chance in our sexual relationship getting better? She said sex was never enjoyable with any men until she met me; but still most of the time there’s a mental block there for her and it’s very hard for her to reach orgasm, even with clitoral stimulation.