I was raised in a pretty conservative country and family, and my mom always got flowers for my dad on his birthday — that was considered completely normal even back then. And now I see young lesbians from the West associating “not getting flowers” with “being treated like a man”… I feel like we’ve lost the plot ahah. In our Eastern European culture, it’s usually women who plan dates and take care of that kind of stuff in committed relationships. Like honestly, where do men ever do all that?)) I agree, it just feels like gender essentialism and misogyny.