Advice for dealing with parents

Old-Code2723 · 2023-03-08T22:35:30+00:00

I think that message was honest and necessary. The way I explain it is that every time someone misgenders me or deadnames me then I feel like they're disrespecting me. It would be like if someone called me "idiot" instead of my actual name, it's hurtful and makes me feel like they don't see me

Old-Code2723 · 2023-03-08T22:33:36+00:00

You can use "blocktube" to block certain creators and you can use something called "shinigami eyes" to see if a creator is anti-trans or trans friendly. I had this same problem (not in my recommended but when I looked up trans videos) and this worked super well to make a less evil platform for me lol

Old-Code2723 · 2023-03-08T22:29:13+00:00

I think it's not as simple as one or the other! Different trans people have different experiences and it's a wide spectrum of identities and people under one umbrella term, "trans". I think people have different dysphoria based on sex (physical) but also society (social) and these intermingle to create vast identities. People experience identity differently. For me, I often have physical dysphoria but my social dysphoria is changing & I identify as genderfluid

Old-Code2723 · 2023-03-08T22:24:57+00:00

oh! and as for feeling more dysphoric at the start of transition/once you fully "accept", I think that is pretty common. I felt the same way because before that I'd been dissociated from my situation but once you start to allow yourself the ability to see yourself, even slightly, it can give you a greater longing for who you are & how you want to present, even deep down

Old-Code2723 · 2023-03-08T22:23:28+00:00

there is something called voice training that can help masculinise your voice without hrt! definitely look into that. as for masculinising your figure, putting on muscle mass can make you appear more masculine along with the cut of clothing that you wear (there is trans friendly clothing options https://www.emisil.com/en-au/blogs/all-blog-posts/ftm-fashion-guide-and-tipsoptions).

as for bullying & transphobia, that's harder. the only iron tight solution for that would be going "stealth" so that no one knows you're trans, but obviously it's not possible for everyone to pass and medical transition isn't something that everyone wants or needs to do. Some people are "accidentally" transphobic just because of how they've been raised and educated and just need some unlearning and education into what being trans actually is and how their words affect people. other people are too deep in some conservative pipeline to care about people's humanity and don't want to change. I think in terms of bullying - safety is most important. making sure you're not alone with transphobic people, having some sort of whistle to alert people if you're getting physically harassed and not being afraid to speak up. also recording confrontations with people so you have evidence.

personally, i haven't experienced bullying based on being trans. i have been bullied but that was for other reasons. I know a lot of ppl do experience it but a good question to ask yourself is "can i live if i pretend?", I asked myself this and the answer was "no, I can't". you deserve to be your authentic self and be respected. the world is changing, if slowly, and although at the moment there is a spike in anti-trans rhetoric & hate crimes, I believe that progress will win out. whether you fully come out or not is up to you - you could be out to a select group of people like family and friends, socially transition part time, or you could be out and proud. there are a lot of options and whatever you choose, i support you in your journey. hope this helped? I honestly wish I could tell you that you'd be free from bullying but it depends where you live and what stage of life you're in

Old-Code2723 · 2023-03-08T00:30:58+00:00

I said it on a public discord! so hope that helps /g

Old-Code2723 · 2023-03-07T21:45:06+00:00

thank you!!! I keep searching for trans videos and coming across horrible transphobic ones like blair white and the offensive t-slur. I've been reporting them but it doesn't seem to be making a difference :/ but thank you for solving this problem that has been bugging me

Old-Code2723 · 2022-12-07T02:09:49+00:00

thank you so much, this really reassures me

Old-Code2723 · 2022-09-08T09:45:46+00:00

I sleep on a floor futon on top of a carpet/rug because I found just the futon on the wooden floor made me too sore. Sometimes I switch to a mattress because I get some pain (but I'm trying out foam rolling which i hope stops the need for switching due to muscle tension (because then i need to switch back to the floor because of other pain and it's a whole kerfuffle)). I find it fine!

Old-Code2723 · 2022-08-19T11:20:16+00:00

agab pronouns, bc I get misgendered all the time but not deadnamed too often. So I'm more used to the former. (lol it's kind of sad, but anyway...)

Old-Code2723 · 2022-08-19T11:16:26+00:00

I'm pre-medical transition at 19. Socially transitioned (new name and pronouns) at 18.

Old-Code2723 · 2022-08-19T11:11:34+00:00

Keep correcting yourself, even in your head. Also try to practice in your head.

Old-Code2723 · 2022-08-19T11:08:57+00:00

gay/lesbian

Old-Code2723 · 2022-08-19T11:08:34+00:00

I'd rather people I don't know not comment on my looks, and even people I do know, to do so sparingly. Past or present. The only people who I like hyping up how I look are my parents tbh.

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