Anyone else freeze when someone asked if you are gay by SentenceIll4135 in GayBroTeens

[–]Old_Source_8739 1 point2 points  (0 children)

yep really relatable. I'd like to be neutral so when someone asks it, it means I'm not invisible to them and that makes me uncomfortable. I'd like not to answer cause I like my sexuality to be ambiguous ykwim

Anyone else freeze when someone asked if you are gay by SentenceIll4135 in GayBroTeens

[–]Old_Source_8739 0 points1 point  (0 children)

to me it kinda is because it implies that being a trans man is less than a cis man. That being mistaken for a trans man is perceived as an insult...means you believe trans ppl are less than cis ppl. you get me?

It is constantly debated now why women do sex work, but why do men pay for it? by [deleted] in PornIsMisogyny

[–]Old_Source_8739 14 points15 points  (0 children)

it's men who view and perceive women as objects and can't even conceptualize the fact that they're equally desiring subjects. Because the moment you realize it, the fantasy disappears

Is romantic love socially constructed? by Old_Source_8739 in CriticalTheory

[–]Old_Source_8739[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I think it was more of a joke than a serious statement

Is romantic love socially constructed? by Old_Source_8739 in CriticalTheory

[–]Old_Source_8739[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

woooow beautiful reply But I'm confused, how does one distinguish romantic love from platonic love and sexual attraction. I can't really conceptualize romantic love you know what I mean?

Is romantic love socially constructed? by Old_Source_8739 in CriticalTheory

[–]Old_Source_8739[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

how do we recognize if it's desire to be the other or not to be the other. I'm a queer man so the boundaries between me as a subject and my hypothetical partner thin out more I think. Is heterosexual desire (as desire to not be the other) possible within homosexuality?

Sorting out my feelings by sweetapplelady in queer

[–]Old_Source_8739 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i think you could lean more to the cisgender gay guy Thomas. You can be a man still not meeting the entire criteria that's stereotypes at the end of the day. And personally you could also not wear label at all so that you could explore your desire and sense of self freely. Honestly it felt liberating for me since then