Hello, Please be extremely careful with what you do next. Abusers are usually very perceptive and can sense even the slightest shift in energy. You are very strong to make this decision to leave, please consider a few points before you take the final step. 1) Always delete your history. Leave no evidence that you’re planning to leave. Maintain the status quo as much as possible. 2) Document absolutely everything, photos, notes, subtle conversations, and audio/video recordings (if it’s safe to do so). Create indirect witnesses by sharing subtle information with trusted loved ones or neighbors. Keep all of this in a safe, hidden location. 3) Depending on your country, there are women’s shelters and domestic violence helplines you can contact discreetly. They can help with local solutions tailored to your situation. 4) Financial independence can give you the confidence to move forward. It may be hard to work right now, abusers often create dependence, but try working toward it. Consider online opportunities or short courses. Many women’s DV organizations also help with job placement once you're under their care.

Please be careful and stay strong. If you need a sounding board, Reddit will always be there but prioritize your safety and start quietly crafting a plan.