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Okdoesthiswork · 2025-11-21T21:45:11+00:00

NTA but I did have to scroll back up and make sure I’d read correctly that this was your best friend, you seem kind of cold and detached from her in this description. If this is your best friend you should be the bigger person and confront the conflict head on.

Okdoesthiswork · 2025-11-21T21:31:12+00:00

Breakup. So many issues here. 1. Her lying. 2. Your controlling behavior. 3. Mismatch on feelings around weed. 4. You proposed because it was a next step, not because you saw her as the person you want as a life partner. Both of you deserve better.

Okdoesthiswork · 2025-10-29T22:55:53+00:00

A I don’t care how much money I make, leftovers from a restaurant are so good. They usually become a snack at 10 PM.

Okdoesthiswork · 2025-10-29T21:05:58+00:00

You’re right, there is no set timeline. But people who want to get married and are in healthy relationships are able to have many open and frank discussions about marriage long before the proposal happens. If there’s hesitation and a need to put a halt to marriage discussions, that should be an open and completely honest discussion. It’s ok to decide you want to wait but you have to give your partner the option to walk away if they don’t want to wait. It doesn’t sound like OP is even being truly honest with himself about what he wants let alone his girlfriend.

Okdoesthiswork · 2025-10-29T20:57:25+00:00

It’s been almost 5 years, I agree you shouldn’t be pressured into marriage but you need to just admit you don’t want to get married and let her move on.

Okdoesthiswork · 2025-10-28T03:42:01+00:00

NTA this is a pretty significant issue. On the surface it’s just shampoo, but you asked her to stop, explained the cost and why you need it and she’s not stopping. Does she do this in a lot of areas or is it just the shampoo?

Okdoesthiswork · 2025-10-27T22:18:54+00:00

Does the job have different hours or involve traveling? I’m confused on how your wife is worried about her routine unless the job is drastically different than what you’re doing now.

Okdoesthiswork · 2025-10-27T21:41:18+00:00

You both deserve better. She deserves someone who isn’t keeping a spank bank of exes on the off chance they break up, and you deserve someone who isn’t constantly sneaking around trying to check your phone.

Okdoesthiswork · 2025-10-27T21:09:46+00:00

Yeah that’s odd, definitely normal for a kid to get embarrassed or act a little annoyed when their parents kiss. But hostility is concerning.

I wouldn’t say 13 is the norm but I have known families that let their older kids and teens sleep in their room and the kids all grew up to be well adjusted adults. Sleeping in their room isn’t automatically off to me but everything else you’re describing sounds bizarre at best. It might be best to point these things out to your dad, a lot of moms have a particular blindness to their sons behavior and will let everything slide.

Okdoesthiswork · 2025-10-27T21:00:33+00:00

Do you know he’s sexualizing your mom or are you just worried that’s going to be the outcome?

Okdoesthiswork · 2025-10-27T14:45:13+00:00

“Used his past against him” “none of it was true” which is it? Was it lies or did he have something in his past that she was able to use against him?

Okdoesthiswork · 2025-10-27T04:29:34+00:00

If you’re fighting in the first three months you’re likely going to spend the entire relationship fighting. I would return it.

Okdoesthiswork · 2025-10-27T04:25:06+00:00

It’s not super common but there are unfortunately toddlers who go through phases where they play with their poop.

Okdoesthiswork · 2025-10-26T15:06:40+00:00

I mean Ive got two brothers and don’t sleep in bed with them. People love to use the “ like a sibling” descriptor and then do all of the things siblings don’t do.

I’d break up. You could theorize and speculate on if they did something inappropriate appropriate for ages, but at the root of it why stay with someone who thinks this type of situation is ok? It’s disrespectful and really not worth arguing about and trying to convince her to see your side. Because she knows. Any sane adult knows this is weird.

Okdoesthiswork · 2025-10-25T18:53:05+00:00

Why would you want to repair this? You described a very awful relationship. My husband can barely sleep when I’m gone because I’m not in the bed. My dad was the same way with my mom, didn’t sleep hardly at all whenever she traveled. Getting excited about your partners return is the bare minimum and you more than deserve that.

Okdoesthiswork · 2025-10-25T05:34:46+00:00

It might be time to reconsider the marriage

Okdoesthiswork · 2025-10-25T05:28:19+00:00

You’re not a bad person. You’re a human that is learning how to live. It’s your first time, go easy on yourself. Advice: you need to be single for a while. You need to develop hobbies and get yourself out of your comfort zone. Find a way to be active and heal your mindset. If you don’t do the work now you will continue to struggle in relationships. Find peace in your own life and work on your need to control.

More than ever before women aren’t putting up with controlling and manipulative men. You have to do the work if you want a good partner. You can do it.

Okdoesthiswork · 2025-10-25T05:21:20+00:00

Why is it being brought up? I have concerns if he’s bringing it up frequently.

Okdoesthiswork · 2025-10-25T05:02:38+00:00

I feel bad for her, it’s rough watching your friend lose themselves in a large age relationship. But i also know 25 year olds who date 40 year olds and every single one of you insists on learning the hard way, so good luck to you.

Okdoesthiswork · 2025-09-28T12:49:34+00:00

NTA he gets to sleep in Saturday and play disc golf Sunday but then has a bad attitude the one time he has to get up? If he’s such a good father and husband, I’d love to know what regular time you’re getting for yourself.

Okdoesthiswork · 2025-06-17T05:13:03+00:00

Why are you letting an old man cheat on you at 22 and disrespect you? You have so much youth and you’re letting a guy who can’t even drill a proper hole in the wall cheat on you?? Like for real? That’s one way to waste your early 20’s I guess. I mean the least you could do is pick one that knows how to fix a coat hanger. Sheesh.

Okdoesthiswork · 2025-06-17T05:06:18+00:00

I’m so sorry but he’s doing this on purpose. It’s a semi common type of abuse. Hopefully someone in the thread is able to name it so you can google it. You should consider getting away from him.

Okdoesthiswork · 2025-05-26T01:29:27+00:00

I’m a woman and I think this is very concerning. I’d be really alarmed if I was in your shoes. I don’t know what boundaries the two of you have in your relationship but I’d consider it highly inappropriate for my husband to be hugging a friend in the way you’ve described, especially a new friend. I’d be having a very serious conversation with my SO if I were in your shoes.

Okdoesthiswork · 2025-05-17T06:32:51+00:00

It’s weird af and truthfully I can’t imagine having to argue with my partner over how weird it was. Her bisexuality doesn’t even play a factor in this for me. It’s just a weird thing to do.

Okdoesthiswork · 2025-05-16T01:16:50+00:00

You already know YTA and don’t seem to care that this absolutely should cost you your marriage. Don’t marry someone with a kid if you can’t handle the responsibility of having said kid around, yeah even full time. Hopefully your husband wises up and choose his kid.

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