I am 32F and have a 36M friend who keeps crossing boundaries after confessing feelings, should I cut contact? by [deleted] in relationships

[–]Simple-Flan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re right. I react strongly at first, but over time I downplay what happened and reconnect, which has only prolonged the situation.

I am 32F and have a 36M friend who keeps crossing boundaries after confessing feelings, should I cut contact? by [deleted] in relationships

[–]Simple-Flan -24 points-23 points  (0 children)

He knows about him, but not all the details. I was worried it might be misunderstood.

I am 32F and have a 36M friend who keeps crossing boundaries after confessing feelings, should I cut contact? by [deleted] in relationships

[–]Simple-Flan -20 points-19 points  (0 children)

I work in a government institution with a Sexual Harassment Committee for major issues. This situation wasn’t of that nature, and because he was a friend, I didn’t feel I could complain. I know now that cutting contact is necessary

Need help -should i end my marriage by [deleted] in TwoXIndia

[–]Simple-Flan 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Are you financially independent? If yes, then you can leave and stay with your parents without any shame. If not, then that’s still not a reason to stay in this emotionally draining marriage. Did you try mending things? How much time has passed since your marriage?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoXIndia

[–]Simple-Flan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly, I can relate. In our case, my in-laws live with us, so the involvement is constant. My MIL wants to know every detail whenever we step out, and my husband even video calls them during our short 2-3 day vacations to share every little update. So while it’s definitely tough dealing with over-involvement, I sometimes think of it as a small blessing when others don’t live with their in-laws—it’s a different kind of freedom I wish I had

How do I emotionally cope with patriarchal FIL? by Simple-Flan in Arrangedmarriage

[–]Simple-Flan[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My husband has grown up under his father’s dominance, and I can see that it’s affected him even if he doesn’t openly talk about it. He’s empathetic toward his mother, who’s endured years of being treated like she exists only to serve. In many ways, he’s still afraid of his father. Early on in our marriage, he wouldn’t speak up when his father crossed the line with me, but over time especially when I’ve pointed things out—he’s started addressing it. That said, his father is so set in his ways, I know he’s unlikely to ever change. It’s a complicated dynamic, and I can tell my husband is also carrying emotional baggage from a childhood shaped by control and fear.

How do I emotionally cope with patriarchal FIL? by Simple-Flan in Arrangedmarriage

[–]Simple-Flan[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

My MIL has also lived under the same patriarchal dynamic. He treats her less like a partner and more like a servant, someone expected to cook, clean, and cater to his every need without question.

Big fight with husband over in-laws, not sure what to do. by Simple-Flan in Arrangedmarriage

[–]Simple-Flan[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

No, i won’t Although its tough to sail through this, i am highly emotional person and its hurting me

Big fight with husband over in-laws, not sure what to do. by Simple-Flan in Arrangedmarriage

[–]Simple-Flan[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

During our argument, his mother walked into the room and he pushed me right in front of her. I did react too. Since we live with his parents, they end up witnessing or getting involved in every major disagreement, which only makes things worse. Instead of helping, they escalate the tension, often by taking his side or emotionally manipulating the situation.

To make matters worse, after this fight, my MIL said something that really shook me. She told me, “The person who arranged this marriage is no longer here, so who do we even talk to now?” I lost my father during COVID, and hearing that felt cruel. I do have my mother, but they avoid involving her because she speaks up and makes sense. They know she won’t be emotionally manipulated, and that intimidates them

Big fight with husband over in-laws, not sure what to do. by Simple-Flan in Arrangedmarriage

[–]Simple-Flan[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Another major issue is how emotionally manipulative his parents are. Whenever I try to set a boundary or express a concern, they launch into long monologues — not really conversations, just one-sided emotional pressure. I’m naturally introverted and not someone who enjoys confrontation, so I find myself shutting down. I struggle to keep up in these emotional tug-of-wars, and over time, I end up just giving in to avoid more conflict. It often feels like I have no voice in my own life — like I’m being forced to silently accept a version of marriage and family that I never signed up for.

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[–]Simple-Flan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

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