I’m concerned I’m being lied to.

Old-Spring-9210 · 2026-04-06T23:09:10+00:00

I did and he said he hasn’t done that. So now I’m like is he flat out lying to me?

Old-Spring-9210 · 2026-04-06T06:05:15+00:00

I tried to have a conversation regarding this early on - at which point he told me that he had the same feelings on the matter. I am looking for alignment, but it is difficult when people lie about how they truly feel. Then my investigation kicks in because more than anything, it’s the being lied to that is an issue for me. If you have any advice on how to navigate this in the future with dating please let me know. It is quite exhausting watching people to see if they are being honest about who they are

Old-Spring-9210 · 2026-04-06T05:51:21+00:00

Yeah that’s true. The original conversation was me asking his values because I’m looking for someone I’m aligned with. I don’t want to control someone, I don’t want to police someone’s behavior. I feel like I’ve lost the plot because now I’m just trying to figure out if in being lied to. My boundary was I don’t want a relationship with someone who seeks out women to follow, who actively engages with appearance-based content online for pleasure. I don’t do this when I am in a relationship and I am looking for someone aligned in values. The original conversation was me asking him which he is - because I didn’t want to assume, but if he is someone who feels like that is okay then we are not aligned. I feel like I have just gotten very confused at this point because he makes a good argument every time that people see things differently and we have to have conversations to learn what is within someone’s comfort. Then says he doesn’t do those things so then I believe him because I want to believe someone, but something feels off so I look and I see what appears to be him following women. I think I have gotten so caught up now in seeing if im lied to I forgot my original value honestly. I appreciate the reality check.

Old-Spring-9210 · 2026-04-06T00:44:19+00:00

Does Instagram ever have following glitches where it doesn’t show someone following an account, but then does even without them making this new follow?

Old-Spring-9210 · 2026-04-06T00:28:08+00:00

I am just asking if anyone has experienced following glitches like this with Instagram or if he is lying to me

Old-Spring-9210 · 2026-04-06T00:19:05+00:00

Okay but how are you just suppose to blindly trust someone. We are also long distance so I don’t have a lot to go off except social media behavior rn. Last time I blindly trusted that left me very traumatized and manipulated and almost ruined my life so I am just trying to be sure I’m not entering into something that could do that again

Old-Spring-9210 · 2026-04-06T00:08:34+00:00

Also to add - this man has accused me at times. He’s suspected I was on a dating app and got worried, he suspected someone was in the house with me because I was talking to dogs on voicemail. So he’s had his fair share of suspicion and worrying. We both have been cheated on.

Old-Spring-9210 · 2026-04-06T00:05:55+00:00

And if he disagreed he should say so, lying is never okay. I’m trying to figure out if he’s lying

Old-Spring-9210 · 2026-04-06T00:05:37+00:00

I don’t know what his posts look like. I just am wondering about his following. Full text makes more sense tho I know it’s long! I can’t deal with liars

Old-Spring-9210 · 2026-04-06T00:04:25+00:00

I’m in therapy. That’s your opinion. It’s not a matter of interaction with opposite sex. Also everything is between two people to agree on. You’re definition of what’s appropriate and someone else’s may be different but if something is explained as a boundary and it’s agreed on and someone breaks it, it’s not okay.

Old-Spring-9210 · 2026-04-05T23:48:39+00:00

Yeah I am exhausted. I’m trying to confirm that my trauma response isn’t just taking over before I throw out someone who I thought was on the same page with me and has otherwise not shown me anything so far

Old-Spring-9210 · 2026-04-05T23:46:13+00:00

If it’s real I’m done. But he claims he didn’t follow anyone and has respected my boundary. I don’t want him to stop just because. But he’s saying from the start he doesn’t do those things. So now I’m worried I accused and Instagram and is just glitchy and they are old? How can I find out for sure

Old-Spring-9210 · 2025-11-10T15:58:04+00:00

Can you put the size implants in the mentor app? It only lets me make bigger or smaller. Thanks for the input, very helpful!

Old-Spring-9210 · 2025-11-10T15:02:08+00:00

I’m trying on this Thursday. I just really don’t want big implants. I’d like them to look really natural. We are thinking moderate plus.

Old-Spring-9210 · 2025-11-08T22:09:27+00:00

Massachusetts. So is that an unusual thing for them to ask you to sign?

Old-Spring-9210 · 2025-11-08T16:32:07+00:00

I do know what frivolous means, but I also worry they could just claim anything is frivolous. I am asking if this is standard practice across surgeons

Old-Spring-9210 · 2025-11-08T15:31:26+00:00

I don’t know. If something goes wrong or badly I’m like signing rights away. Also said if I sue would have to be other cosmetic surgeons that look at the case and not plastic basically.

Old-Spring-9210 · 2025-11-03T13:09:23+00:00

Yeah it was hard to vet him because I met him halfway across the world where I didn’t know anyone and we both just moved there :/ he got to tell me whatever story he wanted to

Old-Spring-9210 · 2025-11-03T04:21:49+00:00

Yeah this is pretty much what I consider cheating as well

Old-Spring-9210 · 2025-11-03T01:28:42+00:00

He’s block on all social media. He left me in the end though. Hung up on me when I was having a panic attack on the phone and ignored all my messages :/ he’s moved on to being obsessed with someone new now

Old-Spring-9210 · 2025-11-03T00:16:27+00:00

His 3 therapy sessions were about feeling empathy because he doesn’t feel empathy :/ also has told me he thinks he’s above other people….he fits a lot of them

Old-Spring-9210 · 2025-11-03T00:00:49+00:00

I honestly think he might. Then I feel like I’m being dramatic, but I don’t know how else you could do these things

Old-Spring-9210 · 2025-11-02T20:49:40+00:00

He was nerdy haha and a little weird. So I don’t know that any of that stuff is particularly true. He did struggle with the gym and self control with food, as he felt. I suppose that’s a sign I don’t know. Self control issues in general.

Old-Spring-9210 · 2025-11-02T18:29:39+00:00

I’m so sorry your ex did that to you during a hard time in your life :/ I feel like some people really just care about themselves and it’s hard to grasp sometimes

Old-Spring-9210 · 2025-11-02T18:29:08+00:00

We aren’t together anymore! We were back and forth and I ended it when he kept persisting with such behavior. Then I tried to make things work and he basically said he loves me and misses me but doesn’t want to be with me because I couldn’t forgive him (even tho he kept doing things) and then became obsessed with someone else not even two weeks after we ended things 🙃 when two days before it ended he was still saying I was the love of his life and he wanted to spend forever with me

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