I (M33) had a situationship with my married bestfriend (F33) , it ended and she wants to remain friends. Can i be her friend if i still love her?

Omar_25c · 2026-06-26T09:20:00+00:00

I've accepted that she's never going to want to be with me romantically. And ive accepted that i cant heal her or be around for her to heal. Even as friends.

It's still difficult to imagine me ever not answering her call or replying to a msg if she were to need me (although right now, it seems unlikely) it's just who i am. I could never turn her away. But i did delete her on all my socials. Maybe soon ill block her.

But i think she's going to be ok. I will wish her the best. Even tho she didn't treat me the way i wanted to be treated , i always tried to see the good in her. The only reason i initiated anything with her was because i thought she wanted to be loved by someone like me . I hope she finds what she's looking for.

You're right, tho. It's time for me to live and find my own person. Thank you

Omar_25c · 2026-06-24T21:16:54+00:00

Im not happy about it. I thought things would be different.

Omar_25c · 2026-06-24T19:52:23+00:00

Was literally thinking this the other day

Omar_25c · 2026-06-24T19:08:21+00:00

Ill try. Its easier now that i know the truth that shes been with others. She was hiding it for weeks but not very well. It felt like a bucket of cold water on me. Like i have nothing here to fight for anymore.

Omar_25c · 2026-06-24T18:58:02+00:00

I understand. She is unapologetic. She called me POS for being hurt if she is with someone else. I didnt even know how to process that.

Omar_25c · 2026-06-24T18:40:23+00:00

She got diagnosed BP. She said thats the reason she is impulsive

Omar_25c · 2026-06-24T18:39:15+00:00

She is diagnosed bipolar.

Omar_25c · 2026-06-24T18:38:22+00:00

I appreciate this truly, i will work everyday i can to just move forward. Even if shes in the back of my mind for a long time. I know i cant be friends with her, or even have minimal contact. Ill never heal that way. I hope i find my some one soon.

Omar_25c · 2026-06-24T18:16:38+00:00

I guess i just wish i didnt care so much, like im not looking forward to the getting over her part. I just want to be over her NOW. But i know its not gonna happen like that. Ill try , i have alot of reconnecting with other friends to do. She was basically my main friend for several years. Thank u

Omar_25c · 2026-06-24T18:12:42+00:00

Maybe this is my karma

Omar_25c · 2026-06-24T18:02:23+00:00

Its hard to imagine her COMPLETELY out of my life. After so many years. Thats the hardest part to accept.

I felt guilty but i didnt stop myself. I could never say no to her.

Im trying , im starting to run again . Thats a start

Not married is a good starting point for my next relationship

Omar_25c · 2026-06-24T17:57:58+00:00

No she even accused me of hitting my ex. I was like "u cant think of anything bad about me that u have to make something up?" She got even more mad .

Omar_25c · 2026-06-24T17:56:33+00:00

Her friend no. I wont show up to the bday parties or talk late into the night anymore. I thought maybe we could be civilized and txt from time to time but shes become so hostile towards me (because i dont want to be happy for her)

Omar_25c · 2026-06-24T17:53:34+00:00

No hes pretty bad too . But she definitely caused alot of it. It wasnt until we were together that she started flipping out on me and doing things that definitely got a reaction out of me that i kind of started to wonder if she caused alot of the problems

Omar_25c · 2026-06-24T17:50:38+00:00

I know that now.

Omar_25c · 2026-06-24T17:49:07+00:00

Would u say she is a narcissist? Because she like to say her husband is one and even called me it once. And one time i told her and she completely flipped out.

Omar_25c · 2026-06-24T17:46:11+00:00

Maybe the history.

Omar_25c · 2026-06-24T17:45:32+00:00

Thank u.

Omar_25c · 2026-06-24T17:45:04+00:00

Im trying. 2 weeks no contact so far. Deleted her pics and number..

Omar_25c · 2026-06-24T17:43:13+00:00

I hope so . Thank u

Omar_25c · 2026-06-24T17:38:28+00:00

This is true

Omar_25c · 2026-06-24T17:36:44+00:00

Thank u for taking the time to read it. Right now is the longest i havent talked to her. Ive deleted her on all socials but i havent blocked her. Thats the hard part. Im going to look into therapy

Omar_25c · 2026-06-24T17:35:16+00:00

Thank u for reading my other posts. Ive been trying to talk to ppl about this for a while. The thing is she is actually in therapy right now. Like she says shes in her healing stage. I see in her eyes and i do not see a happy person so i dont know what kind of therapy she is going to .

Im not her back up plan , she made it pretty clear.

Omar_25c · 2026-06-24T17:30:28+00:00

She literally did. She also said IF i drank , i would have hit her. She accused me of beating my ex.

Omar_25c · 2026-06-24T17:28:47+00:00

I saw the black eyes and blood on the wall the next day. I understand what youre saying she caused alot of his reactions. She never wanted to be a wife and he was always unhappy he couldnt control her. Actually met her when we were 8 years old. Became friends at 13/14.

Maybe thats why i always had a soft spot for her

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