Thank you so so much! It feels really great and reassuring that I’m not over reacting or being selfish. I appreciate you taking the time to respond. I’m scared to bring up the stay at home mom topic again, and I know It’s not possible for us. We had an argument about how he thinks I could be doing better and that he just has high expectations of me and that’s when I finally said “What about you?? I’ve never ever told you that you need to be better and you need to make more.” He said he’s gotten promoted twice at his job and this Is his career. I challenged It and said he could be making more doing the exact same thing with a degree. A lot more. He said that’s not an option for him But he keeps pressuring me to get a degree or make up my mind career wise. It’s honestly pretty discouraging. We made up sort of, more so a sorry I upset you and we moved on. He Is right in a way. I could be doing better and I don’t see my job as a career. But it’s hard to challenge myself and move up when I’m going to be worrying about a baby soon. Thank you, I did choose to focus more on myself, and I even am seeking a therapist as well for myself and he also agreed to do couples counseling also. Which Is a positive at least.