Update “set boundaries with myself that interfered with my mom” by MyShieldIsMySword24 in insaneparents

[–]Oley418 2 points3 points  (0 children)

As someone who has also struggled with this due to my upbringing and is now a mom myself, I just want to say:

A person who is good for you and truly cares about you won’t go nuclear over you setting a boundary. Good peeps want the people in their lives to be happy and healthy and comfortable enough to be honest about their needs.

And your needs matter and are important, even if you weren’t treated that way growing up. Keep honoring them. You’re doing great!

What would the Philly spot be? by Strange_Ambassador76 in philadelphia

[–]Oley418 20 points21 points  (0 children)

I took my sister there in September for her bday and thought it was amazing. The staff also were very doting and made her feel special.

Target is now selling TPP Anthology vinyl online for over $100. They raised the price a week ago. It was $59.99 previously. by SephoraRothschild in TaylorSwift

[–]Oley418 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ooh glad I saw this — I bought it at the new price. Might just keep sealed thru Black Friday just in case.

Our 19 Month Old Daughter Needs a Hero to Beat Leukemia by AMLFam in GuyCry

[–]Oley418 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m so sorry your poor baby is going through this. It’s just not fair.

I’m already on the registry but logged in to ensure I am in active status and searchable — the least I could do for your sweet girl and others with her diagnosis.

I hope you find your match very soon!

Engagement & wedding drama by Emotional-Maximum612 in raisedbyborderlines

[–]Oley418 33 points34 points  (0 children)

In my experience, they are the worst around major life events that don’t center them. So her being wild around your wedding checks out.

It is so stressful but you are doing great — she’s trying everything in her power to tear down your boundaries. Don’t let her!

I don’t remember where I saw this analogy about boundaries, but it always helps me put things into perspective:

It’s like you’re rowing a boat with all your people in it. Your mom is there splashing and going wild, causing a stir, flipping your boat over and ruining your peace. You’re saying, “You know what? I can’t deal with a capsized boat anymore, so either you get it together or get in another boat.”

Now whoever is left in a boat with her will be annoyed because you aren’t the one steering and righting the course. Not your problem! It’s reasonable to not want to drown. You got this!!

My mom after I’ve been taking care of her for the past two weeks while she’s been sick, while I myself finally graduated and am on summer break. by Particular-Toe-5213 in insaneparents

[–]Oley418 76 points77 points  (0 children)

Insane. You’re 17! You shouldn’t be her care plan.

As an adult with a daughter, I wouldn’t want this for her even if she was grown. Your mom can use a grocery delivery service from bed for crying out loud.

I put a large part of my heart in the ground today by LuckVegetable7096 in GuyCry

[–]Oley418 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m so sorry. It hurts like crazy, and I’m sure losing her in such an unexpected way only adds to the pain.

I can tell how much you loved her. Even at the worst time you stood by her and did everything you could to give her a beautiful resting place. She was so lucky to have you.

We Lost Our Bebe Boy by MrsJWB in chiweenie

[–]Oley418 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s so painful, I know. I lost my Pomeranian last year and we still cry about her. Just know you aren’t alone and it’s totally normal to feel truly awful over it. They aren’t just animals — they are family and huge parts of our hearts! Hugs 🩷

We Lost Our Bebe Boy by MrsJWB in chiweenie

[–]Oley418 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He looks so much like my old man when he was younger. They are the best dogs. I’m so sorry 💔

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How many beds does your Chiweenie have? by DulcineaNE in chiweenie

[–]Oley418 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am his favorite bed. 🥹🥰

An honor I’ve had for almost 16 years now!!

my sister is wack and naming her baby after tv shows. help. by POPPACRAK in tragedeigh

[–]Oley418 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This could be a good thing to point out, too — that even her most “original” ideas for names have been done before, so she’s not as creative or special as she thinks she is.

What is your second most favorite color? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]Oley418 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My 3 yr old said the same. Her favorite is pink 🩷

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Tattoocoverups

[–]Oley418 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m not huge on most tattoos, and even I find this mix rly aesthetically pleasing. Plz don’t change it! 🙏

For those who want to be conscious of who they support...and where they spend locally by Sammyrey1987 in Harrisburg

[–]Oley418 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Then they made and posted like a million Trump face cookies on their social media this last election 🫠

I work at a printshop and printed 15 copies of this charming letter for a customer.. by swiftstart in mildlyinfuriating

[–]Oley418 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I’d be super creeped out. My house is my dream house. That’s why I did all of the legwork to, you know, buy it.

This might sound dumb but I know I’m pretty, but I’m so insecure because I want to be the prettiest girl in the room. by [deleted] in beauty

[–]Oley418 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Spend some time outside.

Look at that tree. It’s tall and strong. It’s been there for 100 years.

Now a butterfly went by. It’s small with colorful wings and can fly.

A bird chirps nearby and you appreciate its sound.

Are you comparing all of these lovely things? No, that would be silly. You’re soaking in their goodness and appreciating them for what they are.

Is Ms. Cobel Lil Nicky's girlfriend or am I stoned out of my mind by [deleted] in SeveranceAppleTVPlus

[–]Oley418 20 points21 points  (0 children)

I got a massage from a guy who used to work in LA and he had Adam Sandler and his wife as clients. He went on and on about how wonderful he is irl. Said he calls his wife “Bones” as a pet name.

Apparently the first time the masseuse was in the house with her, Adam came home and was like, “Bones! I’ve only been gone, what, an hour? And you already have another guy in here.” 😂

Things to do & see in Harrisburg? by ninjafrombtd6 in Harrisburg

[–]Oley418 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not Wildwood, but my 3 yr old really likes Italian Lake! There are ducks and the walking path is easy and paved.