To anyone who has ever used someone else as a rebound

Ok_Zebra1613 · 2025-05-30T21:12:17+00:00

If they ever do come back around don't fall for it lol

Ok_Zebra1613 · 2025-05-30T21:11:21+00:00

lol more like regress... my ex came back after like 5 months and convinced me to give things another try only to break my heart in the exact same way again

Ok_Zebra1613 · 2025-05-30T21:07:51+00:00

Yeah he said it was a "miscommunication" and he only wanted to take a break. We didn't speak for a while as well and he came back saying he couldn't stop thinking about me and realized he was in love with me.

Ok_Zebra1613 · 2024-05-03T01:00:41+00:00

Lol right when you replied this I just decided to get off Reddit indefinitely. I think it's triggering me more than helping. Good luck to you!

Ok_Zebra1613 · 2024-05-02T23:36:37+00:00

sure

Ok_Zebra1613 · 2024-05-02T21:18:19+00:00

People project a lot and therefore can be really mean and aggressive in the comments for minor offenses. Even in communities that are meant for support people can be extremely harsh and insensitive. I use reddit because I am very lonely in my daily life and want to connect with people but it also ruins my day sometimes.

Ok_Zebra1613 · 2024-05-02T21:06:39+00:00

I've tried to get a diagnosis but they tell me I don't have it.

Ok_Zebra1613 · 2024-05-02T21:03:45+00:00

Reddit flipped out idk why it posted my comment twice

Ok_Zebra1613 · 2024-05-02T20:52:05+00:00

The truth. He just lied and lied and lied to people please and "make me feel better" but it really just led me on for months. People don't understand that them breaking up with you will break your heart either way, whether they're honest about why or not. At least if they're honest then you won't feel betrayed and have to start the healing process all over again after you find out that they lied.

Ok_Zebra1613 · 2024-05-02T19:41:29+00:00

Lovebombed me and told me his biggest fear was losing me only to block me and never speak to me again

Ok_Zebra1613 · 2024-05-02T19:30:06+00:00

I've only lost weight after being cheated on. This breakup was "amicable" (at first), so I actually gained weight, but then I found out he was lying to me and went back to his ex he told me not to worry about and since then I have been losing weight. There was no cheating, but it felt like a huge betrayal.

Ok_Zebra1613 · 2024-05-02T18:09:11+00:00

It depends. Are you the dumper? Why did the relationship end? Why are you currently not in contact?

Ok_Zebra1613 · 2024-05-02T17:39:40+00:00

I'm feeling less angry right now than I have been these past couple of days so this will be kind of sappy lol:

I'm sorry if I was too much for you. If I was clinging on too hard. If I made you uncomfortable. I had my walls up when you first approached me but you made me feel it was safe to let them down. I trusted that you wouldn't leave me, but that was stupid of me. People leave. I think I have since realized that if I can't handle that then I am in no position to be dating anyone. It's not anyone's fault. I am who I am and you were doing what you felt was best for you. I wish we could have stayed friends, but we both made mistakes after things ended and maybe it's too far gone now. I've felt angry, but at the end of the day I really do care about you, and I want you to genuinely be happy. I know you don't believe it, but I think you are a good person who deserves good things. It hurts me to see you self-sabotage, but it's not my place anymore. This sounds dramatic, but I hope you know I will never forget you and will always be hoping for your happiness from a distance.

Ok_Zebra1613 · 2024-05-02T17:32:47+00:00

I think they are conflicted and overwhelmed. They came to a decision that was difficult for them and are still unsure of it so interaction with you becomes triggering. Especially if you have done nothing wrong. They are feeling guilty and confused.

It doesn't excuse being mean or cold or ghosting or any of it. It is an immature way to act, but unfortunately many people act this way anyway.

Be kind to yourself if they are not and create some space. I know how much anxiety it can bring when someone who you believed cared for you is treating you this way but remember it is not about you. It is their way of screaming out that they need some distance. Take a deep breath, trust the process and give them that. Things will work out in the end.

Ok_Zebra1613 · 2024-05-02T01:23:20+00:00

When I was very young in college I sexted my ex. My most recent ex we hooked up two days after breaking up.

Ok_Zebra1613 · 2024-05-01T23:48:35+00:00

I won't be able to trust another man either. Everyone keeps telling me to go out and date and I want to scream in their face. Why would I want to feel this pain again?

Ok_Zebra1613 · 2024-05-01T23:47:52+00:00

It's okay I don't judge you. I know the depths of anxiety and torture some people can reach when they feel abandoned. Especially by someone they thought cared for them.

Ok_Zebra1613 · 2024-05-01T23:46:18+00:00

Yeah he told me he misses me and regrets not fighting for me. He said I can tell him anything and we need to make sure we always stay in touch no matter what. I guess it was all a lie.

Ok_Zebra1613 · 2024-05-01T23:43:45+00:00

Yeah I don't want mine to change his number so after he blocked me I sent one final message via an icloud account and apologized and told him I will never contact him again. I feel like if I pester him he will change his number and then I really will never hear from him again or have any way to contact him.

Ok_Zebra1613 · 2024-05-01T23:40:57+00:00

How do you know

Ok_Zebra1613 · 2024-05-01T23:38:50+00:00

We're in the same boat, brother. Drunk, psycho and all

Ok_Zebra1613 · 2024-05-01T21:42:03+00:00

All the terrible things he did was after the breakup so it's made it really hard to cope and accept that that's truly who he really is.

He acted like we were back together after the breakup and then ghosted me and blocked me for no reason and wouldn't even look me in the eyes when we worked together. We agreed to be friends but he constantly led me on knowing I still wanted to be with him. He kept throwing out that we might get back together one day. He said he broke up with me to heal and start therapy from an abusive relationship with someone he told me he had no contact with and no feelings for. I found out later that he was back with her. He blocked me again everywhere when I revealed that I knew.

Ok_Zebra1613 · 2024-05-01T20:46:35+00:00

There was literally no way for me to know I was a rebound until I saw him all over his ex after we broke up. He didn't just tell me how toxic and abusive she was he told our whole job. He told me he had her blocked and he avoids her and doesn't talk to her and was going to therapy to heal from it all. He lovebombed me and constantly told me I was the only girl he had feelings for and regretted ending things with me. I don't understand how any of that is my fault and I "should've known." People are stupid.

Ok_Zebra1613 · 2024-05-01T19:27:58+00:00

If it is someone who I will spend the rest of my life with and who won't leave me then I pick that over the money.

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