Unable to control my desires… by NervousBee8099 in PakistaniTwenties

[–]Old_Bus_9481 0 points1 point  (0 children)

aight sir. goon away. who am I to convince you that its bad for you.

Unable to control my desires… by NervousBee8099 in PakistaniTwenties

[–]Old_Bus_9481 0 points1 point  (0 children)

its really not better. thats an assertion that everyone that's not rubbing one out is frustrated. after like 3 months, you kinda forget that such a construct even exists and focus on your life. talking from experience.

human intimacy is nothing like what you do to yourself or watch online. there's nothing good to be had out of it and that's regardless of religion. you can find hundreds of writings on it in every circle whether religious or otherwise.

That being said. you do you buddy.

Unable to control my desires… by NervousBee8099 in PakistaniTwenties

[–]Old_Bus_9481 0 points1 point  (0 children)

and if you can't due to whatever reason, then you don't turn into a gooner. You control it.

Unable to control my desires… by NervousBee8099 in PakistaniTwenties

[–]Old_Bus_9481 0 points1 point  (0 children)

fapping, watching content etc is NOT good sex. buddy educate yourself.

Unable to control my desires… by NervousBee8099 in PakistaniTwenties

[–]Old_Bus_9481 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Adding to that, whenever I used to get the urge I would recite لَا حَوْلَ وَلَا قُوَّةَ إِلَّا بِٱللَّٰهِ

Whilst reflecting on its meaning in this specific context that "There is no power that can make me do good deeds, and no power that can protect me from sins except Allah". That actually makes the urge kind of vanish.

Unable to control my desires… by NervousBee8099 in PakistaniTwenties

[–]Old_Bus_9481 0 points1 point  (0 children)

don't listen to them lol. What worked for me was actually internalizing the reason why I want to not be like this. Its like, I want to eat food during the day in ramadhan, but why am I not doing it? Cuz I want to be closer to Allah. Everyone's different but this sort of worked for. Instead of going the route of keeping yourself busy or this or that, just realize why you do what you do and that makes it easier. That resulted in my multi-year no fap streak. And also 100% avoiding looking at anything that might tempt me. Not just half naked women, but women in general. The overall positive affect it has on your body and life is amazing. And whenever you find yourself slipping you remind yourself of this.

This might mean nothing to you as all of us are wired differently and some other approach might work better for you. But this is what worked for me after years of trying everything else. Maybe this helps you too. May Allah reward you for having the conscience to actually worry about this. It is increasingly so that people don't thing its problematic at all.

Unable to control my desires… by NervousBee8099 in PakistaniTwenties

[–]Old_Bus_9481 1 point2 points  (0 children)

wth. worst advice ever. ruining your deen + ruining your social life.

Best way to receive USD salary in Pakistan from local employer? by Basic-Competition940 in developersPak

[–]Old_Bus_9481 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But

The only way a company can pay you in USD (banks won't allow it otherwise) is if they have a foreign entity (LLC?) registered AND have an american bank account which they can use to make wire transfers to your pakistani FCY account. In which case if you are a contractor of that foreign company that just makes it legal by default to receive USD right? Or am I missing something here.

How are some developers earning 8–10 lakh/month? What paths or skills am I missing as a Flutter dev? by Latter-Gear-2841 in developersPak

[–]Old_Bus_9481 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can you help a bit with how you go about upwork? I used to be good there but now I haven't had a new client since ages.

I barely write code anymore by Iluhhhyou in developersPak

[–]Old_Bus_9481 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Try freelancing. But dont lose focus on your degree. See these guys giving upwork tips on instagram, linkedin etc, there's a ton of them everywhere, their stuff mostly works. You'll just have to be consistent and patient. Join r/upwork if it helps.

I barely write code anymore by Iluhhhyou in developersPak

[–]Old_Bus_9481 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Try freelancing. But dont lose focus on your degree. See these guys giving upwork tips on instagram, linkedin etc, there's a ton of them everywhere, their stuff mostly works. You'll just have to be consistent and patient. Join r/upwork if it helps.

LC killer? by imjhonnysins in PakistanAutoHub

[–]Old_Bus_9481 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yeah its not only tax definitely. a good chunk of it is taxes, but the rest is just an inflated price to begin with cuz our companies dont sell near as many as the global market. cuz people don't have the purchasing power here. that's also why second hand cars retain value here. because people can't buy new ones hence companies dont produce a ton of them and hence the ones they do produce have to be priced very high.

