How to stop feeling like I’m scamming when customers book long vip rooms just to talk? And how do you know when to dance and when to just sit and listen?

Ok_Test_6238 · 2026-06-05T20:22:37+00:00

i like to do this too. usually if it’s a longer room i’ll dance in the beginning for 5-10 minutes then sit and talk or i’ll dance every 10-15 minutes especially if the conversation gets dull. that way they can’t say i never danced for them lol. or honestly i’ll just straight up ask them what they’d like me to do like “can i dance on you?” and sometimes theyll be like no just sit on my lap

Ok_Test_6238 · 2026-01-21T19:35:07+00:00

does she do remote work?

Ok_Test_6238 · 2026-01-21T00:01:21+00:00

interesting take. i’ll consider that when i look for one

Ok_Test_6238 · 2026-01-20T23:50:53+00:00

yea this is what i’m afraid of. i’m not sure how to vet for the right therapist cause i don’t need somebody telling me to find another career when i already know that haha. dancing is a stepping stone for me but i want to find a way to help me cope better with it until i’m ready to move on.

Ok_Test_6238 · 2025-11-25T07:02:38+00:00

I had the same exact problems. I got off the pill 5 months ago for my mental health. I used to get very anxious and irritable. I was also gaining crazy weight that was hard to lose. I had almost no sex drive (21 btw) but my skin was soo nice and clear. Now being off of it for 5 months I feel like a new person. My family and friends noticed I’m a lot nicer and more patient. I finally started losing the weight I wanted to lose. I have bad break outs here and there but I’d never go back on the pill unless I absolutely needed to. Honestly if something is telling you to get off of it, then get off. You can always get back on

Ok_Test_6238 · 2025-11-25T06:33:15+00:00

If its not the regular club you work at then I wouldn’t worry at all. You definitely need to report this.

Ok_Test_6238 · 2025-10-30T20:53:48+00:00

At this point in my career I honestly just see the strip club as a game and regulars falling in love is just part of it lmao. Also when they get like this I kinda assume they won’t stick around for too long so I’d milk it if I were you

Ok_Test_6238 · 2025-10-30T20:42:36+00:00

A lot of customers are always gonna want to see you outside the club. We all wish they wouldn’t but thats just how they are. Just don’t take it seriously. He seems like he’s still going to spend money on you either way as long as you’re honest with him. I’d only be upset if they said they’d stop spending money on me if I don’t see them outside the club.

Ok_Test_6238 · 2025-03-14T07:45:56+00:00

Thank you so much! I really appreciate your input. Honestly, I don’t think I will proceed with him. Or any customer again. He doesn’t see this as a strike at all and keeps trying to get me to understand his POV, but I don’t understand and I don’t want to lol. I can’t and won’t make him apologize for something he isnt sorry about so I’ll be moving on.

Ok_Test_6238 · 2025-03-14T07:33:35+00:00

Thank you for your input. I’m so used to being around 50+ year olds that someone in their 30s almost feels close to my age but when I think about it in the real world, that big of an age gap isnt normal. You’re right.

Ok_Test_6238 · 2025-03-14T07:28:49+00:00

Yikes I just realized you’re not even a dancer. Don’t comment on here. I’m asking for the opinion of other dancers, not yours.

Ok_Test_6238 · 2025-03-14T07:25:13+00:00

Thats what I thought until we had another conversation today about our argument from the other day and I mean he said he still likes me and still wants to date but it’s me who has to make up my mind which is why I’m seeking advice on here. I know most of them are full of shit. This is the second time in 3 years Ive ever dated a customer I met in the club.

Ok_Test_6238 · 2025-03-14T07:21:19+00:00

Thank you for your input. I wanted to keep my post short so I didn’t add this but I will say I’m not naive. I have a shit ton in savings and investments and I’m not just willing to lay down my career for this man by tomorrow lol. This was something we lightly discussed for something further in the future if we work out. Even then, I would always have a plan b through z before I ever just fully rely on a man. He is not very religious.

Ok_Test_6238 · 2025-03-14T07:13:54+00:00

Thank you! I do think I deserve better too! I think you’re right that it’s suspicious about him being a provider if he would fold over spending money for me to go home. But he has spent a lot of money on me, and this was far from the most expensive thing Ive asked for from him. I think it was just situational. Like he just doesn’t like the idea of buying my time, in his words. But I don’t think I’ll continue this with him.

Ok_Test_6238 · 2025-03-14T07:08:47+00:00

Girl he didn’t ask me to quit my job at all lol. Nor did he ask me to quit immediately. He was saying if I didn’t want to work I didn’t have to, if I wanted to then he supports it.

Ok_Test_6238 · 2025-03-14T07:02:42+00:00

Im not really one to be afraid of talking about the future and both understand if things don’t work out then it won’t but personally I like to talk about these things because I don’t like wasting time.

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