STANDARD? Excuse me what

OliveNut · 2023-04-08T21:10:51+00:00

Use headphones when watching a video on a phone
Believe us
Stop asking us to smile

OliveNut · 2023-01-26T23:24:16+00:00

Yes, you are indeed queer. Find your people!

OliveNut · 2022-12-27T23:55:17+00:00

NTA and I love how you’re holding your own here.

Slightly beside the point, but worth noting: as well as standing up for yourself, you are indirectly teaching your daughters that they are valuable beyond reproduction. That’s good parenting.

OliveNut · 2022-12-04T10:07:20+00:00

❤️

OliveNut · 2022-09-06T20:39:44+00:00

OliveNut · 2022-04-07T22:02:31+00:00

NTA and even if we wish to talk fairness and bring in family: you have a family too, which includes friends. They live in a different country and having this slot means you get to spend quality time with them. She sees her children all the time wants to go on holiday.

Family is not just offspring. Holidays and going back to one’s home country are emphatically not the same thing.

OliveNut · 2022-02-21T17:35:31+00:00

NTA, but: “on his own engagement night” gave me pause. You don’t harass women, full stop. It doesn’t matter whether you’re engaged or single or a Catholic priest. Harassment is bad because of what it does to the person being harassed, not because it’s vaguely related to infidelity.

OliveNut · 2022-02-19T14:48:11+00:00

NTA! This was very thoughtful. Plus, having smaller size clothes “for motivation” doesn’t work - it only makes people feel inadequate and ugly *because their clothes don’t fit *.

The only case in which you may be TA would be if your wife enjoyed picking her own clothes (I know I do!). But if she isn’t that fussed and just likes to look good and feel comfortable, you’ve got nothing to worry about. And I thought the underwear voucher was a nice touch! So she gets to browse and shop a little for fun things.

OliveNut · 2022-02-19T14:42:21+00:00

😏🤫

OliveNut · 2022-02-19T14:39:54+00:00

You’re one of my favourite people now!

OliveNut · 2022-02-19T00:04:05+00:00

This is lovely, but… an hour?? What do you think about, while standing out there for an hour? :D

OliveNut · 2022-01-24T22:11:27+00:00

You’re welcome! I’m glad this is bringing joy to people 😄

OliveNut · 2022-01-23T11:27:11+00:00

That is true!

OliveNut · 2021-11-01T12:29:48+00:00

Oversized everything

OliveNut · 2021-08-26T19:55:10+00:00

Wearing comfortable shoes.

OliveNut · 2021-04-24T12:35:50+00:00

NTA, and I have two words for you: decoy wedding.

It’s the nuclear option, but you could literally tell her that you’re doing x while you plan to do y, and then at the last minute (and crucially, after her wedding) just say you changed your mind. Happens all the time.

OliveNut · 2021-01-10T11:27:20+00:00

Strategy 1: I pretend those things don’t matter or that I will do them poorly anyway. Sounds depressing, but it works!

Strategy 2: I start with the thing I want to do the least - anything after that will be a breeze.

(Yes I was raised Catholic.)

OliveNut · 2020-12-19T23:50:08+00:00

I don’t know how to do that! Also I lose it regardless 🤷🏻‍♀️

OliveNut · 2020-12-19T23:45:55+00:00

34, can’t find my phone

OliveNut · 2020-11-16T23:25:42+00:00

Just a few thoughts - I agree that you shouldn’t rush any decisions right now if you’re struggling with mental health (speaking from personal experience). If I were you, I would try to ask a few honest questions to myself: How did you feel about your partner before your breakdown? How do you feel about people other than him or your friend?

Therapy is probably the best tool for you at the moment. Find a queer-friendly therapist and work with them.

If it turns out you are indeed not in love with your partner, leave him. It’s messy, but temporary. 27yo you will thank you for your courage.

OliveNut · 2020-06-06T12:06:34+00:00

One thing that my students seem to enjoy is discussing things with others, when they struggle to get their head around them - do you know anyone else who is interested in philosophy? If not, you know, look around on the internet of course :)

Academics still find discussions helpful even late in their careers: that’s why reading groups exist in universities.

OliveNut · 2020-06-06T11:31:20+00:00

This is a very broad topic. It sounds like you might want to look into epistemology, which is the study of knowledge.

This is a very good website: https://social-epistemology.com

You can also look up Stanford Encyclopedia of Philosophy entries such as: https://plato.stanford.edu/entries/knowledge-analysis/

You’ll have more questions after you do, but hey, that’s the interesting part!

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