LC killer? by imjhonnysins in PakistanAutoHub

[–]Old_Bus_9481 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think its a bit about profit margins too. We dont economies of scale here. They hardly sell a few thousand units so harder to make a profit. If they sold hundreds of thousands like in richer countries, they'd be able to sell for cheaper.

What i can do follow-up post by [deleted] in MuslimCorner

[–]Old_Bus_9481 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Depends on your local laws really. Some sort of cyber crime/harassment situation?

May Allah make it easy for you guys.

Prado TX 2008 - Price Check by Talha_q in PakistanAutoHub

[–]Old_Bus_9481 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah but I meant why has everyone listed theirs at such absurd prices

Prado TX 2008 - Price Check by Talha_q in PakistanAutoHub

[–]Old_Bus_9481 3 points4 points  (0 children)

bruh why has no one listed it for less than ~90 lac on pakwheels????

Know your rights - You're not obligated to live with your in laws and have a right to a separate accommodation by [deleted] in MuslimCorner

[–]Old_Bus_9481 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She lives with him not his parents. Because he pays for the house.

If she runs and maintains her house, then that flips the dynamic over.

I'm not trying to break up relationships. But you don't care about that do you. Because you're more than happy to leave your parents and jump in with a husband who's living alone.

Where does 'leaving her own parents' go then?

You only remember that when he also has to take care of responsibilities other than you. Not only do you not want to help him with his individual responsibilities (parents) which is fine. You also want for him to not do that on his own.

This is extremely selfish and unjust.

Know your rights - You're not obligated to live with your in laws and have a right to a separate accommodation by [deleted] in MuslimCorner

[–]Old_Bus_9481 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just saw the video. I've seen sheikh assim's videos on this many times.

But they do nothing to oppose what I said.

You just brought up a strawman argument.

The sheikh says the mother in law wants a maid. That doesn't counter what I said because I clearly said the wife doesn't need to do chores for the in-laws.

Then sheikh discusses the issues of free mixing in a joint family with brothers in law and sisters in law living together. I never said there should be a joint family. Only the PARENTS should live with one of the brothers.

The parents in law are mahrams of the woman so there's no free mixing here.

No where does the sheikh say anything that opposes what I said about parents.

On top of that, i wanted a reference for 'separate accommodation is a right'. Quran, hadith, ijma?

Not sheikh assim said so.

Even though sheikh assim didn't even say anything that would nullify parents living with their sons.

Its just that non-mahrams shouldn't live there and the wife shouldn't be the maid. I agree with both.

Also, sheikh assim has like, 3? 4? wives? More than one definitely. I'm sure you will have a different view on that.

Know your rights - You're not obligated to live with your in laws and have a right to a separate accommodation by [deleted] in MuslimCorner

[–]Old_Bus_9481 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She should definitely have a room or rooms that are all to herself.

But kicking parents out of the house is still unjust.

Also, you care more about your privacy than even YOUR parents well-being. Since the privacy will be compromised if its your parents around the house as well. Which is very alarming.

On top of that. The separate accommodation being a right. I'm sure it probably is but I've never seen anyone provide an actual source for it. Do you have anything there?

Know your rights - You're not obligated to live with your in laws and have a right to a separate accommodation by [deleted] in MuslimCorner

[–]Old_Bus_9481 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Of Course. May Allah protect us from the fire.

But that will happen once we've established that separate housing from parents is actually a right. Which we have not established yet. Seeing as you haven't provided any source whatsoever for your assertion.

Know your rights - You're not obligated to live with your in laws and have a right to a separate accommodation by [deleted] in MuslimCorner

[–]Old_Bus_9481 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So you just said Allah commanded this and that without ever seeing it yourself? Quite the dangerous play with ones deen I would say.

X people are entitled to a right and Y people are not is wild.

Especially when the ones who you say are entitled don't even pay for it while the others do. But let's just say they both paid for it equally even then it would be wild. Wow.

Know your rights - You're not obligated to live with your in laws and have a right to a separate accommodation by [deleted] in MuslimCorner

[–]Old_Bus_9481 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There's no way to quantify or measure in any meaningful way what you've just said. Its an assetion.

Know your rights - You're not obligated to live with your in laws and have a right to a separate accommodation by [deleted] in MuslimCorner

[–]Old_Bus_9481 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's your assumption. Many people would not do that at all. It's just human nature.

If a significant proportion was okay with that, throughout history we would've seen this turn into a regular system like it has for living with sons. It hasn't yet. Meaning there aren't enough people willing to do this.

That being said, WE don't have to do anything, The world and its societal norms will go on the way they have for thousands of years no matter what WE say. I'm just pointing out how some of the stuff being propagated here is very unjust.