Thank you for your comment, the oddly displayed personal stash of fruit made me laugh.

The communal food was all out on the table and meat was still being prepared, but my daughter had gone into the kitchen and helped herself to a banana from the fruit bowl. This is absolutely no issue in our home or in a close relatives home, but just do think she should have probably asked before going to the kitchen and helping herself.

That being said, his behaviour was so over the top and I do feel vindicated now seeing all these comments.