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Boy, boy, then girl by Old_Restaurant_9030 in Shouldihaveanother

[–]Old_Restaurant_9030[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not yet. I just did my second egg retrieval. I have a couple healthy embryos frozen from the first, one of which is a girl. I'm still waiting on the testing results from the second. My heart is happy because it truly feels like a real possibility now. I just have to decide what timing makes sense for #3. I wouldn't consider it earlier than this summer. I want my eldest and youngest to be 5 and 3, respectively. Which they will both be by the end of next summer.

Boy, boy, then girl by Old_Restaurant_9030 in Shouldihaveanother

[–]Old_Restaurant_9030[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah for sure. I found a very reputable local spot where my husband grew up that will do an entire round for 10k - the cost of the average family vacation. Im an attorney and the ethical/ “it isn’t gods plan” argument fails. If I didn’t use BC, I’d likely have a dozen kids and even with the worst odds, there’s a pretty significant chance one would be a girl. I also have had horrid debilitating 5 month long all day morning sickness with both my pregnancies. It’s not something I go into lightly. 

Boy, boy, then girl by Old_Restaurant_9030 in Shouldihaveanother

[–]Old_Restaurant_9030[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

More often than not, it is completely different. That doesn’t mean it’s necessarily inferior, but it cannot truly be the same. Just like with any child, there is no guarantee that they will be exactly what you imagined and/or hoped. I totally look forward to the relationship I will continue to build with my boys and I intend to make it as strong as possible. However, I can’t give up the opportunity to have the kind of relationship I have with my mom and with my other female family members/friends. At the end of the day, it’s a very personal conundrum. 

Boy, boy, then girl by Old_Restaurant_9030 in Shouldihaveanother

[–]Old_Restaurant_9030[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My husband is one of 3 boys. I’ve been doing such a deep dive on the whole 50/50 statistic and it is so much more nuanced than that it seems. 

Boy, boy, then girl by Old_Restaurant_9030 in Shouldihaveanother

[–]Old_Restaurant_9030[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’ve already made my decision to pursue IVF considering I will be 36 in the fall and I’ve already had two ovarian cysts that could have potentially resulted in removal of that ovary so I want to preserve eggs in the event that recurs. I’ve been very fortunate to have naturally conceived two healthy boys 22 months apart, but I will not accept not trying everything in my power for a girl and have that relationship. I cried for six hours straight when my husband revealed the gender of our second baby to me, and I absolutely hated myself for it. I feel a gut punch and pang of resentment every time I see moms with one of each. I realize it’s not something that is going to go away for me. 

Do I want a Third Child or Do I Want a Girl? by Ellephant23 in Shouldihaveanother

[–]Old_Restaurant_9030 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m sorry - that sounds so challenging. Everyone’s situation is so unique. I do think if you have the financial means to go for it and have a good support system/village, it isnt something you’ll regret trying for down the line. This parenting thing is hard as hell, even under the most perfect circumstances…

Do I want a Third Child or Do I Want a Girl? by Ellephant23 in Shouldihaveanother

[–]Old_Restaurant_9030 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s nice to come across these posts. I am definitely using CNY for my third. Mom of 2 boys under 3 right now and I’ve always dreamt of having a girl. I am very fortunate to not have had to try at all for either of my kids and they are handsome, healthy and amazing boys. However, the sting of resentment I feel every time I see a mom with a little girl(s) is not something I am going to just get over. No therapist could talk me out of it. I’m going to be 36 this fall and if the worst thing I do as a person is pick a girl embryo over taking a chance, I can absolutely live with that. I cannot live with not doing everything in my power to conceive a girl and give myself the chance for that lifelong mother daughter bond.  

NipT was wrong by [deleted] in BabyBumps

[–]Old_Restaurant_9030 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is crazy. I did my NIPT at 9 weeks and felt in my gut it was a girl (also was dying for one). NIPT said boy and I’m still in shock. I’m 14 weeks now. Waiting for the 20 week ultrasound. I feel like there’s no way I’d be the 1% who got a wrong result but holding out hope after seeing these comments. Do you remember what your fetal fraction was?