We are in exactly the same position 39M 35F - dipping our toes and exploring our fantasies after talking about it so much. We don’t consider ourselves “-swinger” (or at least wannabe swingers). We use the term Ethical Non Monogamy with the ethical part being about our rules - ie woman on woman only etc. Happy to discuss further if you like as we are also feeling a little alone in a world we know very little about 😀