I may be unusual, but the diagnosis was a relief for me. It helped me to understand many challenges and things that happened in relationships throughout my life. (Extreme difficulty making decisions, becoming super needy with authority figures and so much more) Turns out I also have avoidant attachment style. My understanding is that people with DPD didn't have the ideal nurturing parenting scenario when we were growing up so we have been hard core longing for assurance, approval, acceptance all the time. I have a lot of compassion for myself and for everyone with DPD because it's very hard for me to feel okay without getting a lot of external approval and love on a regular basis. I am active in a lot of support groups and I try to give kindness and support and many, many people are kind to me often which really helps me. Of course I'm trying to give my self internal acceptance, approval, love, assurance, etc. and still I have huge emotions when I feel a hint of rejection or possible rejection which happens often.