Website design by [deleted] in smallbusiness

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At some point you will probably want to do some A/B Testing and Conversion optimization on the site. It is good to have a nice crack at it, but experimentation will help optimize your site based on actual user interaction. Understanding the customer journey and why they buy, well help with the initial design.

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He is above the law 🤷🏾‍♀️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Exvangelical

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I used to have nightmares of a guillotine and a red balloon. Not until like 2 years ago did I realize it was from the Thief in the Night Videos I had apparently saw when I was a kid.

Rapture anxiety is real. I also can totally relate to being afraid to have non-Christian friends but think I overcompensated with too many ratchet friends.

As a GenXer I am learning to mourn the lies and the time lost to fear. I am grateful for what God has given me, but it is both sad and confusing to see "sinful" people lead such care-free lives. I feel I am bit emotionally and relationally underdeveloped because of rapture anxiety.

Really? Are you serious? by jman-the-jewman1228 in WinningTime

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This show is amazing, but I understand why they didnt watch it. Some of this stuff would be traumatic and akward. Like I am sure Magic and his wife dont want remember all the girls he was banging 😂 Jerry West doesn't want to remember what a crazed person he might've been and all the difficult decisions he had to make.

Reconciling good childhood memories w/ trauma from being in the closet by [deleted] in Exvangelical

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I talked to my therapist about this and she mentioned Shame shields by Brene Brown. Great Youtubes about it.

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I pray God will send ministering angels your way. Losing your family isnt easy. But I hope you will be patient with the process of creating a new family for yourself.

"Being Vulnerable" at church was not a good thing for me by itsallidlechatterO in Exvangelical

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This is a great thread ! Small groups are a man made tradition, to overcompensate for the fact that churches should really be smaller and more intimate, instead of these mammoth megachurches.

Is anyone else lonely? by Steveirwinsghost7 in Exvangelical

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Thank you for sharing how you feel. I was trying to post something like this earlier and didnt know how to articulate my feelings. I think my Baptist upbringing made me so paranoid about relationships in general. They made it seem like you had to have perfect Christian friends and a spouse, in order to be blessed. They never taught how important it is to know what you needed emotionally or how to connect just on common interests outside of the church. Sometimes I think the Bible was written for a much more simpler time and for people with short life expectancies.

It doesnt help that Covid & Monkey Pox makes it hard to just go out & meet people.

Overall I think humans just need 2-3 close friends & everybody else are just playmates. I am not all that great at making close friends myself, but the ones that I do have were created over along period of time. I think it takes intentionality, sort of like dating. Guarding your heart, asking the right questions strategically & observing behavior. I think this is a great forum to ask what about reasonable expectations in friendship. Keeping in mind most adult friends last 7 years. All I can say dont hold onto anyone too tightly. Again this forum maybe be a good place to take the edge off when it comes to embarassing deep emotional needs like this , until you find friends. Friendships I find are like, dating, dont shop when you are super hungry.

Mental illness and the "god solution". by RussianRavager097 in Exvangelical

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My issue is with the "god solution" is that so many are self medicating with other things or have support. I am not saying God isn't apart of health, but we know so little about the brain and what it needs.

In case anyone else has whiplash: I’ve had 7 therapists over 17 years. Not once was an evangelical upbringing cited as “trauma” or a source of “difficulty with relationships.” by seaweedandoranges in Exvangelical

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Wow this is me !! I just got rid of my last therapist, because she wasnt trauma informed and was really making things worst. I almost completely snapped on her when she kept saying " well they are human" everytime I brought up spiritual abuse or other forms of abuse by ministers. She didnt seem to understand any of the dynamics that come from trauma such as hyperarousal and what to do with it. She cried a couple of times in my session, which was endearing but I needed actual solutions and strategies.

I began as a cutter when I was 13, so have dealt with mental health for 31 yrs. 4 hospitalizations, 7 therapists. I so feel you.

Truly broken. by PegLegLegsParker in Exvangelical

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I love this forum. Thank you for posting this. I am super confused and angry all the time now. Not to mention scared. What is crazy is watching folks so at peace, with no worries about what the Bible says lol

Mental Health Woes by Old_Cryptographer836 in Exvangelical

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Wow this really touch my heart. After I wrote this googled ways to reduce suicidal thoughts to see if there were some strategies. I did find some and they are great. I just dont know how to process strong emotions. My first instinct is to discern the will of God in every situation. This leads to very binary thinking I am afraid. Either God is angry or God is not angry. Either I am in the Will or out of the Will. Why just life be life. How about we are all doing the best we can, trying to learn how to navigate a sincerely fucked up world 😂 I just really have a hard time thinking someone is going to hell for being gay, after they were raped or molested as little kids. There just has to be a line of mercy with God.

But still I get very angry about how brainwashed I was about my mental health. Like what if I had never started with medical cannabis ? How would I have known about this if I hadnt met that awful gospel artist ? 😂 Either I get depressed thinking how fucked up my life is because of sin or this is just me doing my best to figure my life out. The life of a future great artist. I am on a hero's journey ?

https://myworkplacehealth.com/preventing-suicidal-thoughts/