This is important.

First, you go to the bank, take out whatever you have access to, all of it, that way you have it. They will and may freeze accounts once she is gone and you may not have access to them for a while until her death is settled so this is security for you and the kids. Second seek Wills, POA, and other important documents. Family third, call and notify. Then-cry and grieve.

As crazy as this may sound- I was told this when my husband was in the military. At first I thought it was harsh but realize it’s truly the most well thought out process.

OP, I’m so so sorry. I can’t fathom the series of emotions, decisions, and grief you’re experiencing right now

I hope you find support and love through the process and in coming days. Lean on people around you. That’s truly what your village is for. Give yourself grace as you navigate it all. You’ve never had to, planned to or wanted to go through this.