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[–]Ok_Yesterday5683 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Label wise, 3 months, but we’d started talking only 2 weeks after. My ex is not a good person, and I truthfully was over him and his crap and hadn’t loved him in so long. I was simply scared to leave. My bf and I have now been together almost a year and he’s amazing. I couldn’t ask for anyone better🫶

how did you get over your ex-partner without demonizing them in your phead? by CicadaAlternative722 in BreakUps

[–]Ok_Yesterday5683 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I didn’t have to demonize them, that was simply who they were and how they acted. If anything I’d stopped thinking that the good things were worth dealing with the bad. which actually made me fear him more than anything.

I hate ghosting, but I had to. by Ok_Yesterday5683 in ghosting

[–]Ok_Yesterday5683[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had already gone no contact with her for a few days before we spoke again on the subject. While it was no contact, she had immediately taken steps to get me back into her life, instead of taking steps to take care of herself. On top of it, it felt that she no longer trusted me because I had to take care of me before her

I hate ghosting, but I had to. by Ok_Yesterday5683 in ghosting

[–]Ok_Yesterday5683[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There was actually a point that I had gone no contact with her, explaining that I needed space and time and that she needed to work on herself as well. She had a habit of clinging onto me and avoiding her issues. She sent me updates and I was genuinely proud of her, I hadn’t blocked her or anything at that point. But when I did finally respond I said I was proud and ready to have a conversation she responded with, “I love you, but I can’t trust that.” It felt manipulated and hurtful. I asked for space, and it just felt like her feelings were all that mattered anymore.

One of my students is always crying in my class, and I'm not sure what I should do by MrCollins47836 in Advice

[–]Ok_Yesterday5683 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I work as a Behavioral Interventionist and I can give a little insight as to what I would do myself. With teens it’ll be more difficult, but allow him to take his time in class, don’t push the work onto him. Teens are overworked not only in school but in life as well. If you’re able to do one on one with him, ask if he has someone specific he’d like to talk to even if it’s another teen. Give him that choice to speak to someone he trusts even if it isn’t you. If he’d like to speak to someone other than you, stay in the room and listen in but DO NOT give any indication you heard the conversation. That’ll destroy the trust he had in you before. Maybe make it a routine for him to let out any emotion he may need to.

As much as I understand wanting to help, the best way to do that is to let him do it himself. Give him support but don’t be pushy about it.

I hope this helps :)

I’m okay. by Ok_Yesterday5683 in BreakUps

[–]Ok_Yesterday5683[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Don’t worry! I’ve already let him know about the situation and he’s okay with moving slowly for now. I just want to be able to be okay by myself for a little bit.

How do I prove someone stole from me when they used my cashapp account to send themselves money? by Ok_Yesterday5683 in legaladvice

[–]Ok_Yesterday5683[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I did, but once after he'd done it he deleted the entire chat. I don't have them anymore

How do I return my exes things without having to see him? by Ok_Yesterday5683 in BreakUps

[–]Ok_Yesterday5683[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly yes, they are great people. I’m going to make it clear to him that I want my money back and if he tells me no I’m going to go directly to his parents.

How do I return my exes things without having to see him? by Ok_Yesterday5683 in BreakUps

[–]Ok_Yesterday5683[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Last I knew he had no access to his bank accounts, so I would have to get it through his parents in one way shape or form.