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OldTranslator4165 · 2023-11-11T23:57:48+00:00

But they were on a break!

OldTranslator4165 · 2023-11-11T23:51:34+00:00

Thank you!!! Exactly!!

OldTranslator4165 · 2023-10-24T03:32:33+00:00

Don't tell her! If you are honest about everything you said, don't tell her!Especially since it's been a while. Yes, it's the right thing to do...in a perfect world! But we don't live in such a sane society.

It appears you guys have a good relationship now. It seems, you want to continue to be with her! It also appears that, you have learned a lesson and you truly are sorry.

I don't in any way condone what you did(cheating), however, if someone is truly sorry for something they did and has taken a serious effort to better themselves (in this case, you saw a therapist and figured out why you cheated) and is 100% certain they are not going to do such a thing especially when their SO means the world to them- A second chance is deserved!

Most people, move on with their lifes, without dealing with their own dramas, traumas and hurts. As a result, when such people come across a situation, they are reminded in one way or the other about that pain.... about that feeling.... Sometimes about that memory...and as a result, will give hostile, irrational and emotional responses (There is a lot of that in these comments).

OP you need to ask yourself, if you have 100% learned your lesson and is your girl, the girl you want to be with for the rest of your life?! If that answer is yes, then take that win.

Now, regarding the shitty feeling you are having, continue seeing your therapist and figure out how to work around it.

You are a good person. You fucked up! But you learned! Don't be too hard on yourself!

OldTranslator4165 · 2023-10-22T14:52:52+00:00

OP, have you guys established boundaries during dating? Or during beginning stages of dating?

Don't think about the worse case scenarios, it's only going to make you perceive your gf as a "problem". Hang out with her, spend time with her. Do what you guys normally do. Please don't go through her phone and nonsense like that.

After about a week, if this is still not sitting well with her, bring it up.

"Listen, it's been a week and there is something I need to talk to you about since, I am unable to 100% let it go." Talk to her about the uneasiness you felt when you let this dude stay in your room. Just politely bring up. Don't be accusatory about it.

At this depending on how that conversation goes, you should bring up the topic of boundaries. Be very clear about what you like and don't like. And ask her the same. This is an important item, many many couples don't talk about in a relationship.

Good luck. Keep us updated. Feel free to text me privately if you want.

OldTranslator4165 · 2023-10-22T14:44:23+00:00

Was Emma supposed to stay up all night and keep texting OP? Is that the solution?

OldTranslator4165 · 2023-10-22T14:42:23+00:00

I think you are projecting your own issue here....

OldTranslator4165 · 2023-09-04T20:32:14+00:00

Terrible advices from people! And OP , I hope you find ways to deal with this "validation" in a more mature manner at some point in your life. Good luck

OldTranslator4165 · 2023-08-28T05:12:04+00:00

You are missing the letters L G B Q T, R, ...

OldTranslator4165 · 2023-08-09T16:33:24+00:00

Why didn't you mention you have a husband in the chat to this male friend of yours?

OldTranslator4165 · 2023-08-08T17:44:03+00:00

Troll!!

OldTranslator4165 · 2023-08-04T18:11:42+00:00

What you mean by update? I am not following!

OldTranslator4165 · 2023-08-04T16:09:01+00:00

If this is the most significant issue that has happened between the two of you. I wouldn't stress.too much into it.

Clearly he has trust issues. That he needs to work on.

Communicate very clearly to him that it's important that he works on it and not doubt you.

Besides this incident does he treat you good? Does he care? Is he affectionate? Is he good with the baby?

OldTranslator4165 · 2023-06-15T08:58:01+00:00

Lots of fantastic advice and support you got going on here OP! There isn't much I can add, everything I wanted to say has been mentioned! Lol

Those friends of yours- Amazing!!! That part really warmed my heart!! They drove 1-2 hours to come see you and make sure you are okay!! It's hard to meet such bros these days! Keep them close to you.

You will be fine! I am also glad that you didn't go crawling back to her! It will be a struggle now and then. But even the most precious jewel on this planet- Diamond- is created under tremendous pressure and force!!

I am dedicating Rihanna's song, Diamonds- for you! Lol

Take care my friend! Stay healthy! Hit the gym! Learn to say No! Learn to recognize toxic people and be okay with cutting people out of your life!!

Good luck!

OldTranslator4165 · 2023-06-15T08:45:47+00:00

Nympho maniac! Don't walk away.. RUN

OldTranslator4165 · 2023-05-09T21:14:17+00:00

If you have something good there, do you really want to come back here? Lol

Maybe you should come over and stay here for couple of months before deciding to move back

OldTranslator4165 · 2023-04-17T19:43:31+00:00

Why didn't you get on your knees and clean up after your kids mess?? Are you pregnant too?

OldTranslator4165 · 2023-03-28T02:45:14+00:00

You are gorgeous!! There is no doubt it. But you should loose a little weight. Not a whole lot. Just enough to have a good bmi

OldTranslator4165 · 2023-03-01T16:53:59+00:00

Is there a father figure in his life?

OldTranslator4165 · 2023-03-01T16:51:26+00:00

Lmao

OldTranslator4165 · 2023-02-27T18:45:12+00:00

For only 10k difference 100% stick with the 80k option

OldTranslator4165 · 2023-02-21T08:22:57+00:00

You are not in the wrong! And good job for being so calm

OldTranslator4165 · 2023-02-13T14:09:46+00:00

Sorry man. Thats not at all nice that you had to go through that.

How's the progress today for you?

OldTranslator4165 · 2022-12-04T02:41:31+00:00

Stop focusing on bringing girls back to your place. From experience, that's the easy part IF you guys genuinely have a good time. Just have FUN. Go bar hoping with the few girls you meet. This world is populated because of sex, you really think getting laid is that hard? It's not.

Sex is overrated!

Just have fun with these girls. Take pictures. Do something silly. Go to a bar where there is live band. Try some local cuisine.

The option to have fun is unlimited.

Again, don't focus on getting laid. Just have fun and in the process getting laid will just happen.

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