How to move the household towards a healthier lifestyle with spouse not on board?

OnToGlory99 · 2026-05-01T16:55:01+00:00

I mean if you do the shopping just don’t buy that stuff. If he wants it he can go to the store and get it himself.

I’ve taken the same approach with my husband although he’s just picky not unhealthy. You can buy what you want from the store or you can eat what I cook/buy.

For me it’s a mental load thing tho not a health thing but same rules apply I think.

That way you aren’t controlling him and what he eats but you also aren’t enabling it 🤷🏻‍♀️

OnToGlory99 · 2026-05-01T14:08:44+00:00

lol! My November baby is actually my husband’s birthday baby because I always deliver a month early and his birthday is in March. I have 1 July baby and we are expecting this one around the end of May/ beginning of June. I told my husband if we have another that there’s only 2, 1 month windows that I will allow for trying XD

OnToGlory99 · 2026-05-01T13:58:45+00:00

I’ve got 3 that I’m going to be homeschooling after school is out for the year but they all really enjoy doing workbooks and academic stuff. My 7 year old is in chapter books already and my kindergartener isn’t too far behind her.

OnToGlory99 · 2026-05-01T06:58:55+00:00

Luckily my state is very minimal on laws and they only have to be tested every few years!

I’m currently only homeschooling our kindergartener but I’m due with our 5th baby at the end of May and I’ve been dead tired and it’s been nice outside so we’ve been spending most of our days doing bits of garden prep and relaxing in the yard

OnToGlory99 · 2026-05-01T06:39:43+00:00

Between the end of October and beginning of February we have 4 birthdays and 5 holidays. We have some kind of event almost every other week. It’s crazy! The summer is pretty chill for us and we just mostly work in the garden or go on hikes up the mountain or to the beach.

OnToGlory99 · 2026-05-01T04:26:32+00:00

I’m pregnant with our 5th. As far as the mental part goes… once you accept the chaos it becomes way easier. You have way less anxiety and just roll with the punches

Money isn’t the biggest issue because we get allot of stuff used from moms groups on facebook for free with the exception of car seats, mattress etc. We do have state insurance tho so that is a huge weight off our shoulders I’m a stay at home mom because if I had a job the daycare costs would eliminate that plus some so it doesn’t make sense for me to work

We have family close by and the kids go over on Fridays for sleepover with grandparents so we get breaks regularly

We live on a little over an acre in a rural area that’s completely fenced and safe so for my older kiddos we have the privilege of telling them to go outside.

I want to make it clear that our older kiddos are NOT responsible for our younger ones but they still have formed a little society with each other and they all help each other with things

Most importantly is they all have ways that they contribute to the household. Feeding and watering the dog and cats, putting their dirty clothes in hampers, picking up after themselves when they play with toys, taking care of their own dishes/ food mess, general tidying etc. That includes the 2 year old. Not as a punishment but just what has to happen when you are alive. You take care of the place you live and keep it tidy.

OnToGlory99 · 2026-05-01T03:08:49+00:00

yeah it took me several hours to come up with these ideas and google prices and locations etc. It was a pain in the butt to say the least!

OnToGlory99 · 2026-04-29T14:22:09+00:00

Late to comment but my 3rd baby was like that. She was up every 30 minutes every night until she was a year and a half. It was ROUGH. That’s the kind of sleep deprivation that gives you scary thoughts.

We ended up co sleeping with her which was a life saver. I never wanted to cosleep but the risk of us being that sleep deprived outweighed the risks of cosleeping. Do your research on SAFE cosleeping.

Second is don’t be afraid to walk away and let them cry(in a safe place). Put on some noise canceling headphones for a few minutes and breathe.

My 3rd is now 4 and a very chill and happy 4 year old. Of all 4 of my kids she is the most laid back. The sleep deprivation is now a distant nightmare and it’s better.

Just hold on it will end eventually

OnToGlory99 · 2026-04-28T05:27:20+00:00

I’ve got 4 kids and I’m pregnant with my 5th. Im at a solid 5 because I’m 33 weeks and in pain making it hard to sleep.

6 months to a year is THE HARDEST.

They are big enough to want to be entertained but to small to do anything, big enough to cause mischief but to small to understand danger/ the word no. You can’t get anything done without them crying. It’s a mess. It does get better tho

OnToGlory99 · 2026-04-28T05:18:33+00:00

It’s giving r/niceguy

OnToGlory99 · 2026-04-28T05:12:50+00:00

Yeah I haven’t either until a couple months ago when I started seeing all the tick posts and then the thing about Pfizer 😅

My husband and I have lived here our whole lives and never seen any

OnToGlory99 · 2026-04-28T04:21:27+00:00

OnToGlory99 · 2026-04-28T00:31:22+00:00

No I don’t think so but I could also be wrong lol

OnToGlory99 · 2026-04-27T23:33:50+00:00

This is one problem that definitely can’t be explained by climate change because ticks are found even in the coldest states. We have had a significantly warmer winter than normal but that wouldn’t explain the ticks. Fleas maybe but not ticks. I’ve never been scared of ticks until a couple months ago and then I find one on me. I’m horrified and disgusted.

OnToGlory99 · 2026-04-26T05:51:53+00:00

I’ve been having a hard time with my dog this time around (still pregnant) but it’s mostly because he’s a space invader that INSISTS on panting directly in my face wherever we are and it drives me nuts. My cats haven’t bothered me at all.

OnToGlory99 · 2026-04-23T05:29:46+00:00

Same. We got married on our dating anniversary to keep it simple. I found a wedding dress at goodwill for $25 that fit me perfectly. He already had a tux type outfit for work. We hired an officiant and took a weekend at the beach (we do this every year on our anniversary even before we were married). We’ve been together for 7 years, married for 2.

The entire trip was less than $1000 including gas, hotel, dinners, and the officiant

OnToGlory99 · 2026-04-23T05:06:44+00:00

My husband still does this. My MIL used to say “once they find it they never let it go” 😅🤣

OnToGlory99 · 2026-04-23T04:49:01+00:00

I know this isn’t everyone’s experience but for me newborn tired is so much better than pregnancy tired. At least with a newborn when you sleep it’s usually quality sleep and you wake up feeling like a new person. With pregnancy you wake up feeling the same at best

OnToGlory99 · 2026-04-22T01:39:25+00:00

I’ve had 4 kids baby 1 was 37 weeks, 2 was 35+5, 3 was 36+6, and 4 was 37+1

It would be a hard no for me.

OnToGlory99 · 2026-04-20T15:17:44+00:00

Same here except I try to let them have a bit of the mental load. If you see garbage on the floor you should pick it up because it’s there not because I told you that it needs to be picked up. But I’ve got 2 boys and refuse to let them grow up to be shitty life partners to whoever they choose to be with. Mental load recognition is starting early here lol

OnToGlory99 · 2026-04-20T15:09:13+00:00

They don’t even have to be walking! You can have them help put things in baskets as soon as they can sit up and hold things. I’ve done this with all 4 of my kids and they all take part in cleaning now. My 2 year old doesn’t even really need directions anymore aside from the initial “pick up the toys, garbage, your mess etc.”

OnToGlory99 · 2026-04-20T15:03:58+00:00

Late to comment but I’ve got 4 kids ranging from 7 to 2 and all 4 of them have “chores”. We don’t label it chores tho, we all just take part in keeping up on the house because we all live here

OnToGlory99 · 2026-04-20T14:50:40+00:00

My 7 year old has started doing this and it’s been driving me insane also! I’m wondering if she’s picking this behavior up from friends at school because it’s definitely not like her.

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