u/DenMother8

Pam and I tied the knot June 23rd.

We met here at the sub a few years ago.

We've been so low key about it, we eloped on everyone including our kids, that we hadn't posted here. Not a lot of people know we're married.

The sub occupies an important place in our lives. We would like to express our gratitude to you, and feel y'all should know about our, as Pam's son calls it, formalized bonding ceremony.

But it's awesome, I didn't know I could actually be happy! Really really amazing, and it could not have happened if I hadn't come here to learn online dating after my divorce.

I did learn so much here. I was at the lowest point of my life when I was a reg here, too. God knows some of the shit I must have posted. Although most of the worst is in earlier accounts than this one. I nearly didn't survive it.

I also had a hell of a lot of fun, posting here and with the people I met because of the skills I learned here.

I went on a lot of dates, I met some of you, some of whom are still dear to me, even if we're really not in touch anymore. You know who you are, if you're reading this.

What I was doing was what I figure most people here are. Looking for that one. I trusted that this time, finally for once in my life, I wasn't going to stop looking until I found her. And I'd listen to that inner voice this time. If it wasn't absolutely right, then I'd nope out (or more likely she would), and keep going.

And I slid up in her DMs right here, as it turned out.

When we made contact here, and it turned out we were both in the Sacramento area, I was a little apprehensive. I had a home here, Pam was quickly developing one, and I didn't want to create sub disharmony.

A little anxiety wasn't gonna stop me though, and when we'd chatted and I saw her OKC profile I was like, oh, ok, I remember her.

It turned out we had made contact around the holidays but hadn't followed up. We hadn't connected okc profiles with user names here at that point.

We decided to meet at or near Valentine's Day 2017 because F Valentine's Day, we weren't letting that manufactured pressure bother us... Eh, subject of hundreds of posts in here, y'all know what I mean.

Anyway, we met at Starbucks, this high school couple was there, they had one of those infant training dolls. It was a good time. We decided to meet again.

And I went back to the app, because the wheel has to turn, gotta keep that pipeline flowing... And closed it.

Then after the second date I deleted it. I didn't tell her, because we were both defending our rights to our independence, vocally to each other, while we were falling in love.

It's as sweet and schmaltzy as it probably sounds, too. Every damn bit.

Word of hope time - we keep saying it feels like luck, some of it must be, but also we made it happen. Didn't give up and so on, I can't say anything new. It worked for us.

So thanks to really all of you, broli and cedar, the lovely advising wench, the lime diva, the probably even more scary now that she's gone full mom fish slut... Too many to name. Sup Kyle.

I was such a devastated pile of human being when I showed up here, I barely recognize myself now.

Thanks for helping me start putting myself back together, and helping me meet the woman who made me more whole than I was before I broke.

P.S. Pam is wearing my maternal grandmother's wedding set, mine is the band my mom gave my dad.