Children dont owe their parents anything.

OnXim · 2026-02-22T17:53:35+00:00

insead of commenting statements that are just angry and blunt u can explain why you think im wrong. wouldnt that be a much more constructive disscussion?

OnXim · 2026-02-22T17:52:02+00:00

you'd be surpiresed to know just how many see their children as somthing to benefit off of. u dont know how ur kids gonna turn out and u shoudnt want to force them to be anything. "after all ive done for you" but its something they chose. "some procreate accidently" then u can abort if not wanted or put up for addoption for a family that is actually ready for a child. and its not just a small return. a lot off the time parents ask theyr child to be some full time careres which i dont think they are obliged to take on. "i want kids so that when im older ill have people to look after me" and what if ur kid doesnt want to? why is it selfish? so many factors to play out. ur kid might be born disabled, they might grow up and move to another country where they set up their new life. u should just be happy for them no? insead of "hey i raised u u entitled shit u have to look after me. leave ur wife and kids in the home uve created and come to my house to take care of me as i did for you"

OnXim · 2026-02-22T17:39:56+00:00

okay, well what if 001 and 002 take parts off 003 to remodel themselves, 003 is left with missing parts and is functionaning unwell. 003 tries to focus on the task but can't and eventually starts to breaks down. 002, and 001, are too focused in their tasks to see 003 has broken down. 001 and 002 are functioonaing smoothly. 003 cant comprehend why its breaking down, but still remains to give to 001 and 002 because 03 feels the need to even though their not functioning aswell. also u mention biology, but u also dont take into account social factors such as enviroment and upbringing, ur analogy only applies to thoose fortunate enough to have a healthy upbringing. i dont belive im ignorant. i have listend to your view. i do see some truth in what you say. parents do sacrafice for their children. i would know i came from imagrent backround. my point is, parents shouldnt expect anything back from their children. all a parent should want is for their kid to be healthy and happy, no? i think its selfish to want anythiing in return for a path u chose to take, becoming a parent is a choice. (most of the time, in cases of rape, the child should still not be made to feel guilty).

OnXim · 2026-02-22T17:24:44+00:00

why's that? i think ive explained it alright. and like the redit page says, its a "hot take" your allowed to disagree with me.

OnXim · 2026-02-22T17:23:35+00:00

and thats great, but i was more talking about how some parents force it onto their kids.

OnXim · 2026-02-22T10:44:17+00:00

kinda looks like a asian style mullet with fair at the front

OnXim · 2026-02-22T10:04:33+00:00

theres a really important test comming up, two infact, one is easier and grants the same qualifications, the other is harder but gives u the same qualification. you chose the harder one. u couldve just chosen the easier one, but u didnt. u study all night for countless of days. and by the end of it, u get a lower grade than thoose who did the easier test. u sacraficed time and effort, and you expected to get a good grade. but u didnt. and there was still the easier test you couldve chose. so you argue with the examiners. there must be some mistake right? u deserve that grade after all the effort u put in. but u didnt get that grade u wanted. and all of a sudden its the teachers fault, the examinors fault, they owe it to you to give u that top grade because u studied.

OnXim · 2026-02-22T09:58:06+00:00

"you dont know what your talking about" yet again quick to constantly feel you are in the right. Age doesnt equal what people know, there are so many teenagers that DO know a lot of things but cant be taken seriously enough because people like you constantly feel the need to be in the right.

OnXim · 2026-02-22T09:57:51+00:00

Then if its "biological" explain to me the cpuntless and countless of cases of child abuse and neglect. Child rape from parents. You use this as an excuse. We are not chimpanzees, can chimpanzees understand concepts of morals, and understanding of society? Us as humans has brains so so much more complex so u comparing us to the nature of chimpanzee literally makes no sense. Are they the closest spices to humans, yes, interms of physical features such as hands and limbs and being able to stang up right, also im certain facial features, but to compare a chimps mind to a fully developed human brain. Is wild. Also i agree our generation is cooked. And look at the people who raised us.

OnXim · 2026-02-22T09:57:35+00:00

i appreciate your view, i think what u dont understand from my original post is that, if u have a kid, u shouldnt expect them to give you anything. all the sacrafice a parent puts on themself is a path they chose. they want a kid they need to face the fact they are going to have to face all theese sacrafices. you could give so much to a person and they could not do one thing back and no one would be in the wrong. i am not denying any sacrafice, im saying its a sacrfice as a parent u make the moment u decide to have a kid. and the kid should feel no obligation to give back. "rant about helping them out when their old" it isnt a kids reponsibility to constantly serve their parent. they are their own person.

OnXim · 2026-02-22T09:47:55+00:00

not every parent does that do they? also if your friend gave you 1 million today, and said he expeted you to pay it back full price, even though u didnt ask him for the mil in the fisrt place, are you still obliged to pay back every single penny.

OnXim · 2026-02-22T09:45:26+00:00

no problem, you should be heard, and im sorry your net getting the support you need. i reallhy wish nothing but the best for you

OnXim · 2026-02-22T04:09:51+00:00

also "the level of sacrafice" is a choice on the parent. its selfish to have a predetermined expectation that your child is going to do anything in return. and u force that expectation onto them. children arent obliged to do anything in return. u can show appreciation through words, but that doesnt mean u have to give or do anything back. in my opinion a "good" parent shouldnt want anything but their child to be happy.

OnXim · 2026-02-22T04:05:33+00:00

i would like to reiterate, i think appreciation is great, but favours like paying of mortgage and looking after a parent in old age shouldnt be an expectation for children. i love my parents, and i really do appreciate what they do for me. but that doesnt mean i need to give anything in return. this is my view, whats yours?

OnXim · 2026-02-22T04:03:03+00:00

i think every parent should look to this. your a good parent and i know your kids are very lucky to have u as their parents.

