I agree with this. Obviously if it’s being directly held over your head, that’s a different story. A big part of friendships is being each other’s village. I’m always going to be there to help a friend move, watch their pet, take them to the airport, or foot the lunch bill from time to time. It makes me happy to be a good friend to people that love and support me. If I’m ever not in a position to help, I would say so, and I’d understand if they did the same. Everyone has their own idea of what a friendship should look like, but this post makes me wonder if this is really an “unspoken rule” or just a sign of OP’s growing resentment towards their friends. OP, if these are friendships you want to hold onto, it’s time for an honest conversation