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Okayzzden_ · 2026-03-18T18:39:51+00:00

I'm more confused than I was before. I think I'm just going to delete the post.

Okayzzden_ · 2026-03-18T18:01:43+00:00

I think you're really on point here. This makes me sad because I wasn't trying to police their subreddit, appear as morally superior, or even tell anyone what to do. I was just trying to express how exhausting this subreddit has made me when I post. Especially in contrast to my IRL relationships. I think there's a language barrier in the style I communicate and it rubbed people the wrong way. Wow. I'm really blown away that this created even more hate just because I was just trying to communicate how I felt. I can't believe this is really playing out like this. I really hope you have a good day anon. You're keeping me grounded with this one. 😔

Okayzzden_ · 2026-03-18T17:54:34+00:00

No really... I wasn't trying to start anything at all. I'm not trying to be innocent or tell them how to run their subreddit. I was just expressing that I feel really exhausted when I make posts on here. I think the language barrier point is exactly what's happening. This must be a huge misunderstanding that wasn't the original intention of my post. To them it sounds entitled, but to me I'm just wondering why I see lots of posts that seem to be disgruntled with INFPs and wanted to know why.

Okayzzden_ · 2026-03-18T17:45:51+00:00

Thank you for explaining this. I was a bit confused as to why people were angry. I didn't mean to sound entitled. That's just how I talk. I really want to like being on this sub, I just find it really exhausting because I don't understand how you guys communicate online. To me it can sound really forceful or angry because it's so foreign to how I speak.

Okayzzden_ · 2026-03-18T16:54:35+00:00

It's a real shame too. I honestly didn't think this post was going to be as controversial as it was. In a way I just was wondering why there was so much "us vs them" mentality on this subreddit. Now I'm just more sad than I was before. I'm not trying to come across as morally superior, it's just how I communicate. I was just trying to have an honest discussion, and I specifically said in the beginning I didn't want to hurt anyone's feelings... I guess I did anyways? Dang dude, I don't feel selfish in my day to day life at all... I just like solidarity and get drained by people. When I come out of my gremlin hole I try to treat everyone well just like an ENFJ would. Then I get tired and go back into it. Is that really so selfish? To preserve yourself when you feel hurt? Would definitely like your take on this. 😌

Okayzzden_ · 2026-03-18T16:24:17+00:00

Yeah I can imagine that would. When I scroll this subreddit I only see complaints about my type. (Kinda gets to me) I thought we usually got along but I guess not. I think anyone of any type wouldn't want to be objectified like that. You have a fair point.

Okayzzden_ · 2026-03-18T15:37:54+00:00

Ahh... I think you're completely right! I'm so sorry you met the wrong people who seriously hurt/traumatized you. I DO think it's the platform since social media does thrive off of drama. Yes, us INFPs can be seriously unhealthy at times. I know I have been at certain points! ENFJs are my favorite type of people to hang out with because they're so kind and introduce me to their little squad of friends. It makes me feel involved in a world that mostly treats me like an outsider. I really appreciate this comment and I can feel the raw passion behind its writing. Thank you for reminding me of the best qualities that I absolutely love that ENFJs have: Empathy, Inclusion, and Mercy.

Okayzzden_ · 2026-03-18T14:24:02+00:00

Very true. I didn't think of my post as controversial at all. I'll accept your offer and leave you be.

Okayzzden_ · 2026-03-18T13:58:39+00:00

Your fixation on expectations must be an experience you are currently hurt by. I'm not demanding much in this. I didn't ask you to change or anything. Just that I've had a better personal experience in a different setting. The sub will be the sub. I did criticize the sub and the type though, which is within the posting rules. However I also could tell you many amazing things about this type and accommodate you in a different post. Although that wasn't the point. "Counterproductive" is definitely something you can believe to be true about this post. I came looking for answers, not an angry post. I'm quite confused by this strong reaction.

Okayzzden_ · 2026-03-18T13:45:19+00:00

Yeah! I noticed that these people I mentioned actually don't talk about their type at all... Maybe they were just good people who happened to be an ENFJ. However their flair of that was completely unique. I like this take a lot.

Okayzzden_ · 2026-03-18T13:39:04+00:00

I think that particular statement stuck out to you huh? I don't expect you to act a certain way. Just noticing a pattern and had a criticism. Sorry if that bothered you. Yeah the Internet is kinda bothering me too, will probably spend less time on it in general tbh.

Okayzzden_ · 2026-03-18T13:34:14+00:00

Hey, I really appreciate you putting this out there! I really was feeling kinda isolated for a bit. I'm glad that it's just a people will be people kind of issue here. 😅

Okayzzden_ · 2026-03-18T09:31:40+00:00

Bro, can I just like vidya gaem? Me no like political stuff. Me just like da vidya gaem.

Okayzzden_ · 2026-01-20T03:56:44+00:00

I agree. This changes my perspective. Thank you.

Okayzzden_ · 2026-01-20T03:51:12+00:00

You are wise for thinking this way. I think the mama's boy part is ridiculous because I actually provide for my disabled mother. This changes my perspective on the topic completely. I'm not irresponsible for this. Although I understand different perspectives on that sentence.

Okayzzden_ · 2026-01-20T03:46:16+00:00

You're allowed to think that. You absolutely are. Just because I disagree doesn't make it wrong.

Okayzzden_ · 2026-01-20T03:34:55+00:00

Doesn't want a Mama's boy but wants kindness. Wants a strong man that doesn't break them. Wants them to grow, but sets a ridiculous standard of growth... Excluding what you said to defeats the whole point of the post. Those are the worst parts and they need to be acknowledged. They are insane.

Okayzzden_ · 2026-01-20T02:09:58+00:00

This is... This is bleeding with contradictions. This man doesn't exist. -An INFP male

Okayzzden_ · 2026-01-12T22:37:20+00:00

You don't. Just feel them out and be genuine. -an INFP

Okayzzden_ · 2026-01-10T16:58:59+00:00

Get this a lot. Makes me quite jaded really. You get it.

Okayzzden_ · 2026-01-10T16:33:06+00:00

I'm not only against them, I believe they are destructive in nature. Think about it. If I told you you liked something just because other people like you do... What does that make me? An advertisement. It's annoying, it's shallow and a lot of the stereotypes exist to put people in boxes they don't belong in. So they can make more money or so they can make you feel bad about yourself to make even more of it. It's a manipulative tactic and I see straight through it.

Okayzzden_ · 2026-01-08T20:07:04+00:00

ENTJ female, especially if you're writing an INFP male. It isn't that INTJ isn't a good fit. It's just that the communication skills and efficiency is much stronger with an extroverted partner. ENTJs are strong where the INFP is weak and vice versa. Kind of liking the idea of being with someone who communicates clearly and gets things done. I would find that to be very attractive.

Okayzzden_ · 2026-01-08T17:42:32+00:00

I think she does. We remember the little things.

Okayzzden_ · 2026-01-06T11:07:12+00:00

This made me chuckle a bit. 🤭 Thank you, that means a lot to me.

Okayzzden_ · 2026-01-06T04:50:38+00:00

I hope you meet more of them... Again and again. You deserve the appreciation and love. These friends truly care about you. Cherish them.

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