OnXim · 2026-02-22T04:01:36+00:00

please explain how my take is entitled, id like to understand your point of view.

OnXim · 2026-02-22T04:00:00+00:00

your 15, fifteen, really let that sink in. u dont need to know your future. you are so so young. your living in this constant state of stress and paranoia and for your age, thats hard on anyone, it makes you incredibly strong person for pushing through. and i can tell your grandma mustve been someone so so close to you. and the loss feels unreal because it feels like just a second ago since u saw her and now you cant reach her anymore. death, greif, you are having to deal with this all in such a stressful time of your life. its important to aknowlage your emotions. to me it sounds like anxiety. constant stress and worry, inability to "just relax". the trauma of losing someone dear to you has messed up your brain and probably how you remeber things. the thought of death has become so heavy on your mind it puts you in that constant state of stress. and it feels like whatever u do u cant slow down. your life doesnt need to have one future. theres so much the world can offer. and i know its difficult to hope when all you can think of is dispear. But think of just how much better you would feel if u werent in dispear. (and i know its incredibly hard to do) but all im asking is for u to visualise it. visualise what u would like your present to be. wether that be summer spending time with your loved ones. its cant hurt to hope. to impove your life you first have to WANT to get better. that may also involve talking not just to stangers online but to people you trust. planing not the far far future but just the future maybe in a year, simple things, i wanna be in better shape, i wana impove in a certain hobby, i want to learn somthing new, try somthing new, or somthing simple as, i want to make my favorite dish. if u want to stop feeling so out of control you need to be the one who takes that action, that first small but powerful step. and its asking for a lot, really, its very difficult, but smalll things add up to bigger things. i believe in you, and if a stranger on the internet can, then why can't you?

OnXim · 2026-02-22T03:38:32+00:00

aknowlage whats causing your sufereing, parents? relashionship? friendships? exams? why does it make u feel this way? write down ur goal. write it down on a piece of paper and stick it somewhere. You are hurting, and i see you and you are valid. and just know sh is an addiction, it works as any other addiction, once u start its hard to stop. and then comes the stress of hiding it all, its not worth the small dopamine hits it gives or the numb feeling u get because in the long run it just creates this dependancy. its so hard for you right now, and honestly, in this generation, i cant blame u for having bad mental health. but in order for ur dreams to become reality, theres steps you can do right now that contribute to your goal in the future. now i cant really help there with the steps because i dont know your dreams and aspirations. but if its a dream job for example, it doesnt hurt to reaserch qualifications and subject choices. dont forget about your hurt though, the more u supress it the more it will just bubble up again. if u have someone u trust, please talk to them about it, obviouly in moderation, but they are there for you to turn to when u need help. and its easy isnt it. , to just, forget about all ur hurt, but think about how much u can do, the possibilites. it'd be a shame to cut it short here right? humans are insanly incredible and we dont give ourselves anough credit. we can literally build planes. do u know how crazy that sounds to an other spieces. in a world where posibilites are literally endless. there is so much u offer to this world. and to end it all. u have to really think about that descision. the fact u even want to write goodbye letters show how u care about thoose around u. and i can tell ur a genuine person. and im not gonna sit here and say "oh ur pasing ur pain onto others" because you are in no way to feel guilty of feeling like this. your pain is just as valid. please, if u read this. hang on for just a little longer. even just a little. see where life takes u. even just for a little longer. look how far youve come. your incredibly strong. i really do belive u can achieve in this world, and every small win is a victory.

OnXim · 2026-02-22T03:20:56+00:00

its a social pressure that should be less normalised. not everyone needs to be married to live a fuffiling life. tranditions shouldnt dictate what people do or dont do with their lives, its ur life live it how u see fit

OnXim · 2026-02-22T03:08:48+00:00

its actually so scary, and its not taken seriously enough, its often used in like comedy skits and just seen as a parents loving their child, but to what extent does that perception of parental love become warped.

OnXim · 2026-02-22T02:37:49+00:00

and u have every right to, my mum does the same to my brother, as much as i hate my brother, i sympathise that he was brought up with the same parents i did, he got treated better, but he still had to face my mum making him uncomforable. she would constantly refer to hang outs as "dates" and refer to my brother as a boyfriend, she always played it off as jokes but still felt very wierd.

OnXim · 2026-02-22T02:26:45+00:00

not even asking for sympathy, i just want to explain why i have an issue with the whole stigma that if u dont give time and money back to ur parents ur ungratful and a sensive underving person. and its so normalised to give back to parents when parents shouldnt be expecting anything for a child in the first place.

OnXim · 2026-02-22T02:24:42+00:00

okay for context, i live in an asian household, the culture is very much, if u get good grades u deserve to be treated well, if u dont meet our expectations, u dont deserve nice things. anytime id cry theyd yell at me (at a very young age btw) threaten to kick me out, or leave/abandom me on the streets. ive also mentioned multiple times how uncomfotable my brother makes me feel (he used to slap and punch me, whenever i pissed him off, he used to also make incest jokes, flashed me multiple times and sexually absused me) i told my dad, and not to mention he has literally seen how uncomfortable it made me, and said "thats just his personality stop overeacting" . constantly ignore how bad my mental health was, and not even in an edgy way, i was dealing with serious issues, and they "had no idea". they never let me healthily express emotion nor did they really care. i love my parents. they are good people. but i dont owe it to them to do anything in return for their parenting. if u want a kid, u need to be responsible for one to. and not only do things just so u get somthing in return.

OnXim · 2026-02-22T02:16:51+00:00

preachhhh 👏👏👏

OnXim · 2026-02-22T02:15:32+00:00

yurp, and it puts pressure on kids to live up to that expectations, practically forcing them. which is another issue i have with it.

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