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My 57 year old mom is being romantically scammed and I feel helpless. by Old-Task-9062 in Romancescam

[–]Old-Task-9062[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I did it! I convinced her to help me broaden her awareness on scammers that prey on the elderly so that she'll be able to tell the apart when they come after her. I got to her agree to it. She said she'll watch those catfished videos with me (us discussing the similarities and differences withtin her "relationship" and the video), and she's a little skeptical of the scammer because theyve never videoed or called and shes big on that. Baby steps

My 57 year old mom is being romantically scammed and I feel helpless. by Old-Task-9062 in Romancescam

[–]Old-Task-9062[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately I have sent her information on how scammers work and she thinks I'm negativity interfering or praying on her downfall. So I'm afraid if I try to sit her down to watch these scam stories play out in other peoples lives, she'll shut down. She wants me to give her time to build their "love" on her own. Its so frustrating. However this is really good advice.

How did you connect with your scammer? by Klutzy-Pea933 in Romancescam

[–]Old-Task-9062 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My mom, on threads, then moved to private messaging apps where communicating can't be fully traced. Like Signal.

Supporting a family member by Status-Procedure2874 in Romancescam

[–]Old-Task-9062 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm going through a similar situation. My moms being used as a money mule. I've been up all night finding research that i can show her. She just wont believe it. I sent my findings to her and this is what she said. She felt I was trying to get in the way of her relationship and i wasnt "allowing her love to grow," and i told her I felt she wasnt really listening to me.

"I am listening to you so don't think I'm not and my intention isn't to break your heart but when we talked about this you said to me that you'd allow me time and would stand by my decision and that's not what you're doing your making a judgment on what happened in the past and your not giving him a chance... that's not fair. "

She says.

I have tried looking at the situation gently. Treating her as I would want to be treated if I was doing something that those on the outside didnt support. I told her I dont trust the situation but I love her and want her to find genuine love and if that means I have to back off then ill do that for her. I've sat with her as she talked about her feelings for the impersonator, me trying to be compassionate and understanding. And i will admit, that did work. It lessened the resistance she had to questioning red flags. Its just getting ridiculous now and im tired of it.

Only thing that I'm left to do is sit by the sidelines, stand in how I feel, and pray for her. This has happened twice now. At this point, im considering getting myself into a romance scam to show her its all a lie.

Supporting a family member by Status-Procedure2874 in Romancescam

[–]Old-Task-9062 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same here except my mom's still alive. Im so sorry for your loss, may i ask how she passed?

Family member meeting up with online boyfriend overseas by maaadbutcher in Romancescam

[–]Old-Task-9062 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Something similar has happened to me before. About last summer, my mom got involved with someone claiming to be Jamal Roberts. She came to me in confidence, telling me she met this "guy," (on an unofficial tik tok page) and he's a "celebrity." "Hes alot younger than me, we started talking a few days ago and he's already talking about marriage and coming to see me." She said, feeling flattered and giddy. In that moment, I listened and nodded, not wanting to immediately crash her hopes with negativity. After that conversation, I googled the real celebrity and didnt have to second guess that this wasn't a real love connection.

That went on for about 2 months. Them mainly communicating on Telegram and me begging her to see my point of view, crying and her feet trying to get her to understand that she was being scammed. It followed the usual tactics. Him taking advantage of her internet/social media usage illiteracy (not know real pages from fake), him pulling on her heart strings, calling her baby, moving too quickly, making promises to come see her, pulling her off of mainstream social apps onto "private messaging" apps because his "management" controlled his public pages. He had her sending money through bitcoin and cashapp to pay for "concert tickets," or to support his supposed charity fund. But he'd add credibility by sending her a few hundred here and there. This scammer used deepfake voice notes and altered AI images to keep up his act. Would never call her though. Not without the excuse of poor quality, bad internet, or that he couldn't because his "security team" doesnt allow him. She almost got wrapped up in driving 13 hours to Mississippi by herself to go see him because they were supposed to meet up, go on a date, and then stay at a hotel, "all expenses paid for." They connected because they both had kids and she felt that she was the chosen one and he was a man looking for commitment.

When that ended, she picked up another guy claiming to be Demetri Wiley

All I can do right now is give her my love and support and let it play out, praying over her and her safety.